Opinions? Recommendations on things to say?!
How to talk to your doctor about
Your doctor is there for you to have a conversation with! You have information they need. They have information you need.
I had a very specific concern about a recent vaccination my daughter received, and I brought it up by simply saying, near the beginning of the appointment (during the "chat" time) that I was concerned, and I outlined my reasons why. Turns out I had no need for alarm, we decided she'd get the shot, and I left feeling much, much better about that shot than I ever had before.
Before choosing a doctor, choose who you even wish to interview. It is a waste of your time and thiers if the doctor is not even open to selective vaccination. I would take your spouse or significant other to witness the interview. One question upon interview should be 'which vaccines do you consider important'.The answer should be very telling......all of them or risk mortality, that depends how long will you be breastfeeding, what is your lifestyle, do you or your husband have medical conditions, has your newborn been diagnosed with any medical conditions, and so on.
The doctors response though to that simple question should be very telling though.
If at all possible take along your partner or another person to well-baby visits, for the very same reason as in a hospital birth, so that you may have support.
These two steps may help make the conversation about selective vaccination go more smoothly while at an actual appointment.
If a parent needs a "support person" for a typical well-baby visit, then that parent needs a different doctor.
Agree. I've had appointments with our GP about getting the dT for DD and it ended with, "Give me a call when you're really to proceed." Any appointment to discuss issues doesn't need to end with, "Okay, do it right now!"
For the OP: I also suggest finding a doctor (maybe consider a GP, who tend to be less hardcore than peds IMO) who is willing to listen to you and to be flexible with a schedule. There is no point having a doctor who isn't a good fit, doesn't respect your concerns, and then ultimately fires you from the practice. Good luck!