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[jodieanneanton]

Ask away!

[writermama12]

I know you work. What do you do for a living? Are you planning to return after ML, or stay at home for a while with the new one?

[jodieanneanton]

How old is your daughter and how do you think she will take to having a new sibling?

What is your favorite dessert?  (Sorry, I could really go for some chocolate right now, so it's on my mind!)

[delilahbeau]

Originally Posted by writermama12 

I know you work. What do you do for a living? Are you planning to return after ML, or stay at home for a while with the new one?

I am a purchasing assistant for Veolia Water, it is a great job and my boss is wonderful. She has three kids of her own and three by marriage so she is the real life Brady bunch!
I do plan on returning back to work but I get to work from home 3 days out od the week. I am very excited!!

[delilahbeau]

Originally Posted by jodieanneanton 

How old is your daughter and how do you think she will take to having a new sibling?

What is your favorite dessert?  (Sorry, I could really go for some chocolate right now, so it's on my mind!)

My DS doesn't live with us but he is 8 and could really care less, lol, my DD is 5 and she is over the moon. I have made it alot about her and how I will need her help so I think that has helped. I've also been letting her pick things out like nursery colors and some clothes. She is very proud and cant wait for Maddax to see what she had helped do.

My favorite desserts are oldies but goodies, pot de creme with raspberries or pomegranates, and creme brulee. I was a chef for a few years so these are some of my favorites to make and share as well.

[delilahbeau]

I am responding from my phone so forgive typos pretty please

[chocolatechip]

How did you meet your partner? What kinds of things do you like to do for fun together?

[babytoes]

What are your plans for this birth? Hospital, birth center, home birth? And what effect has your previous births had on your goals for this one?

[delilahbeau]

Originally Posted by chocolatechip 

How did you meet your partner? What kinds of things do you like to do for fun together?

 We are both recovering alcoholics, and we met in a meeting. At the time we were both going to a militant AA meeting, and were discouraged to cultivate a relationship in our first year of sobriety, and when I say discourage, I mean we were told we were not going to to date...LOL. As I said the group was very strict, but at the time it was something that I think we both needed. We both had hit really bad bottoms, and the desire to get better was stronger then any thing else at the time. 

I was living with my best friend from High School, and her husband who ended up being My DH's sponsor/mentor. My DH would come over for dinner and to hang out, which gave us the opportunity to get to know each other outside of the meeting. At first he would not even look at me, which of course intrigued me, but what got me the most was what kind of father he was. He would bring his son over and the love that he had for him was so great it almost oozed out of him. He told me that he was dedicated to his recovery because of his son, his family, and himself. I got the opportunity over the next year to watch this faulted, selfish man grow into a confident, insanely humane person. It was a great priviledge and honor. I of course had tons of issues to work on myself, but for the first time in a long time I felt as if I had something else to offer another.

We of course did not wait the whole year....so on some level our relationship was hidden, which I am sure added to spice but eventually we had a sufficent amount of sobriety and were given the go ahead by both of our sponsors. We have been inseparable ever since. He makes me laugh every day, and when I say laugh, I mean deep, belly laughs. The kind of laughs that bring you to tears. He is also one of the most compassionate man that I have ever met willing to help others all the time. He also thinks I am beautiful and tends to tell me when I need to hear the most.

I still pinch myself, from where I came from to the wonderful life I have now..........sometimes it feels like a dream.

As far as was what we like to do.....we both love playing softball and play in a pretty competive league together, which is a blast. We also coach our son's baseball team and work with both of our kids on how to play the game. We love to snuggle and watch TV together, one of our favorite guilty pleasures is watching The Big Bang Theory. And as funny as it sounds, we love to speak at treatment centers together. We love to go and share our stories of recovery with others that are suffering and try to give them hope. It is reaffirming, and even though I have heard his story tons' of times, it still amazing to hear about the man he used to be and to know the man that he is today.

Edited by delilahbeau - 12/17/12 at 12:37pm

[babytoes]

I love your story of how you and your DH got together... How very perfect! 

My sisters ex husband is a horrendous alcoholic, they had 2 kids together ages 23 and 25 now, and boy do those kids suffer because of their dads inability to get better (and he's hit rock bottom a few times, admitted into the ER from extreme internal bleeding, but he can't ever seem to get better). I love hearing about the success stories, and I am so proud of you for getting better! I have been watching first hand how devastating this disease is, and kudos to you for deciding to get better 

[delilahbeau]

Originally Posted by babytoes 

What are your plans for this birth? Hospital, birth center, home birth? And what effect has your previous births had on your goals for this one?

My last birth, I had planned on having a natural birth, unfortunately 3 weeks from our due date we realized that my placenta had stopped working and my little girl was essentially starving. They immediately began to induce me because they of course wanted me to go into labor to help with her little lungs and hearing. When my water finally broke and I went into active labor 5 days later DD did not respond well at all. We decided to do a cesarean.

So because of that my plan for this birth is to VBAC. I am giving birth at hospital, even though I would love to attempt a home birth but everyone I have met has advised against, especially with as far out as I live. I am about 30 mins in good weather from town. So I am doing everything I can as natural as possible. My OB is on board with all my decision so far and has told me that she will support me unless we run into an emergency like the last time. We shall see....I really want to experience giving birth vs cesarean but as long as I have a healthy baby, I will be ok.

[delilahbeau]

@babytoes...thank you, we work very hard because we know our lives and our kid's life depend on it. I don't ever want to go back to that life and the great thing about today is I don't ever have to! Recovery is possible.

[jodieanneanton]

delilahbeau- I feel like I could respond to your and your DH story with a novel, but I don't have time.  So I will respond to that later.  But for now, another question:

What is your favorite part about being a mother?  

What type of personalities do your kids have?

[delilahbeau]

My favorite part of being a mother is watching my kids learn things. I love when Delilah yearns to know thing and when she practices until she understands. It amazes me. I love watching my kids do things for the first time, as well. I just love them to death, period.

Delilah is extremely independent, very intelligent, and strong willed. Her red hair suits her to a tee! She is physically very coordinator which causes her to be a daredevil, it seems like nothing scares her. She has a great laugh.

Cody yearns for a lot a attention and is always doing cute things to get you to watch he is doing. He has ADHD, which does cause some issues, but he has such a huge heart and really does want to please everyone it actually helps him with his ADHD. He is very physically coordinated as well so he loves sports and picks things up very easily. He got a phone call from a little girl the other day....he is such a cutie I knew that we would run into this soon but not at 8! aaaaaaaaaahhhhhh!!

Edited by delilahbeau - 12/17/12 at 6:43pm

[cocoanib]

Hi Delilahbeau!

How's this pregnancy treating you? Any differences between how you feel this time around and your other pregnancy?

[chocolatechip]

delilah, that is an amazing story about how you met. I am impressed with both of you for turning your lives around, and it sounds like you are making wonderful lives for your kids!

[veganyogamomma]

Wonderful to read along so far - I love the story about you and DH. So happy that you've both come so far and it's obvious that he brings you so much joy.

Where is your favorite place that you've travelled? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you want to go?

[delilahbeau]

Originally Posted by veganyogamomma 

Wonderful to read along so far - I love the story about you and DH. So happy that you've both come so far and it's obvious that he brings you so much joy.
Where is your favorite place that you've travelled? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you want to go?

My favorite trip was a 4 week trip to Costa Rica. I went with a friend, who's family is from there and who had a house in San Jose. We traveled up both coast lines staying in little towns along the way, we also at the Tabacon Resort on the Arenal Volcano, and at a little place in a jungle that I cannot remember right now. We surfed, swam, hiked and met so many wonderful people. The people were wonderful in general, so kind and friendly. We also met several people from Norway, Sweden, and Germany. It was an amazing experience. 

Oh my that is such a tough question....I would love to travel the world so it's hard to narrow it down, but for fun.....Australia to swim, hike and surf. Europe simply because there are so many countries there that have so much history. I would start in Spain, then France, onto Germany and then Italy. Then my third pick would be Norway because that is where my family is from and I would love to meet some extended family.

Edited by delilahbeau - 12/18/12 at 7:24pm

[delilahbeau]

Originally Posted by cocoanib 

Hi Delilahbeau!

How's this pregnancy treating you? Any differences between how you feel this time around and your other pregnancy?

This is a wonderful pregnancy. I've had no morning sickness, no real funky side effects except being tired of course, but all in all I have really enjoyed being pregnant! There was a couple of weeks that I was sick that really took it out of me but even that is that pretty minimal.

With my first pregnancy I was a chef so I was on my feet all day, which made for very swollen feet and ankles, but I was really lucky that I did not have morning sickness with Delilah either or too bad of a smell aversion. I do remember that at about 3 months pregnant my arms started falling asleep at night, it would hurt so bad that I would have to get up and walk around swinging my arms to try and get the pins and needles to go away. This went on till about 5 months, it was pretty awful but once it went away the rest of the pregnancy was not too bad. I can say that I was so busy the first time around that I didn't feel Delilah move as much as little Maddax does, with this pregnancy I have enjoyed feeling her move all around. Even if she does kick so hard I feel like I might wet my pants, LOL!

[JennJenn84]

What was you first reaction when you got your BFP?