Originally Posted by DanielleNZ
I would definitely encourage babywearing, it will sooth your LO and you will also be able to multi task having free hands.
I personally have never left my babies to cry, I have also responded immediately as there crying is asking for a primal need to be met. One is who responded to straight away is one that is also likely to settle easily as they have not worked themselves up.
There is a huge difference between CIO, and letting your baby fuss/cry for 5-10 minutes so you can meet your own basic needs.
OP, DD is 4 weeks old and it's finally getting to the point where I can put her in her swing and she is happy for 5-10 (sometimes even 15!) minutes. Do you have a swing? It is the only place besides my arms that she will sleep for more than 5 minutes also. But if I have to do something (eat, go to the bathroom, get dressed so we can leave...), I have to do it. I try to make sure she's changed, fed, and content first, but...she's a newborn. She's often not content. She is always hungry. And even if I change her, she may be wet again in 5 minutes. So you do what you have to. If what I am doing isn't super important, my general rule is 5 minutes. I'll put her in the swing and in 5 minutes, if she is crying, I'll stop what I'm doing and take care of her. It's getting to the point lately where she usually isn't crying after 5 minutes. But 2 weeks ago? I was lucky to make it to the 1 minute mark before she was frantic.
Keep trying with the paci in a couple of weeks, too- DD finally started accepting one and I'll give it her for ten minutes or so every once in a while if I need to do something.
It's hard, mama, but it gets better. Just know that your baby WILL be fine if you have to let them cry for a few minutes here and there!