This has been a hot topic in our house lately. DS just turned one and it seems my whole family is like "so when are you planning for #2." It is so frustrating bc I feel like I am doing something wrong by feeling so unsure about when and if we will have another baby.
A little background......DS happened after "trying" to get preggo the first time. DH and I had only been married for a few weeks and did not have a long court ship. DH is 40, and 12 years older than me, which is why we didn't want to wait to long, and I was SO ready to be a Mama. Then DS was born at 28 weeks, more than 3 months early weighing in at 2 pounds and we spent 70 days in the NICU...Dr's can not explain why this happened so it is quite possible that it will happen again to me. It was VERY traumatic for me and honestly I don't think I have it in me to go through that experience again, I remember thinking that the only thing harder would be going through that experience with a toddler age kiddo. It would be terrible! I have been in therapdy for a while and suffer from PTSD, our NICU stay was terrible for a multitude of reasons. Anyway moral of the story is that I feel like we have worked very hard to have DS here with us today and we are happy to report he is happy, healthy, and just AMAZING
What I am struggiling with is "wow, this would be it for me?" It is going by to fast. I am a BABY PERSON. I adore it. Even the sleepless nights, and not being able to take a shower, it honestly doesn't bother me, I adore it and I am sad to see DS growing up in some ways. People joke with me that God gave me a preemie bc he knew I would want a baby longer. He is one now and still very much a baby, barely crawling, etc.
Also DS has siblings. My husband has two children ages 10 and 13, so he will have the experience of siblings. Obviously not quite the same as say a sib who is 2 or 3 years younger, but he will have special people in his life and people he can call and say Mom and Dad are driving me crazy.
Also I work part time as a nanny for a family of a 4 and 1 year old and it is tough. There mom, and myself included feel like I can't give both of the children the attention they need. They are both so needy (in a typical way) and I am just one person. There mother says all the time that she adored BOTH her children, but she know totally thinks that having an only is a good way to go, and probably would have been a better fit for their family.
Sorry this is so long, just wondering how you mama's made the tough decision to have another or not.