Our twins are almost 4 weeks old. And our older DD is almost 3.5 yrs old.
It is hard and tiring, but not quite as hard as we thought it was going to be. Our DD was a pretty high needs baby and toddler. Our two boys are not as high needs. They sleep much better, they can be put down (our DD didn't allow us to put her down until she was over 1 yr old), they will sometimes even fall asleep on their own!
Our day consists of:
DD wakes up and comes into our room to get into the family bed and "look at the babies". She recently moved to her own room. It has been a good thing, as all the night parenting would have disturbed her. I bring her downstairs to start her breakfast, playing, getting ready. Soon after (within 20-30 minutes) my wife comes down with one or both boys. We change them both and she feeds them. Either tandem or one at a time. She reads DD a book or three while nursing and while DD eats breakfast. Luckily our DD holds reading as one of her favourite activities. Something my wife can do easily with even both twins awake or nursing, so it enables her and my DD to spend good time together.
After breakfast, I get DD ready and take her to preschool and come back home. She loves preschool. And so we have kept her in for now.
The babies sleep a lot. Right now, at 3+ weeks old, the whole routine of the day is feed, change, rock, comfort, sleep, feed, change, feed, change, feed, change, rock, new sleeper, change sheets, feed, etc, etc, etc.
During the day, they feed and sleep randomly. Some times there is 1.5 hours between feedings, sometimes 20 minutes, sometime 2.5 hours. They need changed ever 30-45 minutes or so. they go through about 3-5 sleepers a day.
We are using disposables right now, as they HATE to be wet feeling and as long as they are peeing every 2 minutes, we cannot deal with that many changes or unhappy baby moments. Hopefully their wetting and such evens out a bit soon, then we can start on the cloth.
Each baby will have some diaper free nap in the morning at some point.
We bathe them every other day. One right after the other.
They eat either one right after the other, or both at the same time.
We try hard to call them by their names. But mostly we are at the point of calling them "this one and that one". As in "Has this one been changed? How about that one? Does this one need a new outfit? How about that one? When did that one finish eating?" etc etc.
Night time is coming together.
After dinner we start to wind down the day. I get our DD ready for bed, brush teeth, pj's etc. We try to get her down for 7-7:30pm. Then we all do "family reading" on the couch. (we used to do it in bed, but more difficult with the babies). After family reading of 2 books, I take her upstairs, we read 1-2 books in her bed, turn out the light, have our nightly 5-10 minute chat about our day, and then go to sleep. I lay with her until she falls asleep. Half the nights I fall asleep too and my wife has to come wake me up to help her get the night ready for the boys. That's about 8:30-9:00pm.
We change both babies and my wife tandem nurses. They will either fall asleep, or almost asleep, while nursing and usually be pretty easy to get down. Right now they sleep side-carred in a crib to our bed. For the first 2.5 weeks I was on the crib side. Now my wife is closer to them. She had a c-section, so our night time routine has recently changed as she has healed more.
Until 3 nights ago our night time went like:
10:30ish I change first baby, hand him to Mama who starts to nurse him while she sits up in bed with twin nursing pillow.
I change second baby and then hand him over. First baby is latched well and second baby gets latched on and they are tandem nursed.
I go to sleep while nursing happens unless Mama needs me.
Mama wakes me up to tell me first baby is finished. I burp him, change him if needed, swaddle him and rock him then put him down.
By that time, second baby is finished nursing so I do the same with him.
As soon as second baby is done nursing, Mama goes to sleep unless I need her.
1:30ish - One baby wakes and is hungry. I change baby, and hand baby over to Mama, who sits up with nursing pillow and starts to feed.
I wake up second baby (if he isnt already awake) and do the same for him
I sleep while they nurse. I put them back to sleep and down again.
Repeat again at 4:30 ish and again at 7:30ish.
The last few nights have changed a bit. Now my wife is more healed from the c-section and able to do some side laying nursing. But only one at a time.
She now sleeps on the crib side of the bed. When one wakes she wakes me up and I change him. I hand him back to her and she nurses him side laying. they either both fall alseep like that and stay like that until the other wakes, or she puts him back in the side carred crib. When the other wakes (usually within 30 minutes of first being nursed) we repeat. It is more feedings per night But remarkably we both feel more well rested this way.
We are going to get rid of the side car and go back to a full family bed soon so that my wife can have one on either side of her.
And we are looking forward to when they do not need so many night time diaper changes. We do the diaper before nursing, as diaper changes wakes them up.