Thanks everybody. We actually live within an hour of the Mayo Clinic and they called about an hour after we got home to tell me that they happened to have an appt open up tomorrow at 8:15. The only thing is DH can't come because we have no one else available to watch DD and I just can't handle her being there tomorrow. Plus she had to be stuck at the clinic with me for 4 hours today.
Weekly Chat ~ Dec 17 - Dec 23 - Page 2
so my u/s was good and they found out im having a boyyy :D YAY :D altho they couldnt measure the legs so i have to have another in 3 weeks (alto at least thats bettter then fortnightly like i have been having) i had social workers and matron round this morning talking about extra care for me and the baby when the babys born.. i can have extra help before its born aswell if i like.. but im just not sure if i want that much of an impact on my life.. its nice to know everyones being supportive tho.. i still have barely any tummy lol which is annoying me as i dont look preg atall and im half way tommorrrrrow!! community matron and social worker couldnt believe how far along i was.. even when i tell people im preg they cant see the bump.. altho my boobs are huge.. Also had a builder come round to do the quote for the wet room.. and yesterday i had some friends round for a christmassy get together which was lovely and my friends daughter katie was being sooo clingy with me.. shes so sweet.. altho exhausting. Im going away on sat, and im NOWHERE neaer ready for christmas.. need to get ready.. not enough time.. argh.. *puts head in a bush and waits there for life to be less stressful*
Anyway cant complain really, im exhausted but im happy to know i ahve a little boy inside my belly :)
I had a U/S today too as they were too close together to find both HBs and though it is a little early for her to be 100% sure (I'm 17w5d) she is pretty sure A is a girl and B is a boy, but said not to buy anything yet! I hope so, it's what I want DH is funny because he's like, well everyone else will be so excited we're having a boy, but he doesn't really care honestly, just wants to know because he is impatient. Other than that, just got some laundry done last night and not much else, may wrap some presents tonight, we'll see! I've got to get my presents for my siblings & parents wrapped before Sunday as that is when I will see them to give them to them (my nephew and soon-to-be-Godson's baptism is on Sunday) and I don't want to wait until Saturday to do it.
Congrats everyone on the big reveals (or maybe reveals in your case Quinalla)! It's making me wish we'd found out, but overall I'm still happy with our decision to wait.
Today's moving day #1 - vacated the apartment, got our ridiculous luggage to the airport, got through security etc. The bags I packed were 48 and 49 pounds respectively! When I travel I *never* check luggage and neither does DH - he spent a summer in Cambridge UK and took only a duffel bag - so I was all stressed out about packing these huge suitcases, taxi instead of mass transit, checking them, etc. But, no problems in the end. Security was ridiculous - 4 carryons, 3 laptops, 2 ipads, yes, and a partridge in a pear tree. :D In our huge winter coats on the way to Florida because lord knows they weren't going IN the luggage!
We'll be visiting in Florida until the 31st, then it's moving day #2 to Germany on the 1st, when we'll do the luggage thing all over again ... minus some stuff left at parents' house, plus some stuff given as gifts ... hopefully minimal, I really wanted to tell people "if you love me PLEASE NO GIFTS THIS YEAR" but that's just not how my family works!
Busy weeks for everyone!
Bailey, I have been thinking about you since reading your post yesterday, and pray your scan went/goes well today. I'm glad you were able to get in so soon and not have to wait a week. Please let us know how things go.
Steph, sounds like you have been busy this week. A new wet room will be nice. It's nice to have things moving along before babe comes. And CONGRATS on your little boy! I was like you when I was pg with DS. No tummy at 20 weeks, although my regular pants weren't comfortable to wear, and I could see the difference, no one else could tell I was pg and I got the same kind of comments as you. Give it another 3 weeks or so and you will see a change, probably over night!
Katie, wow, boy/girl twins sounds awesome. My plan is to start wrapping gifts tonight as well.
Marie, I know how you feel. Even though I am glad we are keeping gender a surprise seeing others gender reveals makes me want to know too!! It's like having to wait until Easter to open up a Christmas gift just sitting there under the tree...but so worth it once you do open it! I had a scan on Monday again (they had trouble getting some measurements the week before because babe was uncooperative) and I was tempted to look or ask to see bc DH wasn't with me and well, "he would never know"...but of course, I didn't really want to know...
Well, I am sick, DS is sick, and I am sick of work. I am SO glad that tomorrow is my LAST DAY FOR THE YEAR!! I just want to sleep for about a week. lol. I was at work yesterday morning, then went home in the afternoon to sleep. Had a terrible sleep two nights in a row partly because I'm all congested and coughy, and partly because DS only wants mama when he's sick and he was waking lots too. This morning I stayed home with DS and DH went into work (he's too sick to go to dayhome), and I'm going to head home early after a meeting this afternoon and DH is going to go into work and stay late. Not the relaxing lead up to Christmas I was hoping for, but I am thankful that we both had the flexibility to be home with DS when he needed us to be, and also thankful that DS is sick this week and not last as I just don't know how I would have managed any time at home with him. Fingers crossed DH doesn't get sick and DS and I get well soon. On a positive note, I did get a giant batch of Sauce au Sucre a la Creme done last night (it's a french caramel sauce, wicked delish, and ridiculously easy to make) to give as gifts to a few of my co-workers and all of DHs. Thank goodness we hadn't decided on cookies, the Sucre a la Creme was 100 times easier, and looks so cute in the mason jars.
Quinella and Jacqueline (or n Stewart, silly brain) I really want to be able to let go and get prepared but I feel in limbo.. Until I get past about 22 weeks and there's a chance of survival if I did go into labour I just don't think I can chew lax about it.
Congrats ob everyone finding put the sex I'm do happy I'm having a lil boy .. I would've been content with a girl but I dunno I just had a feeling I wanted a boy.. Would be loved whatever..
Urg I'm feeling very poorly.. Breathless, palpatations.. On off temp and dizziness.. But worried really because buses quite remote hosp wise if something were to go wrong.. I'm Going to bed now to see if it helps.. Just want to feel better tbh quite fed up of this exhaustion.. I did expect it to be exhausting I just guess I'd like a bit of a break now please :P
Is everyone all ready for Xmas? I'm hoping I feel better tommorrow so I can get the last of my Xmas shopping done n finally feel prepared mentally for Cornwall./ hope the trip isn't too mental as a preg person .. Is anyone else hyper aware whilst travelling? I'm always really paranoid about crashing .. Lol I need to sort myself out getting neurotic ATM!!
Timesway, hope you are feeling better!
I am pretty wrecked today after a very productive but very emotional talk DH and I had last night. It was good, but also very hard mentally. Anyway, DD did well at her little concert, though I was getting pissed at the crowd of parents that were chatting up a storm while they were performing, I know they were quiet, but seriously, shut up! Anyway, we took her home early as she was getting cranky, tired & acting up, and she was sad about missing the "party" after (just some food and social time), but she went to bed right away which she rarely does, so she needed to sleep. She'll get to go to the lunch party after my nephew's baptism on Sunday, so that should make it better
As far as other stuff, I try to make sure to have a variety of toys available and then as they show preferences get them more of what they like best, but still keep the variety. My DD plays with lots of different toys and likes her dolls, her football, her stuffed animals, her cars, her books, etc. I try to make sure to go by her preferences and not what I think she should like, this can trip me up sometimes as she of course doesn't like all the same things I did as a kid.
One example at daycare that kind of surprised me, the main 2-3 year old room teacher was telling me as she gave my DD a sticker (they give them stickers for helping or to cheer them up or whatever) that they have to keep the princess/girly stickers away from some of the boys as their parents get mad if they get them. That made me sad and I made it my goal again to not impose stuff like that on my kids.
So I guess my overall goal is to have lots of options available, lots of colors, etc. but also to not feel bad if I'm feeling like dressing my girl in a poofy dress or any future boys in a little suit or whatever. And also to not freak out if my boy wants to wear a dress/sparkly shoes/etc., though I do know it might be hard if they wanted to go out of the house in one, but I want to not discourage it while also being mindful of how a boy might be made fun of for that. I know around the house I have zero problems with it, but I do worry about them getting made fun of outside, so yeah I dunno on that part of it. Anyway, kind of jumbled thoughts there, but yeah, it can be a tough subject.
I'll just post an update and then try to get back to read everyone's posts later today.
The u/s went better than the previous one. Baby still does for sure have Dandy Walker but she has about the best form you can get. She will be super high functioning and will be able to live a normal life, barring any major hydrocephalus that can occur before birth. Dandy Walker can/usually is associated with a lot of other congenital genetic disorders and it seems pretty certain that she has none of them, although we opted to wait until after she is born to do a full screening rather than risk an amniocentesis now. The other major thing is that she has the part of the brain that is called the corpus collasum, which is the part that lets the left and right side of the brain talk to each other. Some kids with Dandy Walker are also missing that part of the brain, too. They also said it was really good how active she is. Now I just have to deal with all these extra appts that are now almost an hour away. Thanks for thinking of me. I was going through my u/s pics from previous pregnancies lastnite and noticed how much a like all your girls have looked on u/s. So I will try to post those.
Bailey, It sounds like you were able to get some good answers at least. That's great news that the corpus collasum is there. I am sorry you have to travel an hour to appts now but it sounds like you will have a great team working for you and your little girl. I am not familiar with Dandy Walker so I will have to look that up.
Thanks. I have never heard of it before either. I guess it's ridiculously rare. The OB's I saw yesterday had to print stuff off of google to give me much info. It can range of people not knowing they have it until they have to have their head CT'd after a car accident or something to being almost a vegetable and on a feeding tube and have many health problems on top of it. It sounds like baby will be on better end of the spectrum but it is all wait and see.
Bailey I am glad that you were able to get some answers and that you have some reassurance that your daughter appears to be on the better end of the spectrum. Praying that is so.
Speaking of CT's I am feeling so thankful for my health today. I had a phone call with a good friend of mine last night. She's the same age as me with two littles (one just 2 days younger than DS) and found out yesterday that she has a massive tumor in her brain (like the size of a large egg). She was diagnosed with epilepsy 10 days ago and they did the CT as an extra check. She's scheduled for surgery in Jan, and thankfully they do not think the tumor is cancerous and that removing it will hopefully resolve the other major issues she's been having. Feeling so very blessed to be in good health.
TJ, gender neutral colors were easy for us because we didn't find out gender! So we bought a bunch of newborn sleepers in cream, yellow, etc. and did the nursery paint in white and a blue-green. If we had a girl we probably would have thrown some purple into the room, and with DS we added blue and brown. DS's clothes are "boy" clothes, I guess, but I generally try to buy plain (ie: no words or characters) clothing in a mix of colors just because I don't like commercialization for little kids so really his daily uniform would be jeans and a plain tshirt or long sleeved shirt, maybe with a plain zip up hoodie usually in a grey, green, brown, blue or black. I guess those are "boy" colors. He really is a "boy" and is obsessed with hockey and with construction equipment and his sandbox. Not due to any influence, he just is. He has a play kitchen, and I made a Waldorf doll for him, and I've purchased a buggy/cart for him for Christmas since he loves the stroller at parent and tot so much. Also, a lot of his toys are gender neutral (bee bop band in a box, scheilich animals (although the dinosaurs are his current favorite and I supose they have more of a "boy" tilt), play silks, balls, a bumble bee ride on toy (which he usually pretends is a zamboni for cleaning ice lol)...So I guess we'd fall into the category where I just want him to explore his interests whatever they are. Although I did buy the gender neutral stride bike, instead of the pink one that he wanted. I like to say it's because I wanted it to be used for more than one child and our next one may not like pink and that's partly true. But in truth I also wasn't sure about buying my little boy a pink bike because I didn't want him getting teased about it. Maybe that's bad on me, I don't know...
TJ, The gender topic is an interesting one. I personally believe in fairly traditional gender roles so I don't have a problem with classically boy or girl things. On the other hand I don't think it needs to be pushed too much either. I don't feel trapped as a woman, I think it's something special about me to be embraced. We have girls so we tend to have girl toys but all their friends are boys and they are happy to play with those too. We also have cars and legos but they love their baby dolls and just playing imaginary things together like princesses or cats and dogs most. I tried to decorate DDs room in blue and orange and for two years all I heard was that she wanted it to be pink. We're having a boy now and I am sure his sisters will have him playing dolls and princess with him. While I a sure there is some influence of societal pressures I think different kids just like different things some of which is based on gender and some is because of personality.
NStewart, I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I will pray that everything goes smoothly with the surgery and her recovery is speedy! What a hard thing to deal with, especially with little ones.
I am hoping I just did the last of my shopping for the year (yeah right.) I almost have myself convinced that if I get a produce box delivered and we eat a lot of brown rice and quinoa I won't have to go the the store until February. I wish! I am thankful that we are blessed to be able to get gifts and good food for our family but I don't want to shop any more!
DH has Thursday off of work but does some side work for FIL and has taken DD1 with him these last two weeks. I get to have one on one time with DD2 and it's so fun!