One summer I hired a bunch of my high school students to come help me paint my house. They did a crappy job, but I was paying non-professionals $8/hour. It was good enough. Till one of the kids flushed a bunch of paper towels. Everyone denied it. These were 16/17/18 year old kids. They should bloody well know better. It cost more than a thousand dollars to fix. Making this project so expensive I would have been better off paying professionals--oh well.
I didn't go after any of the kids. I didn't go after their parents. Someone made a mistake. No one was willing to take blame, which makes me think that someone was feeling a lot of guilt. (I knew the kids pretty well.) It was a stupid mistake. They shouldn't have done it. They know now.
I am still close with them. I was mad and ranty for about a week but then I hugged each of them and said I was sorry for ranting. It was a mistake. Life is like that. Let's move on.
to each their own- I also had a neighbor back into my car- mine was not drivable and their was......I had to have it fited to get to work, they had to pay via their insurance-dollar amount should not be a factor-IMO
in this case I'm sure you learned a lesson as well-it's great if you have the money to do it, not everyone does- some have to rely on their insurance and it can cost the person far more (with deductibles and a rise in insurance because of it) if you have money to just use maybe cost doesn't matter that much to you
I feel you have to teach to from a very early age, it may not mean much to you or you may feel it cost more than it should, etc., but it does effect others- in the OP's case it a friendship or not-IMO