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[HeatherB]

I haven't been active on this thread because I know I don't have HG, but I'm still sick and SO TIRED of it. Nauseous most of the day (all?) every day; throwing up randomly. Can barely take necessary meds and supps. I'm so exhausted. I can barely eat. I do normally lose weight and I've had other factors, too, but my MW is on the verge of being concerned about 20+ lbs lost so far. (I'm overweight to begin with.) I'm just sick and tired of being sick and tired. I'm 13wks now but who knows if it will change.

[harmie0515]

Crafty, sorry you are feeling so down.  I really hope there is some relief for you soon.

I had 2 days where I felt human, and today I was down again.  My poor kids are so ready for me to feel better (we haven't told them about the baby yet.)  I told my 6 year old I had to lay down after I tossed an orange and string cheese at him for a snack.  He said "but you're doing so good.  You're dressed and standing up."  :(

[CraftyMcGluestick]

Originally Posted by bird_verde 

I haven't been on in a while as I am just busy on top of being sick.  DH has been out of town for work a lot lately and it has been hard.  I am so nauseous and weak and I am trying my best to take care of my toddler and 8 year old but I know I am failing.  The little one has also been sick for about 2 weeks on top of everything else.  I literally do not have any clean clothes to wear tomorrow and I don't think I care.  Thank goodness my 8 year old knows how to put a sandwich together and use the microwave.  And my midwife called to tell me my hemoglobin is low -the idea of taking an iron supplement or eating beef makes me gag.  oh man... enough complaining.

thinking good thoughts for all of you.  Let's hope the 12 week mark will end this for us all.

Bird_verde, just reading about having to care for two kids with your DH out of town made me want to cry with exhaustion! I have one toddler and though DH has been putting a lot of hours into his business (it's our biz and less than 1 year in), he is still here. And I'm beat!

I hope the laundry fairy will whip you up a batch of freshly-folded laundry. At least, we can dream.

Bad news though re: 12 week mark, I am 14 weeks...and it's not looking that great. But I hope I'm an isolated case! Seriously. But not too isolated; I will miss y'all if I'm the only one left here the rest of this pregnancy.

[bird_verde]

crafty - I am no fool.  This is my third go around with HG and it never ended before the 20 week mark for me.  but a girl can hope! i'm at 10 weeks and thinking about it maybe being over (or at least lessened) in two weeks gives me a smidge of unrealistic hope.

I hated to sound so down in my post - the good news is that DH is home right now and cleaning the house.  Who knows, I might get at least a load of laundry clean for me by morning.

[CraftyMcGluestick]

I love unrealistic hope. I practically majored in it in college.

[songbirdsparkle]

Aw, hell. I haven't checked in because I feel so low and didnt want to bring everybody else down. But now that I see I'm not alone, I'll go ahead and show my face. Lol.

Crafty, mama, heather and Harmie-- sorry you ladies are still struggling. I'm 11.5 weeks over here and so weak yesterday that my mother had to bathe and toilet me. But I am so lucky she is here. Before she flew in it was rough. At least now I know my kids are cared for. I don't know what I will do when she leaves. For those of you caring for kids, my heart really goes out to you. It's been really tough on my two LOs.

Crafty, girl, I feel you. I am so depressed and down. I feel as if I've given away my life with this pregnancy. Just know you are not alone. I too have noticed the rest of the August club being a little more active and upbeat. I dont join in much but i look to this thread for support. I tell my DH about you ladies. He is happy that I have you here to"talk" to. I get really frustrated with people not understanding how debilitating HG is. Most of the day I am so weak that I cannot speak.

I am up having a pre-breakfast of low-fat vanilla yogurt and frozen cherries--a variation on something Jillgayle mentioned way up thread. It goes down well and tastes pretty good to me.

My midwife comes tonight. DH will miss that appt but mom, brother, and kids will be there. It will be nice to hear the heartbeat again and get a boost. Heaven knows I need one.

I wish calm tummies and lots of energy for you ladies today. We're getting there bit by tiny bit.

[mama_b]

I'm so sorry that you all are feeling so bad.  I am not sick anymore for the most part, but I am by no means feeling good.  I also didn't want to complain and bring everyone down, especially because my complaints are no longer related to nausea.  But I guess I'll go ahead anyway. :)

Pregnancy is hard on me.  Really, really hard.  Whether I'm sick or not.  I have a pretty severe case of mitral valve prolapse and when I am pregnant it just gets worse.  I have terrible chest pains and because of increased blood volume my heart works harder and I have trouble breathing.  I'm only 12 weeks and already breathing hard.  I'm totally exhausted.  And not like normal exhausted, it's a HUGE effort to get out of bed every morning and then its a huge struggle to do the basics, like feeding everyone.  After getting everyone breakfast I feel like I've run a marathon. 

And nothing is slowing down.  I still have to work 2 days a week.  I still have to homeschool the kids.  I still have to take the kids to their classes.  And we are a one car family, so on days when I need the car to take the kids to their activities I have to get up at the butt crack of dawn, get the kids up, and take dh to work.

Oh, and guess what?  We are moving and have to be out of here by the 28th of Febuary.  So on top of everything else I have one month to get the whole house packed up and move.

I'll quit complaining now. :)

[songbirdsparkle]

Oh mama of everything you mentioned, it's the move that really got to me. I can't even IMAGINE!!! Yikes!!! Will you have any sort of help?

[CraftyMcGluestick]

Oh man, the sad sack club is now in session! I hate to say this, but hearing y'all's stories really keeps me from feeling so alone.

Heather and Mama_b, I don't even know if this is the HG thread exactly as much it is the "oh man, I feel like total crap, am beat down and exhausted, facing my life is breaking me, and I do not know about this mythical happy 2nd trimester thread, and yes, I throw up still" I would not say I am HG and wasn't last preg, but I am sick ALL the time and a good amount of time, debilitatingly so. I'm exhausted, can't pull it together, and if I'm not crying: I wish I were. I think this thread is kind of like the sinister, gloomy evil twin to the weekly chat. Ha. But very satisfying!

The bile puking is so awful. I feel like I did it to myself by getting too hungry, but I couldn't eat because everything seemed so horrible to me and also, sometimes it happens in the middle of the night and sometimes it comes on if I cough too hard because I just had some kind of respiratory bug.

Mama_b, the move sounds awful! Can you get someone to help you? I don't even know how you're doing all you're doing as is! I can barely drag myself up to get dressed for work, get DS dressed and ready for Montessori, and keep living! I am SO tired and I don't have a valve issue.

You all have my endless respect. Glad we have each other and sooooo sorry everyone is feeling so miserable. Really. Misery does love company, but I'd gladly give this thread up (and lurk on someone else's!) if you all could feel better. <3

[songbirdsparkle]

How are you ladies feeling?

I'm doing okay. Saw the midwife a couple nights ago and got to hear baby's heartbeat again. It was nice and strong and we got to hear baby swiping at the Doppler as well. That made me happy.

Not sure whether acupuncture is working. I've had two treatments. I'll keep it up a little while longer.

I am 12 weeks tomorrow. Is that considered second tri? Or maybe I have another week to go. I've started to talk to this baby and ask him/ her to take it easier on me.... Which brings me to a question: with my 2 previous HG pregnancies I was anxious to find out the sex of the baby so that I could bond more with the baby and feel that it was an actual person and not just a sickness inside of me. This time I wanna hold out for a birthday surprise, but I'm wondering if I should just find out. Do any of you super-sick mamas find out the baby's sex to help you bond/cope through difficult pregnancy?

[CraftyMcGluestick]

We do find out the baby's sex because my husband really, really wants to, but not necessarily so I can bond with baby. This time I am really wrestling with the issue of loving another child as much as I love my DS. I know it happens, of course, but I do feel distance sometimes from this baby because s/he is making me SO sick and I have nothing overwhelmingly positive to combat that. I do know that if I lost this baby I'd be devastated though. Such complicated feelings!

I have been in bed most of the day. I am not feeling so, so bad, just kind of zapped of energy and know if I get up, I'll need to eat something, which sounds less than tempting right now. :-/

We were invited to a Super Bowl party later. Neither DH nor I really gives a hoot about football, but I am trying to be normal (when I can) and maybe I will go crazy with snacks, which I probably need to do. Haven't thrown up since Friday, but was reeeeeeally sick Friday night (DH's b-day!). I just try to take it super, super easy on the weekends because I have to to make it through the work week. Ugh. The work week! Someone cancel it!

[bird_verde]

With my first, we did find out the sex exactly because I needed to so badly so that I could call the baby a name and bond.  It was awful HG and I had a hard time loving the idea of a baby when I was in the middle of the worst of it.  With the second, DH and I were so indifferent about it, I wasn't even sure if I would have the 20 week ultrasound and put it off until 24 weeks. By that time, I think we were having so much fun teasing all of the family and friends that so desperately wanted to know the sex, that we just decided to have a surprise.  Again this time, I am still not sure about the ultrasound so I guess we may have no choice but to wait it out.

I have had a couple of better days.  I think having DH home (although he has a cold and is not feeling well) and also having a relatively clean house (and clean laundry) has helped.  I can take 3 hour naps and not feel guilty at least.  My little one is over her cold/virus mostly too and that is a tremendous blessing. But Monday comes tomorrow and he's off on another flight. only two nights so I am praying that it doesn't get extended and that my girls are good to me.  Anyone else find that stress makes your symptoms worse?  Or maybe it is the symptoms that make the stress worse? either way, I do much better when I can relax and know my kids are taken care of.

[songbirdsparkle]

Originally Posted by CraftyMcGluestick 

We do find out the baby's sex because my husband really, really wants to, but not necessarily so I can bond with baby. This time I am really wrestling with the issue of loving another child as much as I love my DS. I know it happens, of course, but I do feel distance sometimes from this baby because s/he is making me SO sick and I have nothing overwhelmingly positive to combat that. I do know that if I lost this baby I'd be devastated though. Such complicated feelings!

I have been in bed most of the day. I am not feeling so, so bad, just kind of zapped of energy and know if I get up, I'll need to eat something, which sounds less than tempting right now. :-/

We were invited to a Super Bowl party later. Neither DH nor I really gives a hoot about football, but I am trying to be normal (when I can) and maybe I will go crazy with snacks, which I probably need to do. Haven't thrown up since Friday, but was reeeeeeally sick Friday night (DH's b-day!). I just try to take it super, super easy on the weekends because I have to to make it through the work week. Ugh. The work week! Someone cancel it!

Crafty, I know that feeling of thinking your love won't expand. I felt the same way expecting my second. I am wondering how a third will affect our current family dynamic.

I've had a rough 24 hours. Awake from 2 to 8:30 this morning. I was up reading birth stories. I thought it would be uplifting and it was. I was up puking a lot this morning too. I have been able to keep down ( FOOD MENTIONED) plain white bread and turkey sandwiches with lots of mustard. Iced tea to drink.

I am so over this sh$t I don't know what to do. Between my three pregnancies, I've tried dietary changes, drugs, meditation, other drugs, acupuncture, chiropractic, supplements, and more drugs, and nothing really seems to work. I have an old friend who swears by homeopathy, and each pregnancy she's told me I should give it a try. Well I looked her up and got the number if a practice. I'm going to call tomorrow. I've had 2 acupuncture treatments, and short of providing me 45 minutes of rest, I'm not sure it's doing much. Any of you have much experience with homeopathy?

[HeatherB]

Homeopathy is generally really effective for me, though I have never seen a homeopath. The nausea blend a friend sent hasn't helped much. :/

I thought today would be good but it's been miserable. I was so exhausted after dropping one DS at class and taking the others to gymnastics. I was hungry but headed straight home. I couldn't even go in and couldn't risk not waking from a nap, so I stayed in the car with sleeping DD and tried to rest. Eventually I couldn't really rest so I was chatting with a fb friend. Decided to take some important supps I've been skipping because I've been so sick, since I felt fine. DS1 got it for me. Within 30-40 minutes, I was deathly ill, throwing up in the bushes with all the kids in the car to go pick up DS2. I felt HORRIBLE. Lightheaded, faint, weird heartbeats, stomach pain, muscle pain... And had to drive.

I kept nothing down over another hour until I finally got a short nap. I decided to go to a moms group at church because I wanted free dinner. And then I didn't have to worry about the kids, too. The food was good and helped a ton, but within a couple hours I was feeling sick again. Got sick at my mom's and even though I ate a yummy soup, I still feel rotten.

I'm so tired of this!!! I can't do the things I need to do to feel better because they make me sick! Ugh. I am supposed to keep a detailed food journal and really focus on my health. I hope I can somehow eat decently. It's sooo hard.

[CraftyMcGluestick]

Totally hear y'all Songbird and Heather, if I had the energy I'd just stamp my foot and scream "When does it eeeeeeend?!!!!" Instead I have been doing a lot of sarcastic tweeting. Ha.

The Super Bowl party we went to had TONS of food, but after just a few cheese and crackers, I couldn't really stomach anything else. I kept trying to eat because I knew I needed to. I'm down 11 lbs from pre-pregnancy and I do not lose weight easily. But everything just looked/sounded unappealing. By the time we got home, I drank a Topo Chico, took a phenergan and went to bed only to wake up 2 hours later coughing which rapidly became vomiting. The next morning, because my stomach was empty: vomiting! I'm also so frustrated that everything that's supposed to help is just making me puke more. Argh!!!

Songbird, I had to laugh when I read that your friend recommended homeopathy. I think it's good and not a joke at all, and like Heather, homeopathy is really effective for me...EXCEPT for pregnancy. I laughed because I think of all the times people have said "have you tried...?" And it usually ends with "saltine crackers." Like, oh, crackers is all it takes? Well! You don't say! My sister and I call it "getting crackered." Homeopathy doesn't really fall into that category- just reminded me of it. But like you Songbird, I've pretty well tried everything. Acupuncture. Chiropractic. Meditation. Dietary changes. Vitamin supplements. Standing on my head, etc. etc. But it's like when you are where we are, you're condemned to suffer it and there is no simple solution except, uh, not being pregnant. I may get a bumper sticker that says "I love not being pregnant." Because I do!

Sorry for the hard times, friends. Only 25ish weeks to go for me. Ho ho! A cinch right? Urgh.
Edited by CraftyMcGluestick - 2/5/13 at 6:36pm

[CraftyMcGluestick]

Duplicate post- whoops!

[Jillgayle]

Hi all-
Finally checking in on here. This past week I have been trying to catch up on work responsibilities, since I have fallen so so far behind. Plus we are finally on vacation visiting my parents. It's so nice to be away even though I am still feeling sick and vomiting. Although, I am doing much better. I am keeping food down and have gained weight this pregnancy instead of losing weight. I really don't think anything is that different this pregnancy except its just a different pregnancy.
I'm so sorry many of you are still in the worst of it. I too hate the "well-meaning" suggestions. They even come from my mom who has seen me in very, very bad place. I've not tried homeopathy or acupuncture for severe ms. For me, it's just been regular doses of zofran, hydration and sticking to gluten free foods. Also eating something every 2 hours. It's working more days than not, but even still losing a whole half a days worth of food several times this week. I would love this to end, but it is better.
For me, hearing the heartbeat and then having my 1st u/s on Friday definitely helped with my psyche, although not the nausea.
Thinking of each you and hoping for better and better days in your future:)

[mama_b]

I'm sad to say that my nausea and vomiting is back. :(  For the past 3 days.  How can it come back at 13 weeks after being gone for 2 weeks?  It makes no sense.  Blah.  I hope we all feel better soon.

[CraftyMcGluestick]

Originally Posted by mama_b 

I'm sad to say that my nausea and vomiting is back.   For the past 3 days.  How can it come back at 13 weeks after being gone for 2 weeks?  It makes no sense.  Blah.  I hope we all feel better soon.

So sorry to hear mama_b! This is the club no one wants to re-join. I have heard of it coming back, but no idea of the cause or rationale. Could it just be a stomach bug? Or is it acting like pregnancy only? So, so sorry. Hope it is short-lived.

[harmie0515]

Got a prescription for Zofran, and it seems to be causing headaches.  I'll take the nausea over the headache most days, but today it felt good to actually scrub my kitchen counters and get dinner on to the table for my family.  (Before I snapped at everyone to leave the light off!  Shut the door!  I just need it quiet for a FEW MORE MINUTES! with a cool cloth on my forehead. )

mama_b, sorry it seems to be back.  I think that almost makes it worse because you were on "the other side"  Hope it's just a quick step back.  

Jill, I agree that hearing the heartbeat helped my psyche.  

Crafty,Songbird & Heather   I'm sorry you've had it so rough.  You all  better have an AWESOME babymoons, because you will have earned it.