Has anyone been both pregnant and engaged at once?
I need advice on some radical moves I'm getting ready to lay down over here, and I'd love the perspective of some other women who've been engaged and pregnant before.
So, our little babe was a surprise, and although telling my BF went over incredibly well, the saddest thing to me was when he said that he had been thinking about proposing and of us getting married next year. It was sad because I could tell that now he feared that people would think it was because I got pregnant. I told him I'd been feeling ready to say "yes" if he did propose, and that I was feeling disappointed about sharing baby news instead of engagement news over the holidays.
We know both of our families and friends are just waiting for our engagement.
They love us and each other and it's just "what's next" in all our minds.
Flash forward a month, and well, keep in mind that I don't want a ring and my BF is less than theatrical, so I never expected a big scenic engagement moment, but I also didn't expect all this middling non-comittal talk about it.
After a few conversations about telling people we're expecting and engaged in the same moment, we haven't talked about it, and I have no reason to believe he is planning on proposing before we tell family and friends over Christmas. And for a series of reasons, we do need to tell them soon, even though I'm not 12wks 'till the end of Jan.
Personally, I want to announce this baby alongside our announcement of committing to each other as a family-- as husband and wife. I'm traditional enough to want that, but progressive enough to get it by proposing myself. I just don't think it's really fair that men get to set the timeline for this when we don't even believe he should be the "head of the household" anyway.
So what do you think? Should I do it? Will he take me seriously as the "asker"? IS THIS GENIUS OR MADNESS?
Oh, and additional details of relevance:
We're 25 and 27, financially healthy, together 2 years and living together for 6 months, and DEEPLY, SERIOUSLY in love.
And I already have my proposal speech written out... I can post it for the curious!!