After a period of general calm with XH of no communication, I literally bumped into him with his GF the other evening on the street (I turned around from the ATM machine JUST as they where walking past) and being this the VERY first time her and I ever met, I said, 'Hi, I'm *****, ***'s wife' and was about to put my hand out (I don't know what the best approach would be, but this is what came to me spontaneously), but she very deliberately didn't say ANYTHING, just aknowledged with her eyes. XH made a nervous laugh sound. So I broke the moment by telling XH I would get the kid's cellphone from my car (I was on my way to drop it off, and I guess he and GF popped out to the corner store to get some groceries), and stupidly/snidely (I ADMIT) I said to him, 'What a bitch!' meaning that it was bitchy of his GF not to even say hello to me.
Anyway, low and behold the next day I got a furious email from him saying did I mean bitch as in 'whore', because "if anyone is a whore it's me for me having used him to have children, trying to make him build a house for our family"....basically everything that a family does, he interpeted it as me being a huge whore (we were together almost 20 years).
I am really taken aback. I totally get that I was out of line for my snide remark, but seriously, he literally said I was a WHORE for having been his wife all those years...that I 'sold myself' to have children and a husband!
Plus GF sent me an email saying 'f off'.
All of us here in this forum have had more bitter/less bitter separations/divorces, I know mistakes and harsh words can be said, but is his reaction justified? Can someone really be considerd a whore for building a family with her life partner, but after almost 20 years realise it's not working out?