Hi everyone, I am new to the forum.
Anyone with any advice on the divorce process, or who has already been through it, please advise.
I am Gennifer, and I live in Atlanta. I will give my stats now:
Married 29 years.
4 adult children (One with disabilities I care for her)
I did not finish school- never have worked
My STBX is a GOV employ 23 yrs.
has history of abuse on me.
Adultery
secret bank accounts/MANY signature loans worth thousands of dollars.
I have already gotten a TPO in place, he has been gone for several months now.
I have already filed for divorce.
I have a lawyer, he does not.
We have already attended the first of the 3 required
| Domestic Relations 30-Day Scheduling Conference |
Since he has been out of the home he has purchased a expensive android phone (he already had a phone) a new car (he took 2 cars with him when he left) and maybe another new car in question (4 cars in total)
a new computer (he took 2 with him when he left)
and $26,000 dollars worth of new credit card accounts.
ALSO he is pulling $ out of his 40k1, and keeping the joint bank account in the negative.
The original divorce petition says: no spending other than normal everyday expense, and he is going overboard.
he is paying me alimony each month- it is not enough, I am paying all of the household bills including the mortgage , and it is so hard for me to pay for everything and then to top it off I am now paying $ for the lawyer- and now they have a PI looking into the 'hidden' accounts.
My Question is:
Is there any particular things I should know to ask, or seek out in the negotiation process? and what should I expect if he is difficult and all this goes to trial?
I do have evidence of his adultery, and many signature loans taking funds away from our family.
any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Gennifer
Follow Mothering