Tired of everyone telling me how inconvenient this baby is « Back to Group Discussions

[gentlymade]

So maybe I am just hormonal, but it is really pissing me off how everyone in my family, hubby included, keeps telling me to when it would be convenient for me to have the baby. I know that they are half kidding, but for crying out loud. I am growing a baby here! I don't need to constantly be told that if the baby comes on this day or that day it would really mess up someone's work schedule. All that matters, and all I want to discuss, is when I am ready and most importantly when my baby is ready. If the timing doesn't work for anyone else, too bad!! It is not like I really have any control over it! Is anyone else getting this from their family? 

[itsajenism]

I totally understand. It's been happening for a couple of weeks, along with the "is baby here yet?" questions. I've pretty much gotten to the point now where I say something ridiculously snarky/sarcastic in return.

[sapientia]

I have gotten some remarks about when would be a good time,etc, ironically from family that won't be here, have no real interest, and the birth has no bearing on their life whatsoever...I don't get it. IT does put pressure on me, though. I can't stand it. 

My grandmother is also calling almost every day (she and I have a strained relationship to say the least) and asking how I am and if anyone will be here for the birth and will DH be here...weird stuff that aggravates the hell out of me. 

[tiqa]

My husband didn't quite say baby's birth would be inconvenient per se, but he did want a Christmas baby... when that didn't happen he says I need to "hold it in" until New Year's Eve.  (His friend's wife gave birth on the 4th of July and so I think he's trying to compete with the "cool birthdays".  Geesh.  He says it half in jest but it still annoys me.  Hold it in, yeah right.

[gentlymade]

Wish I could think of something clever to say back, but I generally just settle for an angry glare... maybe not the most effective communication tool, but I am amazed at the insensitivity this time around. It is like people think since this is my third baby, I shouldn't be feeling anxious or anything. Hormones don't just disappear after the first babe is born. Doesn't work that way.

[birthjunkiemom]

I'm getting that, too.  Now that Christmas is over, my extended family isn't saying much about it, but I'm getting it from my immediate family.  I'm only 36 weeks, and I typically go a bit over so it's not very likely I'll have the baby this month, but my 14 year old keeps saying I CAN'T have the baby this month, because she doesn't want to share her birthday month.    My husband wants me to have the baby before the 1st weekend in January, so he can call out of a work weekend he's scheduled to go to.  And, part of it is pressure from myself, because school is due to start again on the 7th, and I REALLY don't want to go back to teaching a bunch of 6 & 7 year olds at 38 weeks pregnant.  I'm already cranky and emotional.