Our twins are 5 weeks old. They slept a LOT in the first couple weeks and now that they are awake a bit more, there are a lot more tears.... nothing like when my older DD was a newborn and cried for hours everyday... but more tears than I can reasonably respond to in the way that I could with DD. I hear some variation of the phrase "tolerate some crying" a lot when other parents of multiples talk about the infant stage and I'm wondering what this means... Is there a certain quality of cry that always gets responded to? A certain number of minutes you feel okay with them crying? How do you handle the necessary tears when you can't get to them right away?
It absolutely eats me up inside that I just can't respond to their cries all the time right away. I know I need to let some of my angst over this go, but I'm not sure how to. There are times when one is crying and I just feel panicky inside.