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[TIFF4NY]

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I have no internet at home so this is from my phone. Sorry for the delay!

[BeanBean06]

Hi all

Well I am 29 and my scottish DH is 28. We have been married for 6.5 yrs, together for 7. My DH works from home full time as a student support manager for an online university, and I have been a career nanny for almost 13 yrs. Altho I had to stop working at around 10 weeks into this pregnancy due to being out on bed rest. We live in a 3 bedroom home in the mountains of the east coast. We have 2 little dogs, an 8 yr old lasa apso mix name Sydney Mae & a 6 yr old Maltese mix named Charlie we also have a sable marten house rabbit (ie: hes litter trained) named Mr. Cookie

We started trying to get pregnant before we were even married lol we knew we wanted a big family and I had always had this gut instinct it would be difficult for me. To our surprise we found out just days before our wedding I was pregnant 2 weeks later while in our honeymoon in Scotland, I began to miscarry... We were planning on staying for about 5 weeks, but cut the trip short at 3weeks and flew home. It was confirmed via ultrasound the following day our baby was gone... We were devastated but not discouraged! We started trying again right away and a few months later just weeks before thanksgiving, we got another positive. And days before thanksgiving it all ended again... Long story short the next few years were spent getting tested, diagnosed, a few surgeries, some sickness, lots of blood work, monitoring and infertility treatments... My DH developed an exceptional skill of giving me needles without me even feeling them... And we spent all of our life savings combined. And still didn't have a baby, it all ended with us giving up and moving on to adoption. I had peace I would never have biological children.

We spent 3 yrs jumping through the hoops of the adoption world. And twice we were "chosen" went to the hospital to await "our" baby (once I even witness the baby's birth and held her first) and both times within hrs of the time to sign the papers... The birth mom changed her mind and we had to leave broken hearted.

Fast forward to this past August, we were fixing to renew our home study when I was VERY "late" and my DH had been bugging me to test FOR WEEKS! Lol I kept refusing, not wanting to bring up all of those old wounds with negative tests... On August 16th I relented and was blown away when it was positive. But I thought for sure we would lose the baby like all the times before... But we didn't! And even tho we have had lots of complications! Our MIRAcle girl remains perfect!

Ok that was long... Sorry lol

If you have any questions feel free to ask away

Her r some pics of us just for fun

Hubby & I this past spring in edinbrugh, Scotland



Sydney Mae & Charlie chilling out together



And our goofy Mr. Cookie playing with my socks lol



And just one more cuz he's so handsome hehe lol (u can probably tell he's my fav of our pets lol)

[KateHNM]

Your introduction was the perfect length.  It needed to be long because you have quite a story to tell.  I am so completely happy for you.  You deserve a healthy child more than a lot of people in this world.  I love the pictures by the way especially that beautiful rabbit!  I never thought I would ever consider a rabbit for a pet because I've seen rodents as pets at friend's houses and the smell of their cages was too much for me.  Just kind of assumed having a rabbit would be the same way.  But litter box trained?  Really?  That's really neat.  I think that's going to have to be my question.  Did he come litter trained when you got him or how did you teach it to him and was it difficult?

[BeanBean06]

Thank you so much! And yes, I always thought of rabbits as rodents and smelly lol but they actually aren't rodents, but Lagomorphs my hubby also growing up in the UK NEVER would have wanted a bunny inside our house. However one day we stopped in a petco to get dog food and there was this big beautiful brown bunny in a fish tank, with a note that read "I was abandonded outside the store in a box one night after closing and brought in my staff the next morning, that was 10 days ago, rescue me im 7$" he caught my eye. I asked to hold him as my DH rolled his eyes. And as soon as I held him he started licking my chin (which in bunny language is CRAZY! That he would do that so soon after meeting me. They ONLY lick those they REALLY love! I know people who have had bunnys for years and never been licked lol) then I past him to my DH and he feel for him too! We took him home thinking HE was a SHE (shows how much they knew lol his 2nd day home i picked him up and saw these HUGE B*LLS LOL) and within a few weeks got him nuetered and found out he was 2yrs old. After his nueter we offered him a litter box and he just never had another accident. And then after a few weeks we expanded his area to the whole kitchen, still no accidents. So we allowed him to have run of the whole main floor during the day and after abt a year my husband began working from home full time so we moved cookies "house" up to my DH's office and he now has full run of the house during the day and runs all the way back upstairs whenever he needs to use his box and he also races upstairs every night at 8pm sharp and "puts himself to bed" he's awesome and is very intune to the pregnancy, he's been lying on my belly since before I even knew there was a baby in there

This is his "house/safe place" where he sleeps or goes if he gets scared



And just one more of him in his favorite spot, up on the stairs where he can lie and watch us all in the family room... He's the king for sure, and very head strong... Even our pushy dog "submits" to him LOL

[KateHNM]

What a neat little critter.  He really sounds like a great pet I'm glad he found a nice home after being abandoned like that.  I guess that's karma for you.  You saved this little guy and in turn you got a really special rabbit.  I've never heard of one licking someone or being affectionate like that at all but of course I haven't been around them much.  If you don't mind me asking another question: With your husband working from home, are you considering homeschooling your daughter?  

[BeanBean06]

Yes we would LOVE to homeschool her!! I don't know what my job situation will be by then (I'm currently in school and hoping when I get my degree I can get in with my DHs company to work from home as well, part time ofcourse) but I do know she will either be homeschooled or go to private school! As our public school are not that great around here. My step-mom homeschooled my two sisters and brother and they are all so exceptionally smart and all on the honor rolls now at their respective colleges! So she will be a huge resource for us should we decide homeschooling is the way we want to go

[brooklyn_warbler]

Oh your story is so sweet and heartbreaking and wonderful all at once, it makes me so excited for you!!!

Where did you grow up?  How did you meet your husband (i.e. did you meet here, or in the UK)?
 

[IronMam]

Have you traveled to other international destinations besides Scotland?

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 

Oh your story is so sweet and heartbreaking and wonderful all at once, it makes me so excited for you!!!

Where did you grow up?  How did you meet your husband (i.e. did you meet here, or in the UK)?

 

Thank you so much! Honestly as hard as our journey to parenthood has been thus far, I wouldn't change any of it! THIS baby is the one we have been waiting for, and she will be SO loved! Our whole family on both sides are so anxiously awaiting her arrival!

To answer your questions, I grew up born and raised just outside of Baltimore city, Maryland. I lived there my whole life until I met my husband at 22. Which leads into your next question lol I didn't meet my hubby in Scotland, but boy wouldn't that have been romantic he and his family had moved to the states just a few yrs before we met. His dad got a job offer and they picked up and moved to just outside of DC. I was living just outside of Baltimore in my first little apartment working crazy hours as a nanny/house manager and LOVING my new found independence for Christmas of 05' my mom got me a computer for my apartment lol and I ofcourse set myself up a MySpace page! Lol cuz I was just too cool like that and after abt 5 days on MySpace. I got this message from this random guy... I almost deleted it, just like the others I hAd received... But something stopped me, and I went and looked at his profile pics. And I couldn't believe how CUUUTE he was!! I remember running across the hall to my friend and telling her to come and look at this hunky guy lol and should I message him back? I mean, I don't know him? Lol she was all UMM YES! message immediately! He's adorable! Lol so I did, Nd we began talking on MySpace. After a few days we were talking in AIM, and then he asked for my phone number... I often say that was my "mistake" LOL cuz once I heard his voice with that thick Scottish brogue....

I.was.smitten. And there was no turning back!Lol

After talking for abt 3weeks he came and took me out to dinner and a movie. Which turned into him coming back to my place for coffee and we literally sat up at my dining room table and talked over abt 6 pots of coffee until 6am!!!! Lol we didn't even notice the time, and I had to rush off to work and he home to sleep before his evening classes lol after that we didn't go more than a few days without seeing each other even tho we lived 2hrs away from one another. Within 6 weeks we went away together to the mountains of VA for a week and after 4.5 months he asked me to marry him and 3weeks later we were married in a beautiful intimate ceremony in his parents gorgeous home surrounded by all of our freinds and family

It was such a chance meeting, but so meant to be! He's amazingly perfect for me

[Munchkin08]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Have you traveled to other international destinations besides Scotland?

Where do you want to travel in the future?

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Have you traveled to other international destinations besides Scotland?

Yes lets see I've been to Canada, Guatemala, San Salvador, Bolivia, Haiti, Dominican Republic, England & Amsterdam. I would LOVE to go to more of Europe!!! We plan to once our finances will Allow lol we also would LOVE to move back to Scotland permanently one day, my DH misses living there and I fell in love with the country and its people soon after I first visited

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by Munchkin08 

Where do you want to travel in the future?

More of Europe! Italy, Spain, Morocco, Germany... Egypt, Alaska... And many more I can't think of at the moment lol I'd also LOVe to one day get an RV and tour the states

[brooklyn_warbler]

Ha, I love all the MySpaceing and AIMing...feels like such a long time ago now, doesn't it?  I guess it wasn't Friendster though (LOL!).

Yay, a fellow big traveler!  Why/when/with who did you do all your traveling in Central / South America?
 

[KateHNM]

Scotland sounds great.  My family has some Scottish background and one of my brothers actually traveled to Scotland by himself a couple years ago and had the most amazing time.  Apparently he was in a small town area of the country and by the end of his stay there they all knew him either by his first name or as "the American".  He said everyone was really down to earth for the most part and he had the best time.  Actually met a guy who knew a lot about the Scottish family we are related to(is also a member of that family) and gave my brother what he claimed was a family heirloom.  Invited him over for dinner and everything.  My husband and I are thinking about taking a trip there as well as to Ireland because he's half Irish!  Sorry I'm not supposed to talk about me but I think it's neat that you want to move to Scotland.  My question is:

Are there any strange Scottish traditions your husband's family has or weird sayings?  

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by brooklyn_warbler 

Ha, I love all the MySpaceing and AIMing...feels like such a long time ago now, doesn't it?  I guess it wasn't Friendster though (LOL!).

Yay, a fellow big traveler!  Why/when/with who did you do all your traveling in Central / South America?

 

It sure does feel like a long time ago lol I mean idk how I lived in my little apartment for almost a year without a computer!!!! What in the world did I do with my spare time? LOL

I did all of my Central/South America traveling before I met my DH. Guatemala, San Salvador happened in Highschool I went a total of 3 times and they were each 3 week long mission trips! We built orphanages, held abandoned babies, feed and ministered to the homeless. Ad traveled to high isolated mountain villages with much needed medical supplies... Amòung many other things... Those 3 trips changed me forever. I am SO greatful I had the opportunity to go to a small private school for Highschool that REQURED international mission work in order to graduate

Bolivia and Haiti happened after Highschool Haiti was mission trip with my church and DR was a vacation.

I also went to cancan 2x during and after Highschool. You know, cuz every young person needs a crazy weekend or two in cancan they hardly remember! HAHAHA LOL

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by KateHNM 

Scotland sounds great.  My family has some Scottish background and one of my brothers actually traveled to Scotland by himself a couple years ago and had the most amazing time.  Apparently he was in a small town area of the country and by the end of his stay there they all knew him either by his first name or as "the American".  He said everyone was really down to earth for the most part and he had the best time.  Actually met a guy who knew a lot about the Scottish family we are related to(is also a member of that family) and gave my brother what he claimed was a family heirloom.  Invited him over for dinner and everything.  My husband and I are thinking about taking a trip there as well as to Ireland because he's half Irish!  Sorry I'm not supposed to talk about me but I think it's neat that you want to move to Scotland.  My question is:

Are there any strange Scottish traditions your husband's family has or weird sayings?  

Traditions? Lets see... Well since moving to the states, my DH's family always has curry on thanksgiving hahah LOL if in the UK the main dish on Christmas is Haggis (YUCK!) but here it's just the normal turkey, cuz my mil says that any haggis you buy here is awful! (Cuz of cour it's not a Scottish sheep they are HUGE drinkers LOL my DH's one granny actually drinks cooking sherry! Thats her "cocktail" of choice LOL they have "poppers" at Christmas dinner and they are HUGE gifts givers during the holidays which was nice change for me as my family never was... We currently have a huge pile under our tree and two huge sacks full just from his family

As for funny sayings lol there are too many! Lol. Lets see babies or children are "baron" dinner is "tea" our jelly is "jam" and our jello is "jelly" gas is "petrol" if your hungry in Scotland you are "peckish" and if your tired you are "flaggin" .... A stove is a "cooker" and turkeys are "gobblers" lol that one always makes me laugh lol oh and pretty much everyone including my DH golfs and is obsessed with the sport, because well that's where the sport was invented lol

That is so neat that you have some family history there! And yes we can't wait to take the baby and visit more... We have seen SO much of the country but there is SO much more I want to see our next trip we MUST take Mira on the Harry potter hog warts train! yes I'm a dork but when I found out it travels between some of his family I ws super excited to ride it lol

[BeanBean06]

Though I would share some of my favorite pics of Scotland from our most recent trip









This is the view from my inlaws porch! Oh MY! It's SO hard to leave once we get there lol

[IronMam]

Originally Posted by BeanBean06 

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Yes lets see I've been to Canada, 

Oooh! Where in Canada? It's beautiful out here in the West. I've seen the Rockies in the Western US, but they don't compare to the Canadian Rockies! I haven't seen as much of Eastern Canada, though I hear PEI is amazing (my in-laws just moved there).

[BeanBean06]

Originally Posted by IronMam 

Oooh! Where in Canada? It's beautiful out here in the West. I've seen the Rockies in the Western US, but they don't compare to the Canadian Rockies! I haven't seen as much of Eastern Canada, though I hear PEI is amazing (my in-laws just moved there).

I would LOVE to visit the Rockies such beauty I've been to Niagra a couple of times altho none with my DH and he is dying to go, so that will have to be another trip we take together soon... We've also been to Montreal but only for about 15 hrs when our flight was diverted and then delayed LOL

[JennJenn84]

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