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post #161 of 203
did you have a weight goal in mind? Unless you were underweight to begin with, I thnk you might be just fine. with about 10 weeks left, there is still opportunity to gain, too! But do check with your midwife if you have concerns!
post #162 of 203
How much did you gain with your first little one, sky_and_lavender? I'm not sure how steady/slow your weight gain has been, but the average of 14 lbs over 31 weeks comes out to nearly half a pound a week, so if you continue at that rate it will get you to just under 20 lbs gained by the end. I have a friend (of normal, healthy bmi/weight pre-pregnancy) who only gained 16 lbs and her daughter was over 6 lbs at birth. So you could be fine!

But also, its not really necessary to have gained anything in the first trimester, so if you take that out of consideration then your weight gain has been closer to just under a pound a week (again, not sure what your actual weight gain pattern has been, just throwing this out there) and if that continues for the next 9-10 weeks then you could end up around 22-23 lbs gained.
Were you underweight pre-pregnancy?
Edited by kitteh - 4/2/13 at 10:13am
post #163 of 203

I've searched high and low about whether it can be safe to ever lose during 3rd trimester.  I'm not saying that because I want to put my baby in jeopardy, but I'm gaining too much.  I've reached the 40 lb mark.  I'm not eating processed foods or candy.  I'm eating healthy, just probably too often.  I find that if I don't eat every 3 hours, I get crabby and irritable and tired and even dizzy if it's been 4 hours or more.  But I don't want to end up delivering at +50 lbs.  I don't know if I need to consult with a nutritionist or just work out more.  It is starting to really depress me.  Thankfully I still fit into all of my maternity clothes, but I'm starting to resemble the quintessential 'fat pregnant chick' and that depresses me because I wanted to look nice with a healthy bump for my baby showers that are coming up next month....  (I'll stop self-loathing now)  kid.gif

post #164 of 203
Thread Starter 

This totally looks like why I wanted to start this thread - people at opposite ends of the weight gain spectrum, both listening to their bodies and eating healthfully, both feeling guilty or that something is "wrong".  Not that I have medical experience, but from the sounds of things sky and lavender and jnajla you are just two examples of the range of normal with the recommended average being somewhere in between.  Some bodies want to hold onto more weight, other bodies just crave what they need.  neither thing is unhealthy in and of itself.  Hugs ladies and keep listening to your bodies and try not to over analyze what it's doing. 

post #165 of 203
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Originally Posted by spotty4 View Post

I just had my 28 week appointment this morning.  I am officially up 17 lbs.  I think you're doing just fine, ulybka312. :)  At my 24 week appointment I was up 10 lbs.  So baby and I definitely had a serious growth spurt the last 4 weeks!

I`m having a serious growing spurt now too. I`ve started gaining weight al 20 weeks...so, I gained 20 lbs in 7 weeks... I think that`s very much...I, ve gained 3 lbs in the past 3 days...

post #166 of 203

Just wanted to throw this out there....... my acupuncturist/boss keeps talking to me about she gained 60lbs with her first baby (she is in amazing shape now, was maybe a little over weight when she first got pregnant, but not by much).  A mutual friend of ours gained 80lbs (very tall woman) and is now a perfectly healthy weight.  Another friend of mine reached almost 200lbs during pregnancy (she is a tiny lady who maybe started out at 120...maybe!).  All of these women had healthy babies and births.  They all look amazing now (okay, some of them had their kids 8 years ago, but still) and didn't have to spend hours upon hours a week working out trying to lose the baby weight.  It's completely fine to gain a lot of weight!  Especially when you know you are eating well and healthy and know that you will continue to eat healthy and be active after baby is born.  Don't beat yourself up over gaining more weight than anticipated.  I know I spent a week or so freaking out that I had gained over 30lbs in 6 months, but you just have to go with it.  We are pregnant and we are going to gain weight!!

 

And maybe I just say this as I've gained an inch in 4 days (and another inch the week before......I don't keep track of weight as much because I don't have a scale that really works), but honestly I think the "norms" are nothing to worry ourselves over.  I wonder what women in other cultures are taught to expect about weight gain (I think about the same thing when it comes to dietary recommendations/restrictions), especially because the FDA gives most of the recommendations here in the states and I tend to disregard much of anything that the FDA says. 

 

Just my two cents!  I think you are all wonderfully beautiful joy.gif

post #167 of 203
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Originally Posted by Sweet Huck View Post

 Unless you were underweight to begin with, I thnk you might be just fine. with about 10 weeks left, there is still opportunity to gain, too!

 

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Originally Posted by kitteh View Post

How much did you gain with your first little one, sky_and_lavender? I'm not sure how steady/slow your weight gain has been, but the average of 14 lbs over 31 weeks comes out to nearly half a pound a week, so if you continue at that rate it will get you to just under 20 lbs gained by the end. I have a friend (of normal, healthy bmi/weight pre-pregnancy) who only gained 16 lbs and her daughter was over 6 lbs at birth. So you could be fine!

But also, its not really necessary to have gained anything in the first trimester, so if you take that out of consideration then your weight gain has been closer to just under a pound a week (again, not sure what your actual weight gain pattern has been, just throwing this out there) and if that continues for the next 9-10 weeks then you could end up around 22-23 lbs gained.
Were you underweight pre-pregnancy?

 

Thanks, Sweet Huck and kitteh, for your support and thoughts on this.

 

I gained 30 lbs with my first, and I also started out 20 lbs heavier last time (still technically in the "healthy" range for my height, but lots of flab). My baby was almost 8 lbs, which was a shock because I'm so little and my husband's family also runs small. This time I started out at the lower end of "normal" for my height, but in much better health and with a better diet. (My diet last time was still excellent compared to the average person, but I think I overate in the 3rd trimester.)

 

I lost half a pound in the first trimester, so I guess my weight gain is not so bad. Good perspective. It's crazy how hard it is to put on a pound, though. Thank you for the example of your friend, kitteh--it is good to hear a non-horror story.

 

I saw my midwife today and she said she was not concerned at all about my weight, because obviously my bump is growing and I'm gaining; I'm a small person anyway; and my diet is exceptionally good. She said the fact that I don't suffer from any cravings may be because my diet is mineral rich and totally adequate. I measured 31 weeks, and I'm almost 31 weeks. So that was good. 

 

BabySmurf, I think it's true there's a lot of variation in what might work best for different bodies. But to me there's no doubt that being underweight in pregnancy can be a risk to one's baby (as can being overweight). That's what makes all this stuff hard. But for all of us having issues, I guess being conscious of eating a diet rich in nutrients and without empty calories, while exercising regularly and getting enough rest, is our best assurance, whether running high or low in weight, that we'll be okay.

post #168 of 203
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Originally Posted by sky_and_lavender View Post

 

BabySmurf, I think it's true there's a lot of variation in what might work best for different bodies. But to me there's no doubt that being underweight in pregnancy can be a risk to one's baby (as can being overweight). That's what makes all this stuff hard. But for all of us having issues, I guess being conscious of eating a diet rich in nutrients and without empty calories, while exercising regularly and getting enough rest, is our best assurance, whether running high or low in weight, that we'll be okay.

Yes I agree that it can be a sign that something is wrong, but most times it's not - especially if there are not other indicators of problems. 

 

 

So recently every time I see my MIL, which is pretty often, she exclaims "Wow, you're really growing/pooping out/look big! How much weight have you gained??" duh.gif  None of your business!!! Thanks for the compliment eyesroll.gif.  Argh.  She did this when I was pregnant with DS too...she has a weird obsession with weight/appearances. (When I put on a few pounds not pregnant, she actually reached out and pinched my flab and made a comment about it).  Typically I tend to be amused by it all, but it's starting to get on my nerves lately.  I'm not sure exactly where I'm at right now, but I would guess around +30lbs.  Which is right where I was with DS. 

post #169 of 203
I've read several studies recently that indicates a strong correlatio between first and second trimester weight gain and birth weight, not so much the third trimester gain (babies >8 lbs at birth were likely born from mothers who gained >25 lbs during their pregnancies with rapid gains in the 1st and 2nd trimesters) so that is why I was wondering about the third trimester weight loss (or maintaining until birth). My appetithas decreased some due to my sudden onset frequent heartburn...
post #170 of 203
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Originally Posted by BabySmurf View Post

So recently every time I see my MIL, which is pretty often, she exclaims "Wow, you're really growing/pooping out/look big! How much weight have you gained??" duh.gif  None of your business!!! Thanks for the compliment eyesroll.gif.  Argh.  She did this when I was pregnant with DS too...she has a weird obsession with weight/appearances. (When I put on a few pounds not pregnant, she actually reached out and pinched my flab and made a comment about it).  Typically I tend to be amused by it all, but it's starting to get on my nerves lately.  I'm not sure exactly where I'm at right now, but I would guess around +30lbs.  Which is right where I was with DS. 

It seems like pregnancy bring out the deepest feelings or fears of people around the pregnant one, even strangers but of course loved ones, too. Now that I am in that "very pregnant" stage, I often feel like people don't see anything but "pregnancy" when looking at me, and how they feel about their own bodies/pregnancies/(in)fertility gets reflected in how they respond to me.

 

If it was my MIL acting that way, I'd be annoyed, too, BabySmurf. I can't believe she would ever feel ok grabbing someone like that--whoa! What a lack of boundaries! Sorry you have to deal with that! I hope she has other, good qualities that balance out this difficult trait.

post #171 of 203

I've lost a few lbs, so I'm at +37 for this pregnancy so far.  I have found that my cravings aren't as strong lately and I don't have as much "room" for food, so I've had to break up meals into mini meals and I must be getting less calories that I was getting in the 1st & 2nd tri.  I don't think that I'm retaining much water because my wedding ring fits the same as it did pre-preg.  So, perhaps all of my weight gain is just baby.... and boobs.... and ass....  *sigh*

post #172 of 203

I'm up about 33.5 lbs at 27.5 weeks. But, I've only gained maybe 1-2 lbs this past month. Hoping to keep from gaining much more. If I could keep it at about a 40 lb weight gain, that would be pretty great. But, I won't hold my breath. I'll just do the best I can. I also have found I can't eat as much at one sitting without feeling gross/sick after. I'm measuring 31 weeks for the fundal height. 

post #173 of 203
I'm also finding myself unable to eat big meals, but instead I'm just hungry every 3-4 hours or so. I've taken to eating more snacks in between my smaller meals. I've also found that cutting out the empty carbs and junk has really helped curb the cravings. Some of my lack of appetite might be due to this ongoing head cold/bronchitis though. I haven't gained much over the past 3 weeks, maybe a pound and a half? I'll be 30 weeks on Saturday and I'm up about 16 lbs.
post #174 of 203

Just checking in.  My 32 weeks appointment has me at 21 lbs gained.

 

Its funny how my weight gain has been in spurts.

 

30-32 wks --> +4 lbs (2 lbs/wk)

28-30 wks --> +0 lbs

24-28 wks --> +7 lbs (just under 1 lb/wk)


Edited by spotty4 - 5/3/13 at 9:19am
post #175 of 203
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Originally Posted by spotty4 View Post

Just checking in.  My 32 weeks appointment has me at 21 lbs gained.

 

Its funny how my weight gain has been in spurts.

 

30-32 wks --> +5 lbs (just over 2 lbs/wk)

28-30 wks --> +0 lbs

24-28 wks --> +7 lbs (just under 1 lb/wk)

 

That's funny - I also plateaued between 28-30 weeks, but gained 6 between 24-28.  Curious to see where I am at my 32 week appointment next week!

post #176 of 203
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There is definitely another growth spurt right around that 32 week mark.  I was feeling pretty good about my weight gain and was even for a couple of weeks (which is really not typical for me) Then BAM I was up almost 10 pounds, going from about +30 to +40.  That felt like too much....but Ive stayed even again since then.  Which was about 2.5 weeks ago.  the weight stuff is so weird.  My wedding rings are also fitting the same, so it's all "baby weight"...which is mostly butt and thighs.  Although I was leaning over the counter the other night to rest my back and tried lifting my belly from underneath and it was really, really heavy.  Much heavier than I realized, so I guess a lot of weight gain really has been the baby/placenta/etc.  I'm hoping to not gain too much more...but I just bought a buy one get one deal of chocolate cereal on an impulse....gah.

post #177 of 203
With my first I experienced the strange spurts and jumps in weight during certain weeks (once I gained 3 lbs in one week, two weeks running!) But then my weight would stay even for a week or so. It was so strange, and actually kinda anxiety producing!

This time has been much more steady and predictable--just around a pound a week starting in the 2nd trimester, sometimes slightly less. I'm 33 weeks tomorrow and have gained just under 20lbs and if I continue at this same rate I should end up with a total gain right around 25-30.

Funny though, with dd I was already +30 lbs @33 wks but even though I'm 10lbs less right now I *feel* heavier. I think its because of the hot weather, whereas with dd my 3rd tri was over winter.
post #178 of 203

It's been awhile since I checked in, I figured this would be a good place to start.  :-)   Add me to the club that started this pregnancy smaller than in previous ones and have gained a lot faster.  With my first pregnancy I started at 137 (I'm about 5'4") and gained a total of 37, ending at 174.  With my second I started at 157 (I had lost all of the weight from the first baby but then gained 20 lbs back), anyway I gained 37 again and ended at 194.  Lost all the baby weight, started gaining again, got serious about food/exercise and got myself down to 120 and not in amazing shape but more fit than I had ever been previously.  So I started this pregnancy at 120, and at my 32 week checkup last week I was officially up 45 lbs to 165.  Yikes.  I was holding steady at 1 lb per week for awhile and then all of a sudden it became more like 2-2.5 lbs per week.  I am HUNGRY like all the time.  I expected to probably gain a bit more since I was starting out smaller but this is more than I wanted to gain for the entire pregnancy.  Bleh.  Judging by my past history I may have the baby in 4.5-5.5 weeks (if he comes in the timeframe that the first 2 came in).  With my luck though I'll go overdue this time instead of a couple weeks early.  LOL  My blood pressure is always good, though, so my midwife figures this is just what my body wants to do.  Although I'm pretty sure a lot of it has to do with the fact that I'm eating a lot of crapaliciously wonderful things that I wasn't eating before I got pregnant.  I am loving fried chicken, french fries, and ice cream right now.  I had all but sworn off those things except for maybe a once or twice a month treat previously when I was losing weight.  So really the excessive weight gain is not exactly a surprise. I'm kind of really enjoying not feeling like I have to count my calories right now, I must say.  LOL

post #179 of 203
I feel like my weight has been fluctuating a lot lately, within a 3-4 pound range. I also feel like my hunger has taken on a life of its own. I woke at 3:30am to hunger pangs and had a bowl of kix with sliced strawberries. Then I got up around 7:30 and chatted with dh for a bit before he started breakfast. I was feeling hungry when he started, and by the times the food was ready (maybe 15-20 minutes?) I was absolutely FAMISHED. Like jittery and feeling weak. After I finished what he'd made I was still feeling gross and hungry, so I had another bowl of kix and some of dd's animal crackers. I guess my blood sugar must have crashed? It was crazy! Mostly I eat every few hours and am usually able to avoid that sudden OMFG FEED ME NOW reaction.

35 weeks and scale said I'm up 21 lbs this morning.
post #180 of 203
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Originally Posted by kitteh View Post

35 weeks and scale said I'm up 21 lbs this morning.

 

That's not that much. Your baby may just need more food to put on their half a pound per week. :) And yeah, best to eat protein and carbs together, as you already knew, to avoid the sugar crash. 

 

I'm up 37 lbs at almost 33 weeks. I feel OK with that though since the gain has been pretty slow in the end and I don't feel like I'm going too crazy. I have had to eat more some days though. Just as long as you try to pick healthy foods most of the time. :)

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