Hi, I was wondering if I could possibly get some advice about what might be the best decision regarding my 7 yo son's teeth. We have not yet taken either of our children to see a dentist. Recently we noticed that there are actually holes in two of his top teeth and he says they hurt when he chews certain foods. I'm pretty sure this is beyond a nutritional treatment, which seems pretty impossible anyway, for various reasons. I have been researching pediatric dentists in our area and I kid you not, or maybe this is not surprising, that every single website had pages of info about how parents should be limiting certain foods and caring for their kids' teeth, which includes flouride treatment in some form including flouridated water. Most of them also mentioned that they use amalgam and composite fillings as well.
I am not exaggerating when I say that I am in a state of complete anxiety about this. I also have so much guilt heaped on my shoulders and I just don't know what I should do. Do we just pick a dentist within our insurance and go with what they prescribe, regardless of what that is, just so my son can get this done quickly?? Or do I seek out a holistic dentist, which is not covered, and is also much farther away, but where we might be able to avoid harmful filling material and flouride treatments??
The thing that bothers me the most, is that I used to consider myself fairly well educated about the dangers of flouride etc, and we used to eat a near perfect WAP diet, but now I feel like I just don't know anymore. The pro flouride info is so convincing. I just feel like a complete failure of a mother and it would kill me if my son's health were to be compromised as a result of having to have at least two teeth filled and be put under some kind of sedation. It just seems like either you do what all mainstream people do with their kids and follow the ADA's protocol, or you pay through the nose for alternative care and/or try to take care of your kids' teeth yourself, but that is backed by just a lot of hope that it works. It's kind of a lose-lose situation.
We live in Redondo Beach, CA, and would be willing to travel a little ways to see someone, so if you all have any advice and/or a recommendation for a pediatric dentist/holistic dentist, *please* let me know!!