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Breathless Wonder 
I am very sorry your children have had such a rough time of it. Illness of any kind can certainly wear on you when you have a big family. I'm never sure which is worse- all of us getting it at once, or in succession. I hope you are all healthy soon!
I am just curious as to whether any of you have had a positive swab for pertussis, or if you were diagnosed based on symptoms, and the notion that pertussis was "going around"? I know I would want to know for sure what I had, before making any decision regarding treatment- prophalactic or acute.
My family caught something back in early October. I was VERY sick. Coughing, couldn't catch my breath, vomiting, dizzy- for a month. I was told it was probably this year's flu, which was "going around" in my area. But without a swab, I'll never know what it was. I know that for myself, it is easier to have a clear and simple plan of attack when I've had a full night's sleep, am reasonably healthy myself, and am not surrounded by sick and needy children. :-) It can be a tricky thing, to evaluate my decision in the midst of crisis. I hope whatever decision you have made is the right one for your family!
Wishing you good health in the new year!
It's very true that it is exhausting to have illness amidst a big family!! I don't like it dragging on but bathrooms can become an issue if it is everyone at once so I much prefer some kind of delay LOL.
The 9yo and 11yo are probable/highly suspect cases of pertussis in their official words. A swab was taken and should be back to confirm tomorrow but there's no doubt in my mind. I've never seen a cough like it and I've seen plenty!! When the healthcare professionals finally saw one of the severe fits, the Dr took a big step back and they were pretty darn sure what it was. It is fairly classic in its presentation and my expectation is pertussis (as are the health care professionals who have seen other cases in the community), which is why they did not hesitate to prescribe antibiotics for everyone else.
As for the point in getting the vaccination, there's no way to know for certain that the 3 of us who likely had it first actually did since we are beyond the 'swab' stage, and I have a baby due in April. Beyond that we had decided just prior (literally, days) to coming down sick to go ahead with some of the shots due to the pertussis outbreak, upcoming baby etc. Our kids are getting older and it is much harder to control the spread of illness now...we feel for us personally it is the best choice as we haven't been able to trust others to keep their children home while sick. I know we risk more issues with things like ear infection by getting the shots but honestly the risk is there with any illness they acquire, vaccine or natural. I do want them protected from tetanus in the case of some kind of catastrophic burn or just because kids don't always tell us when they get hurt or take care of it properly. Being that I have an interest in horses plays into that part of the decision as well.
Beyond all this, I also see the huge stigma in not vaccinating and the tendency to blame those who choose not to for any serious outcome or spread of disease. I do not agree with this but I do see the logic in vaccinating against pertussis in this current state of affairs (where the vaccinated are still subclinically spreading it - how can we protect ourselves from something that presents as a simple cold?).
There's no easy answer but I can tell you that life is filled with these kinds of decisions and there's no way to know what the perfect choice is except to do our best as a parent in love and pray for a safe outcome for our children. My Mom died of colon cancer just last year at 52 and I can tell you that sometimes awful awful things happen that we can't control at all. It really did make me re-evaulate my choices for my kids and myself, knowing that while no choice may be without risk, I also wasn't willing to go without trying. My Mom in courage faced dozens of rounds of chemo which was the onlly thing that kept her alive to spend an extra year + with us. Ideal situation? Absolutely not. But she took the risk to give her a quality of life and the extra months with her kids and grandkids and I am grateful. She didn't take medication, nor flu vaccines, nor smoked, etc etc...she was simply overlooked in screening despite having stomach issues her entire life. For that we lost her forever. My Dad who has taken every single flu vaccine (they are free at work, after all LOL), medication whenever he felt off or required it, is an ox and rarely ever gets sick at all. We are all different and choosing one path or another won't guarantee wellness or illness. My sister's kids are fully vaccinated and have had more illnesses than my kids have BUT they also are less aware of hygiene and are public schooled. They are both intelligent, well adjusted and certainly not damaged children. My sister might tell me 'I told you so' when she finds out the kids got the shots in the end. But that's not going to make my decision either. ;)
I personally have eaten my words many times over the years and over many pregnancies and children. I have had 3 homebirths and have had to humble myself and come to the decision that my next may be born in the hospital. I just don't have easy births...vaginal ones yes but I have had severe hemmorrhages and/or posterior presentations, stuck shoulders, etc - basically complications with every birth so far. Have I had amazing births at home? Yes and no. I loved being home and being less interfered with, and staying in my own bed. But I am not willing to risk mine and my baby's lives for this preference either. Sometimes we have to make decisions we don't think we'd ever have to make and do the best we can. Life can kick your butt especially if you are too rigid to realise when it's time to change the plan. LOL
What I am saying is that if I had one or two kids who were older now and/or a less severe experience with pertussis or just less risk in general (ie, no small children and/or infants/pregnant), my choices might be different. If I had easy short births without complications then I would stay home and birth no question. But life rarely goes as we expect and while I don't judge others for their choices, I re-evaluate mine with the current wisdom I possess. :) I do eat my words, many times. But I also fiercely love my family and will strive to give them the best of what I know at any given point of my life~
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