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[Chapsie]

Babytoes, great news!

Good luck with all the Christmas prep!

[jodieanneanton]

So glad, babytoes.  I have been thinking of you.

Chapsie.  I just watched the video of when I was in labor with DD2 and realized... Oh!  I am going to get THAT big?!?!  How? When? Yikes! :D

AFM-  I haven't been on much bc I am in the middle of crafting frenzy.  Hope you all are enjoying the last week before Christmas! :D  Hopefully, I'll be on later! 

<3

[chocolatechip]

Yay, babytoes, glad all is okay!

My husband and I have really been off rhythm for sexy times while I've been pregnant.  Seems like one or the other of us is exhausted, sick, out-of-town... It hasn't been non-existent, but it sure is work to make it happen, which is so different than the whole trying-to-conceive time! He has been sick or possibly-sick for far more often than I have - and he's trying to be really careful not to spread things to me. Which I actually do really appreciate, because I have been relatively healthy this whole time. But still, sometimes it gets frustrating! He has been on vacation all this week, and then of course I go and get a stomach bug on Monday that flattened me for the last few days. And today he's off all day with his friends. Maybe with the solstice tomorrow things will turn around. 

I'm 26 weeks now, and starting to feel more ungainly. When I wear my giant fleecy raincoat I feel like a marshmallow waddling around!

[Melany]

babytoes: glad to hear things are ok, but what a scare!

My husband has not been interested, no idea why, but my body is wishing he was interested. :( Add to that some crazy hormones and I keep asking him if everything is ok with us. And, I'm grumpy, which I also think is due to me wanting him to show some interest and not having that happen. I think it's been twice since conception, which is NOT normal for us. I'd blame it on 13 years of marriage, but I know that shouldn't matter, either. 

I'm 29 weeks on Sunday and feeling SO huge. I heard rumor that SIL is in labor and I'm mad at my mom for telling me since it just reinforces that she will never know when I am in labor. If my brother wanted me to know, he would have told me when we were on the phone the 10 minutes before I spoke to my mother. I reminded her of that and she kept making excuses that maybe he didn't realize, yet. Really? He got off the phone with me, didn't say anything and called mom to tell her that his wife is in labor. He knew, he wanted to keep it private. 

I am grumpy, aren't I?

We took my son to Children's in Seattle as a follow-up after the incident at school a month ago and being told off by the teacher. The doctor helped us put a plan together. I noticed something kind of significant about my son. When the stern doctor was talking to him, he cowered and literally tried to curl up into the fetal position and spoke very soft. Where, he isn't like that when he's comfortable. We've had some issues with the baby talk and inappropriate behavior at school, and he is scared of his teacher. Heck, so am I, so I'm curious how much of the issues we are trying to work on stem for his shyness and how he reacts when he is scared/shy/upset.

[firespiritmelody]

Originally Posted by Melany 

We took my son to Children's in Seattle as a follow-up after the incident at school a month ago and being told off by the teacher. The doctor helped us put a plan together. I noticed something kind of significant about my son. When the stern doctor was talking to him, he cowered and literally tried to curl up into the fetal position and spoke very soft. Where, he isn't like that when he's comfortable. We've had some issues with the baby talk and inappropriate behavior at school, and he is scared of his teacher. Heck, so am I, so I'm curious how much of the issues we are trying to work on stem for his shyness and how he reacts when he is scared/shy/upset.

Teachers like that make me so crazy! Can you get a different classroom assignment? Even if the teacher isn't causing the problem, she sure isn't helping it any! Poor little guy. Kids have to spend so much time with their teachers, it's important that she makes him feel safe.

[writermama12]

Terrible morning. It is hormonally driven, but knowing that doesn't help. I basically hate my 11 yo and all of the stupid mistakes he makes. I hate myself for feeling this way and for sending him to school having had a bad morning with an angry mother---I'd had had enough and totally chewed his butt out, practically yelled at him for feeding the baby out of dirty dishes, then to get his crap together that was scattered all over the house to get on the bus that he has missed every Friday for over a month, and then couldn't even bring myself to say "have a good day" because I obviously would not have meant it. But it's his last day of school before vacation. I feel sooooooo horrible. I hope this feeling goes away so I can carry on today. I cried my eyes out the moment he left. Hormone overload sucks!

[Melany]

Originally Posted by writermama12 

Terrible morning. It is hormonally driven, but knowing that doesn't help. I basically hate my 11 yo and all of the stupid mistakes he makes. I hate myself for feeling this way and for sending him to school having had a bad morning with an angry mother---I'd had had enough and totally chewed his butt out, practically yelled at him for feeding the baby out of dirty dishes, then to get his crap together that was scattered all over the house to get on the bus that he has missed every Friday for over a month, and then couldn't even bring myself to say "have a good day" because I obviously would not have meant it. But it's his last day of school before vacation. I feel sooooooo horrible. I hope this feeling goes away so I can carry on today. I cried my eyes out the moment he left. Hormone overload sucks!

What a horrible morning. :( I yelled at my 7 year old on Wednesday for also not getting her things together and causing us to miss the bus. She basically goofed off and I had to tell her to do things about 4-5 times and finally the only thing making her move was my screaming. I don't scream, but I do now. Then by the time we got to the bus stop, I'm screaming at her like I have no idea. To make matters worse, they had a temporary bus driver and he drove by the stop, so it really wasn't her fault that we missed the bus (even though he came by 10 minutes late). Then as I'm yelling at her for making us late (I had a meeting I would miss at work in order to drive them to school) the bus company calls and says another bus will be by in 2 minutes and will pick up the kids. I cried ALL day thinking about the other school tragedy and how I had promised myself that I would make sure I hug them extra hard every morning. That resolution lasted what, 3 days?

These hormones can screw themselves. That's all I have to say about it. 

[JennJenn84]

I'm in the same cra atzy hormone boat as well! Yesterday was a bad morning! It was DD's first day of Christmas vacation and she was getting on every last nerve of mine. I yelled at her many times and I shouldn't have :-( I broke down and cried. We live with her paternal grandparents and her grandmother wanted to talk to me and all I did was snap at her. I told her I just wanted to be left the hell alone for a little while. I barely spoke to anyone even as I left for work. Once I got. To work though, I was ok. Now this morning I am just fine. I hate the crazy hormones!

I am 25 weeks tomorrow, and I am part of the waddle club I didn't expect it this soon but a friend at work pointed it out to me yesterday. She also said it seems like I popped out so quickly. Definitly in the last month my belly has gotten big! Its kinda exciting as with DD I didn't get all that big. With her, I lost 13lbs at first then ended up at only 9lbs over pre pregnancy weight. With this one, I lost 12lbs, and just now (as of my dr appt this past Tuesday) am at pre pregnancy weight. I know now I will gain more weight. I have a feeling I will get stretch marks too. With DD, I only got 3 of them. I have ones already starting now.

[Melany]

I've been secretly sewing a quilt for hubby. He wanted a recycled denim quilt. Last Friday, we were heading to my MW appointment and she canceled for a birth. So, we did some Christmas shopping. I point out  beautiful wool throw that was outside our price range and mention I want one of these if they ever go on sale and Pete responds with, "OH, it's too short. A blanket has to be at least 6 feet long to be comfortable." Well, I had finished my quilt top for him and it was 5 feet long. I about tossed it in a box in the garage to never see the light of day, again. But, I managed to "sneak up" and add another foot. He's lucky my son is hard on jeans, that's all I have to say, or there wouldn't have been enough worn out jeans. BUT, now I have only Christmas eve to quilt it and add the binding since he is working that day and I am off. He might just get the top.

[scruffy too]

Happy Solstice everyone!!  I've had a great lazy week hanging out with my parents.  They drove up on Sunday and we haven't done too much at all!  (The cold weather isn't helping much, either...)  I had a gift certificate for a Jacuzzi suit at a local hotel that was expiring this month, so on Tuesday night I surprised DP and we stayed in town.  It was very relaxing and full of cuddles.  I was hoping my body would think that DTD would be a good idea, but it did not - despite my best intentions.  So I felt kinda bad, but we both agreed we had a nice time regardless.

[Melany]

I am an auntie! My brother's wife had her baby last night. 12/21/12. A very cool birthday. :)

[Chapsie]

Congrats, Melany!

I almost fainted this morning while standing in my kitchen and now I'm super dizzy. Anyone else have issues with feeling faint? I have never passed out before in my life. I was just standing there (I had just eaten breakfast and I did not just stand up-- I have no idea what precipitated it) and then my vision went blurry, the room was spinning and my body went limp. I knew to lay down before i fell and my husband was right there to help me. It was a few hours ago and I still feel very lightheaded. I am so nervous because I am working tonight and my job is pretty physical (RN at a hospital).

I've know feeling dizzy is common on pregnancies, I've just never had it happen to me before. I normally have low blood pressure-- that probably is contributing... But don't know why it was so sudden? Hmm...

[Chapsie]

Congrats, Melany!

I almost fainted this morning while standing in my kitchen and now I'm super dizzy. Anyone else have issues with feeling faint? I have never passed out before in my life. I was just standing there (I had just eaten breakfast and I did not just stand up-- I have no idea what precipitated it) and then my vision went blurry, the room was spinning and my body went limp. I knew to lay down before i fell and my husband was right there to help me. It was a few hours ago and I still feel very lightheaded. I am so nervous because I am working tonight and my job is pretty physical (RN at a hospital).

I've know feeling dizzy is common on pregnancies, I've just never had it happen to me before. I normally have low blood pressure-- that probably is contributing... But don't know why it was so sudden? Hmm...

[babytoes]

Melany that is a super cool birthday! Congrats on being a new auntie!! I also wanted mention, that if I had worked hard on something like a quilt for my DP, and he made that kind of comment... I probably would have tossed it right in the trash too!! Although you had restraint, I'm not sure I would have, haha!

Chapsie I have had a few strange episodes during this pregnancy. I didn't actually faint, but I have felt very weak, the room gets fuzzy and I feel almost "tipsy". I will lie down immediately, and the strange part, is I will usually fall asleep within seconds... I am not sure if it's my bodys way of saying "slow down!" or what. But I have had it happen after eating as well as before so that doesn't seem to matter, and I am always well hydrated (I drink about 48 oz a day of water... I love water!), so I am not sure what is causing these strange events. I hope all goes well at work for you, one good thing I can say is after I lie down and sleep, I always feel much, much better. Is there any way you can get a little nap in today? 

AFM.. Today I have to get the fleece lounge pants made for the boys. Than tomorrow and Monday will be spent baking. DP and I were able to sleep in this morning, and I feel full of energy ! Yay for older kids that let you sleep!! Not much else going on... just trying to get the Christmas stuff done, DS3 is a tiny bit under the weather, but not bad. Last weekend he was busting hot with a fever and just slept for almost two days straight. So I think its just lingering around, his father told me that he fell asleep on Wednesday evening around 5:30 and slept right through the night until 7:30 the next morning!! Like Whoa! The boys are with us for the next 10 days, and I am looking forward to spending lots of time with them... I love when they're here for long periods, its always nice.  

[Melany]

Originally Posted by Chapsie 

Congrats, Melany!
I almost fainted this morning while standing in my kitchen and now I'm super dizzy. Anyone else have issues with feeling faint? I have never passed out before in my life. I was just standing there (I had just eaten breakfast and I did not just stand up-- I have no idea what precipitated it) and then my vision went blurry, the room was spinning and my body went limp. I knew to lay down before i fell and my husband was right there to help me. It was a few hours ago and I still feel very lightheaded. I am so nervous because I am working tonight and my job is pretty physical (RN at a hospital).
I've know feeling dizzy is common on pregnancies, I've just never had it happen to me before. I normally have low blood pressure-- that probably is contributing... But don't know why it was so sudden? Hmm...

Chapsie: My MW was mentioning that this has happened to a number of her patients and she has reccomended having their electrolytes checked.  You might want to mention it to your MW/Doctor, too.

[delilahbeau]

I am sorry Chapsie how scary....I would definitely see what your M/W says, better to be safe then sorry.

congrats Melany and happy birthday.

AFM...it's been a crappy week. My BP has been up so my OB is putting me on medication. I am scared and feel like I am failing. I have not been making working out a priority just because my schedule has been so busy and I always feel like I am not giving DD enough attention because of work. Well I it has caught up with me. I took my first dose this morning....I will start working out and monitoring everything I eat to see if I can be weaned of it. I just feel like such a failure, like either way I am endanger my baby, putting her in danger by not taking it and putting her danger by taking it. 

[SlimP]

Congrats Melany, it'll be lovely to have cousins so close in age.

Chapsie, I too have slightly low blood pressure and have fainted a fair few times, almost always after eating. Although there may have been other contributory factors for me, like heat, dehydration and lack of air, I believe it's to do with the blood being diverted to the digestive tract and therefore bringing less blood to the head.
You're right to lay down before you pass out and fall down......I had a nasty accident with one of my faints, taught me to keep my head low anytime I feel dizzy now.

Herbs like liquorice can raise blood pressure but it's tricky enough without being pregnant too. As Melany said, electrolyte balance is important as are your blood sugar levels.
Hopefully it's an isolated incident.

Delilah, don't stress about taking meds, that's worse than anything for HBP and for you! You might well be able to wean yourself gradually, I've heard you can get great results with garlic and cayenne pepper (not liquorice though). You are so not a failure, don't think that. I went through a testing time with similar thoughts recently and believe me you will get past this.
The darkest day has literally passed, the world didnt end and there's a new year bringing new life. The pressures of this time of year are too much for pregnant sensibilities Only 2 more days of preparation before we get to relax and enjoy the holidays. There's light at the end of the tunnel.

[RainGardenMama]

Chapsie- I too have low BP and just this week have had 3 dizzy spells. We should both check in with our mw's

Slimp- your advice to Delilah was so lovely and well said. Thanks for saying it!

Delilah- hang in there, you are doing a WONDERFUL job growing this baby. I hear you on not doing things you know are good for you, but stress and guilt don't help a bit.

[delilahbeau]

Thank you ladies....I really needed that!

[spughy]

Oh, delilah, you're not a failure. ((hug))  I know how you feel, but you're doing fine.  Don't worry about it.  I totally get the guilt about not making working out a priority - I feel exactly the same way - but then you have to look at what you DID make a priority and my bet is, whatever it was (like, your daughter!) probably deserved it.

I feel completely burnt out today.  Too many days of rushing around - helping my sister put her stuff in storage, volunteering at DD's school, Christmas shopping and food provisioning (farm stands closed next week, need suffiicient vegetables), dealing with dietary stuff, family events - and now I've got another hemorrhoid.  BOO.  And I slept poorly last night, got up early to make DH his birthday custard tarts and some breakfast, and we have another family brunch-y thing this afternoon.  I just want to SLEEP but now I've washed my hair so I can't or I'll look weird.

At least I have a physio appointment in a week so I can hopefully get my pubic symphysis sorted out.  I'm trying really hard not to abuse the tylenol right now.

In good news, we went for afternoon tea with DH's family yesterday and my 2-hour post-prandial glucose was fine, even though I ate a few little nibbles I shouldn't have. (Dammit, I needed ONE mince tart!!!)  And because it was sort of late in the afternoon and I stuffed myself as full as possible, I didn't eat dinner and went to bed late and when I got up this morning I expected my bg to be high but it was actually the lowest fasting number I've seen since I started measuring.  So - whoever it was who said their midwife recommended packing all the eating in by mid-afternoon? She might actually be on to something.  Now that DH and DD are on holidays for 2 weeks I'm going to try to move dinner forward an hour or two and give up that annoying bedtime snack and see how that goes.  I'm definitely burning fat off - I have a pair of tall boots that haven't fit me all winter and they zipped up fine today.  I just hope I have enough so I still have a bit of reserves for birth and after.

Oh, and just in case anyone else is looking for low-ish carb snacky awesomeness, I highly recommend getting a nice fresh turnip, slicing it into rounds, and using the rounds as a delivery vehicle for liverwurst.  YUM.