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post #21 of 39

Also, just thought I'd share this: 

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10706945

 

I mean-- who knows?  When I share it, lots of people are like, "Oh, don't tell my DH!"  But we would do this anyway, so, er, we do.  Just in case it's something you'd be interested in, it's at least suggestive of a protective effect.  :)

post #22 of 39

I'm so distracted with everything that sex has virtually fallen out of my head, but I think DH is in the same boat. We're averaging like once every 2-3 weeks right now, which is suited to my current needs and he doesn't seem to be complaining. I get the feeling that he's scared of hurting me and with all the stuff going on in my body right now the thought of adding something else in there is not super appealing a lot of the time.

 

When we do have sex, it's usually in the morning so I'm not super tired/sore yet and it's pretty much always spooning, since I'm too huge to be on top and he gets too deep and it gets painful (and makes me nervous because it feels like he's hitting me in the cervix) when he's behind me

post #23 of 39
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

Also, just thought I'd share this: 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10706945

I mean-- who knows?  When I share it, lots of people are like, "Oh, don't tell my DH!"  But we would do this anyway, so, er, we do.  Just in case it's something you'd be interested in, it's at least suggestive of a protective effect.  smile.gif

Interesting!
post #24 of 39
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

Also, just thought I'd share this: 

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10706945

 

I mean-- who knows?  When I share it, lots of people are like, "Oh, don't tell my DH!"  But we would do this anyway, so, er, we do.  Just in case it's something you'd be interested in, it's at least suggestive of a protective effect.  :)

 

oh snap- someone did post it!

 

my husband laughed so hard when i told him about this (a few pregnancies ago) and made it an assignment!  so romantic.... Sheepish.gif

 

also read somewhere that it might help induce labor, but that didn't prove true.  anyone who goes late (hopefully not too many) feel free to ask as i've gone late enough that i've tried EVERYTHING.  can't say if our little experiment in this direction benefited us, but generally, keeping our intimacy up has always been good.  i think that's the biggest challenge every pregnancy- around body, discomfort, changing desires, it's very very important to us to keep the intimacy.

post #25 of 39
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my husband laughed so hard when i told him about this (a few pregnancies ago) and made it an assignment!  so romantic.... Sheepish.gif

 

I'll say "I need my medicine" or "will you give me my medicine?"  Sheepish.gif  Um, yeah...  Well, it's sexy to us.  I try to "take my medicine" 2x/week, in addition to whatever else we might do.  shy.gif  Meh-- couldn't hurt, AFAIK!

post #26 of 39
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 can't say if our little experiment in this direction benefited us, but generally, keeping our intimacy up has always been good.  i think that's the biggest challenge every pregnancy- around body, discomfort, changing desires, it's very very important to us to keep the intimacy.

Same here. It's been so helpful for us to make time for that even though we're both tired. I even find that during times we don't dtd often enough, we end up not talking as much either.

My DH would love the "I need my medicine" phrase, will have to steal that one. Though I did find out the other morning that it's NOT good to take on an empty stomach, blech!
post #27 of 39
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Originally Posted by buko View Post

Also, just thought I'd share this: 

 

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/10706945

 

I mean-- who knows?  When I share it, lots of people are like, "Oh, don't tell my DH!"  But we would do this anyway, so, er, we do.  Just in case it's something you'd be interested in, it's at least suggestive of a protective effect.  :)

Interesting, but I do that and my blood pressure started going up a few weeks ago.  I have gained a buttload of weight though, so that could be part of the b/p issue...  I am also pretty sure I have pregnancy related sleep apnea.  My poor husband. 

post #28 of 39
Wow, serious BH going on right now after dtd. I'm so not ready to give up sex yet but, wow. Maybe I'll go do a bath with Epsom salt.
post #29 of 39

I'm still waiting to get horny again. Maybe it just won't happen this time? I'd like to get in a few good sessions before labor because as I know all to well, sex right after childbirth is no fun for me!

post #30 of 39

I'm really just doing it for DH at this point, since sex with this giant body is a bit of a circus right now. It's not that I feel ugly or anything, but I feel pretty ridiculous trying to navigate around this giant belly

post #31 of 39
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Wow, serious BH going on right now after dtd. I'm so not ready to give up sex yet but, wow. Maybe I'll go do a bath with Epsom salt.

my hubby just drew me a nice bath with a bag of calendula and epsom salts, some bubbles, lit candles and poured me a big cold glass of water. he came home and i was just sitting on the bed staring blankly. i feel really crappy and emotional the past few days and i can't figure out why. i feel pretty useless, i guess. the bath felt nice. 

post #32 of 39

Still no sex here for obvious reasons and my drive has gone way up. Tbh, I am enjoying and embracing my sexuality on my own. It is so nice not to have to deal with all the emotional garbage that would come in my mind while dtd with my H.

post #33 of 39
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I'm really just doing it for DH at this point, since sex with this giant body is a bit of a circus right now. It's not that I feel ugly or anything, but I feel pretty ridiculous trying to navigate around this giant belly

yeah- i'm totally w/ you on this!  i do enjoy spending the time together and love giving him attention, but it's not for me.  though he's been stubborn and keeps making me regret my disinterest w/ much teasing.  it's just i can't MOVE  in any direction gracefully, my bladder is the size of a walnut, and yes, it's just exhausting!

 

i'm totally useless and just want to sleep or zone out all day and it's rather sad.  so Kellybeth- you're not alone!  hormones.  they're insane right now.  praying that it's not gonna stay this way but that you'll get a final wind.

post #34 of 39
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Still no sex here for obvious reasons and my drive has gone way up. Tbh, I am enjoying and embracing my sexuality on my own. It is so nice not to have to deal with all the emotional garbage that would come in my mind while dtd with my H.

Awesome, good for you mama!

I'm still dealing with regular BH! Took a bath, took a cal/mag supplement, drank emergen-c, drinking water, had half a glass of wine, was sitting down and moved to lying down.... Still going! I think they're getting less frequent, I think. I guess I need to seriously consider no more sex until I'm well past 37 weeks. And by then I probably won't want it, of course.
post #35 of 39

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I'm still waiting to get horny again. Maybe it just won't happen this time? I'd like to get in a few good sessions before labor because as I know all to well, sex right after childbirth is no fun for me!

Ditto that!  I miss my early-pregnancy sex drive. It was SO great for a while there!   Now I feel so tired, and awkward with the big belly, like Teles said. Still, we're managing every few weeks, and are always glad when we do.  

 

We have a big arc-shaped liberator, which helps to be more vertical and comfortable on the bed.  Still, I tire easily, so we've been making good use of what we call "The Toy."  A vibrator that he wears while dtd, we've enjoyed it for a long time, it's called "The Pixie." Works like a charm for me since we revved it up with a bigger battery pack (I bought a 4-double-A thing from Radio Shack, and DH wired it in).  I always "O", usually before he does!

 

Josie, good for you!   

post #36 of 39

i had to look up what dtd means. i don't think i've ever used the term doing the deed. shrug.gif

post #37 of 39

I feel like my DH gets so easily distracted by the baby any sexy ideas get quickly turned into belly rubs and baby love talk. It's OK, I'm pretty much on the same wavelength too. My hubby talks in his sleep -- usually it's work related and is due to his crazy hours however the other night he was rubbing my belly and having a conversation with the baby in his sleep. I wish I'd had a way of capturing that. It was very sweet!

post #38 of 39
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I feel like my DH gets so easily distracted by the baby any sexy ideas get quickly turned into belly rubs and baby love talk. It's OK, I'm pretty much on the same wavelength too. My hubby talks in his sleep -- usually it's work related and is due to his crazy hours however the other night he was rubbing my belly and having a conversation with the baby in his sleep. I wish I'd had a way of capturing that. It was very sweet!

awwwww- so cute!  what an amazing daddy-to-be!  very lucky typebug, and very lucky baby!

 

my husband never got like that.  i don't think he really realized what baby meant w/ the first until baby came out, then he was a little shell-shocked (he was only 24).  and now he knows how long it is after baby before wife is back on board for love-making, so he is pretty dedicated to keep up our love life now, while we still can, so that he doesn't feel deprived when i really and truly cannot and will not.  the problem w/ him is that belly rubs and baby love talk = let's take it to the next level!   b/c this baby is coming out soon and we'll never sleep again!  he's really great at supporting me, but isn't one of those guys who just LOVES newborns.  thankfully, when they turn 18 months and start saying "NO" to me, he is totally tuned in to them and they to him, so i can enjoy the newborns and he can enjoy the mouthy toddlers!

post #39 of 39

That sounds awesome, HoP.  I think (hope?) it will be similar for me and DH, except he is great with babies and toddlers and little kids, and I start warming up/relating more around school age.  He is only so-so with preteens and teens, but I like to think I am pretty great with them, and I really enjoy them.  Well...  ask me in about 11 years, LOL.

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