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[Dia]

I got my first "so, due any day now, right"? comment from a stranger today...

No...but thank you, for making me feel huge.

Any other February moms get this too? Make me feel better? :)

[MaybeJ]

Oh yes!  Someone at work asked me if I was having a Christmas baby...yesterday.  That's a week a way.  I just sort of smiled and said, no not until next year.  And then she said, "Oh, January".  I didn't feel like correcting her but I should have!

[buko]

Why anyone would think it's acceptable to comment on anyone's size is beyond me.  And "any day now?" if based solely on visual info, is a size comment. 

[eminvc]

Yesterday I got, "You look like you're about ready to pop!"

I am not a popcorn machine, or a balloon. I found that phrasing particularly crass.
 

[butterflygirl2271]

Lol, I have been getting that for weeks now. However, when I tell them this is baby #6 so I am going to be big, then they really got their feathers ruffled.

[Brambleberry]

I get such amazing shocked looks when I tell people, "no, not for another 8 weeks."  And then they get this comic look of relief changing to pity when I tell them it's twins.  I don't mind the comments too much, because, let's face it, I AM HUGE.  And I'm going to get bigger.  I also had a moment the other day when I caught a teenage girl staring at my belly with a real look of dismay on her face.  I had to wonder whether she had just discovered she was pregnant or if I had just given her an added incentive to be more responsible with birth control. 

[Teles]

I work in a psychiatric hospital where inpatients wander around through the halls, so boundary crossing is a regular thing. I now hide quietly in my office for the first 30 minutes that I'm in each morning because there's one patient who has taken to me in a big way and will literally break into a run to touch my belly if she sees me.

The other day I was walking down the hall and a random female patient was walking toward me (but was a good 20 feet away) and shouts "HOW MANY KIDS ARE IN THERE!?", when I told her it was only one she responded with "ARE YOU SURE? YOU'RE HUUUUUUUGE!"

sigh

[loveandgarbage]

I got this starting at 5 months with DS1 so any of those comments that come my way will just roll off my back.

[1234babies]

Yup.  I got my first "Wow.... you look like you were due yesterday!" last week, and the remarks have been coming consistently since then.  They don't really make me feel bad, just kind of annoyed that there are so many people out there who don't know that it's such a rude thing to say.  Since my other 3 were well over 10 lbs and this one looks like it'll be smaller, I'm feeling relatively petite, and I hate to have my bubble burst. 

[molive]

I get these comments! The worst is when I tell someone my due date is February 1st alegre they are fully expecting me to say next week and they respond, "oh so you've still got a ways to go!". Like its a long time. Like I haven't been pregnant for the last 8.5 months and there is still a long long road ahead.
Oh well, its no big deal, I'd just like some credit for the time put in this far!

[katiesophie]

Yes!  Yesterday my neighbor ask if I'm ready to pop, not for 10 weeks, thanks.  But he is a single 27 year old guy, so I'll give him a break.  I was meeting and training my work replacement today and she said she knew who I was because I was extremely pregnant.  Then what will I look like in 8 weeks?  Oh well.  On the other hand, other moms tell me I look great or even small (yeah right); even if they are just being nice, I appreciate it.

I think part of the problem is that TV and movies show women going into labor who look closer to seven months pregnant than nine.  Many people don't know what a full term goddess looks like.  Pop culture is to blame for people's ignorance! ;)

On another note, at the post office today while waiting in a line that went out the door, a little old lady was seated while people held her place in line.  When she saw my belly she offered me her seat, "you should sit down, honey," so sweet!  My back and hips were hurting, so I took her up on in for a few minutes.  It was almost her turn anyway :)

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[LadyCatherine185]

I got the "any day now?" comment from a couple people about a month ago... "nope! still 3 months left!"

most of the comments don't bother me, especially once I tell them I usually cook 9 lb'ers, and I'm only 5'1".

there is, however, one lady at church who has been making comments on my belly that have borderlined rude. Back in September, when I was JUST BARELY SHOWING, she asked me if I was due in October, TWICE! then this past Sunday she said she could tell my belly was getting bigger (isn't it supposed to!?) and "you're due right at Christmas, right?" ....*sigh*.... I have only gained 20 lbs, and I am measuring perfectly on track. THIS IS WHAT MY BELLY IS SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE at this point in pregnancy!

[etsdtm99]

I haven't gotten any yet..  i did in my first 2 pregnancies and with my 3rd i didn't get random comments about being almost done or popping until i was 39+ weeks.. (totally appropriate, amazingly) now i just get all the weird looks because people are counting my kids and trying to figure out how old they are (2, 4, 6)  they don't even say 'you've got your hands full' they pretty much won't talk to me at all cause they are too busy looking disgusted .. nice, right? (in a way it is because i don't want the comments anyway!)

[katiesophie]

Originally Posted by etsdtm99 

I haven't gotten any yet..  i did in my first 2 pregnancies and with my 3rd i didn't get random comments about being almost done or popping until i was 39+ weeks.. (totally appropriate, amazingly) now i just get all the weird looks because people are counting my kids and trying to figure out how old they are (2, 4, 6)  they don't even say 'you've got your hands full' they pretty much won't talk to me at all cause they are too busy looking disgusted .. nice, right? (in a way it is because i don't want the comments anyway!)

You rock mama!  I am the oldest of five and my mom had four of us five and under at one point (number five came five years later).  It was and is so much fun being in a big family and being close in age as we have grown up.  

[sweetestday]

I get the, "WHAT did you eat???," or at my husband, "What did you do to her???". I can never think of a smart come back in time. :/ 

I do get some hands full comments... usually when I only have a couple of my boys with me. 

[HouseofPeace]

Originally Posted by etsdtm99 

I haven't gotten any yet..  i did in my first 2 pregnancies and with my 3rd i didn't get random comments about being almost done or popping until i was 39+ weeks.. (totally appropriate, amazingly) now i just get all the weird looks because people are counting my kids and trying to figure out how old they are (2, 4, 6)  they don't even say 'you've got your hands full' they pretty much won't talk to me at all cause they are too busy looking disgusted .. nice, right? (in a way it is because i don't want the comments anyway!)

people don't ask me.  i think it's the 4 kids (7, 5, 3, and 21 month old) that make them not want to even risk me talking to them.  i mean, obviously i'm bonkers, right?!?

that and i'm usually in the middle of a 5 way conversation!  on the few occasions that we're out and about.  i smile, people smile back, kids all smile, we all smile!  and even though they stare, most people can't get out a question about my very very round belly!  

which is fine, b/c usually from 6 months on, ignorant people say i look overdue.  i'm also blaming all those 3 month old babies born to women who are only 7 months pregnant on TV/Movies for this social naivete concerning how exactly a woman pregnant up to 40 weeks looks!  or 42!  (cause yes, we look even bigger!)

note- someone did ask about twins or if i was gaining more than i should, and my darling husband got huffy and said "oh no, she's right on track.  this is how she normally looks at 22 weeks!  just wait til she's almost due!  she looks amazing, doesn't she?"

[josie423]

Originally Posted by HouseofPeace 

people don't ask me.  i think it's the 4 kids (7, 5, 3, and 21 month old) that make them not want to even risk me talking to them.  i mean, obviously i'm bonkers, right?!?

This is exactly how it is for me too!! 

[buko]

I think part of the problem is that TV and movies show women going into labor who look closer to seven months pregnant than nine.  Many people don't know what a full term goddess looks like.  Pop culture is to blame for people's ignorance! ;)

Yep!  I was just going to make the same comment.  What's funny is, I've been watching the last season of Frasier, and realized that Daphne starts to show/look like she's at least 4-5 months along right away (like within a couple of weeks of finding out she's pregnant, which she found out within a 2WW), and by the end, she looks more like 7 months.  They really underestimate the audience's intelligence, I guess-- like they have to visually be reminded SHE'S PREGNANT even though she wouldn't normally show much at all for months.  Although I do remember Rachel from Friends going out on Halloween as "someone who can still fit into this dress" when she was supposed to be at least a couple months along, so that was realistic.

HoP-- anyone who thinks you look ready to deliver is nutso.  I'd say (it's that optical illusion we have) you look smaller than average.  People are morons.

I did finally get a stranger commenting-- a cashier told DH and me "Congratulations" when we were definitely not discussing the baby-- just from looking at me.  I'm sure I would have gotten 1000 more comments by now-- as I'm plenty showing and almost 30 weeks-- but luckily I work from home.  My only coworker is the cat and I don't get out a whole ton.  I was severely dreading the comments from strangers about my body (I hate those always), no matter how well-intentioned, but I really seem to have escaped them.  Er, so far, LOL...

[BaMo]

I had a man (I had never met) tell me at a Christmas party - "Oh, you must be due on the Dec 25th." No - actually I'm not, I have a ways to go. Then he responded back with, "Oh no, you will go on the 25th."

The best was earlier this month though - a young looking woman (maybe 18?) came up to me at Kohl's:

Her: Ooohhhh, when are you due?

Me: Feb

Her: Ohhh (in a sad voice) you are so much bigger than I was.

Me: You know that's rude to say to me, right?

Her: (Faces turns beet red) uuhh, no, sorry and she turns and walks away.

What is with people - here are the things that you can say to pregnant women - you look great! if you can't say that then be quiet!

[Jenny01]

I had my first really nice 'stranger' comment the other day when I was in the elevator going to work.  She asked me when I was due and I said Feb. and she said "WOW you look great! You look so tiny!"  Then she went on to say how she had four kids etc  - she made my day!