8 yo comments on body - Page 2

[BellinghamCrunchie]

Originally Posted by mtiger 

It might also be worth letting your daughters know that *some* people who are overweight - especially morbidly so - sometimes are so due to medical issues. Not everyone is obese due to "too many cookies" or "not enough spinach".

Something about this strikes me as wrong.

I guess its cause if you say some people can't help it - its medical - then you are also saying most people CAN help it - its their fault. Why is it okay for excess weight to be the result of some medical condition, but not okay to be the result of eating too much?

I don't think its ANYONE'S fault, ever, when it comes to weight. I wish it wasn't about fault at all. I know what it feels like to have an insulin spike and crave sugar even though your stomach is full. Those cravings can be awfully hard to resist even for grownups. Or eating when you're depressed, or bored. Or whatever the reasons are. Aren't they just as valid as a "medical" reason?

[Tigerchild]

Uh, how about, "While you and I know that what a person looks like is never a reason to be unkind, it's also true that a lot of people don't know that or use what a person looks like as an excuse to be mean to them.  That's why we don't comment on how people look unless we are being positive or complementary, even if we think we're being helpful.  If someone asks you what you think or for help, then you can answer.  Otherwise, there's no need to comment on how people look, especially if you're telling them what they should do.  Most people don't like that, unless they've asked you."