Partners at prenatals? - Page 2
With this one, the MW has moved much closer, and she has a fun office for the kids so sometimes I take them with me and sometimes I leave them with DH. Many appts are on weekends. I prefer to go by myself so I may ask lots of questions.
This is the first pregnancy that I have had ultrasounds, and DH has gone to the one and he will go to the next one, as well.
He follows my lead and always come home when I need him. I am sick (nausea) a lot and do I try to save him for those days, which are unfortunately too frequent!
In all three of my pregnancies, DH goes to the 20 week ultrasound (which is usually the only ultrasound I have) and a couple of regular appointments, just to get familiar with the midwives. It only bothered me in my first pregnancy (for a lot of different reasons, like it was our first and we had just moved to a new state, away from family), but not enough that I got super upset about it. It doesn't phase me at all anymore. There really isn't a whole lot for him to bear witness to at them. *shrug* Plus he's got a lot of work to do at work, and if I have him coming with me, he's got to put in extra time later to do the work he didn't get done earlier.
Let's see. With the first one, he went to all the midwife appointments, but I don't think he went to any of the shadow care ones at the doc - like everyone else said, they're boring and it was time off I wanted him to save for the post-partum period. Oh, but he did come to the ultrasounds though, we had a few extra (kind of unwanted) ones that he came with for.
This time around, I expect even less, we have DS to pick up from school or whatever, so he will probably only go to a few of the midwife appointments and the ultrasound. Frankly, I will enjoy the me time. :)
My husband didn't go to any prenatal appointments with me, with either kid. It never occurred to me to ask him to come to any, nor be upset or concerned by him not being interested in coming, either. I did call him so he was on the cell phone when we had an ultrasound and found out the sex. We're kind of an "absence makes the heart grow fonder" kind of couple, anyway. Shrug. I probably would have been more annoyed than anything having him there, really.
He would go if I asked him to and if I made them on days that he could go but I usually just take whatever day works best for me as far as if I want a babysitter for DD or not. (2 year olds are not so helpful in prenatals) I do like when he comes though because I feel like the doctors don't try and push things on me as much as they do when he is gone. If I or we say no when DH is there they move onto the next thing rather than try and persuade me otherwise.
He came to a few of them. It wasn't often practical for him to go as he'd have to find somebody to cover his classes or reschedule his office hours, and I didn't really care about having him come to the routine ones. He did attend the ultrasound and the big pre-birth one where we discussed our birth preferences. Next time I get pregnant, whenever that might be, I anticipate it'll be the same, with both of us juggling our screwy irregular work schedules.
eta: He also came to one early on when I had some questions for the doc about ultrasounds and where the provider I saw at the previous visit had made me uneasy. And he attempted to come to the next one after that, which was our interview with a different provider's office, but got stuck in traffic and was way late.