Originally Posted by MommyRuth
After your baby boy is born, will you be bringing him to work with you? Also, do I remember correctly that you're planning a home birth? Where did you birth your daughters?
Yep, he'll be coming with me! The pros and cons of owning a business! Pro - he'll come with me, con - I work a lot and my last maternity leave consisted of about a week lol. We actually found out we were getting our shop the day DD2 was born so I didn't get much mat leave with her either! Hopefully he's cooperative and comes on a non-payroll week because that's the one obligation I can't delegate to anyone else.
Planned hb for this little guy! My oldest was born at a hospital with a MW and it was an ok experience but certainly not ideal. I started having contractions at 41w. My mw wasn't on call and the one that was was pushy and tried to rush things. Even though I was progressing beautifully and pain free, she kept suggesting breaking my water. I finally gave in at 8cm and the pressure of dd's head coming down on my cervix caused the pain to sky rocket within just a couple of contractions and ended up causing my cervix to swell up and stop dilating. I was at 8cm for over 12 hours. Thankfully my mw came on shift shortly after that and both she and the consulting doc believed in my ability to birth my baby vaginally. 2 rounds of IV meds, a metric ton of pitocin and an epidural later, I did end up pushing her our (without any tearing!) but she was pretty drugged and didn't want to breath on her own and also had the cord around her neck a couple of times. They didn't have to take her to the nursery but they wouldn't give her to me and wouldn't really tel me why. It was very frustrating.
Also, there was no LC on staff over the weekend and the nurses were badly misinformed and gave me a bunch of bad info and got her on a bottle right away. I did partially bf her for over a year but we never had an exclusive bf relationship.
I got pregnant again in 2003 and had a very early m/c. Probably just a chemical pregnancy. When I got pregnant again after that I was seeing the same group of mw's but both my mw and the one that started my labor had changed practices. I adored the nurses that worked with that clinic. Anyway, at about 8 weeks I had some spotting the morning after having sex. In my head I knew everything was probably fine, but I called the clinic anyway. The mw on call literally told me "if you are miscarrying there's nothing you can do about it" very matter of fact and cold. I cried and cried. I *knew* there was nothing I could do but for crying out loud she could have told me it was probably ok and to go home, drink some water and put my feet up! Everything turned out fine but I had horrible anxiety about *HER* being the mw on call when I went into labor and having a repeat of my previous birth. So, we started researching homebirth more intensely.
Found a LOVELY mw who was just wonderful and kind and it was fantastic. My water started trickling on my dd and she was born the next afternoon. We think just the outer layer of the sack broke but I might have had a high leak too. Either way, there was sack in the way and my contractions weren't regular so we did break the remaining bag and things sped up and were pretty good. She was born in the water and even though it was pretty intense (not the pain free first half like my fit was lol) it was really lovely.
DD3 was 12 days late :( I was miserable, huge, HOT (she was born in July and it was sooooo hot that year) We did regular BPP and she looked great so we just let her come when she was ready. I was walking around about 4.5cm dilated for about 2 weeks and by day 12 we were ready to break my water and get things going. MW did a membrane sweep but nothing came of it. So, while at my mw's we went ahead and did another sweep and decided that we'd go eat some lunch and head home and that she'd come out in a few hours and we'd get things going. Thankfully contractions started on their own while we were at lunch and when she came over at about 5:00 (with cookies she'd made for us <3) things were well on their way to getting started. When she checked me I was about a 5 and my bag popped on it's own. Things went super fast from there and were crazy intense during contractions but they were spaced out (never closer then about 5 minutes) so I had plenty of time to recover. I think she was posterior and hitting a nerve on the way down because the pain would shoot up my back during a contraction but completely go away between. She was born in less then 5 hours, also in the water, and was one of the fattest little babies I'd ever seen <3
My oldest was at DD2's birth and both were there for DD3. The plan is for them to all be there this time too, so we're hoping baby boy decides to make his arrival during spring break since all 3 are in school now. DD3 was a summer baby so it didn't matter as much!