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brooklyn_warbler: If you would like, please take the time to give an introduction about yourself. There are no limits on how long or short.

 

Members: Please ask any questions that come to mind! Please keep in mind that the spotlighted member has the right to not answer anything she isn't comfortable with.

 

There are no time limits or end dates to these so ask away for as long as you have questions!

 

Have fun!

post #2 of 29

What made you want to get into midwifery :)?

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Hi everyone!!  Sorry to be tardy with my intro, but we were at New Year's Eve festivities at my parents' all day!  And then we slept til noon today.  bigeyes.gif
 

Okay, so I'll try to cover the relevant info as briefly as possible (hard for me...I'm verbose!) and then will look forward to hearing questions.

 

So I'm Robina, I'm 33, and I live in Brooklyn, NYC.  I primarily grew up here in the BK, but we moved back and forth between here and Lahore, Pakistan -- where my dad grew up -- with frequency throughout my childhood.  I was in my mid-twenties before I really appreciated how unusual it was that my parents would just pull me out of school for several months at a time to live in Lahore (I went to the NYC public school system, and my teachers would send me with worksheets and stuff to complete while I was gone).  We also traveled a lot on the way to and fro, so before I was 10 I had been to many countries in Europe and Asia.  Seeing so many different cultures has been very formative for me, and I still love to travel (although right now there is no money to do so, alas.  I have no idea how my parents did that with 3 kids -- my mom was a SAHM and my dad owned a newstand, so they weren't exactly rolling in the dough either).

 

I met my husband when I was 20, when we were both working at a Barnes & Noble while in college.  We dated for five years before we got engaged, so all told we will have been together for 13 years this June -- that's crazy to me!  We have two kids -- our daughter Wrenna is 5 and our son Ilan is 2.5.   Both were born at home.  Wren is my firecracker -- she is whip smart, imaginative, loves to climb and dance, and is hilarious.  Illy is my sweetheart -- he's sensitive, cares very much about other people and how they are doing, and seems a bit bewildered by the wild ways of the world.  We homeschool them, and at this young age we lean toward an unschooling philosophy, but I would say long-term we would characterize ourselves as "eclectic" homeschoolers. 

 

I originally was an academic, and I studied and taught English.  I specialized in African American Culture and Gender Studies.  I got my PhD in English the year my son turned 1, even though for many years prior I knew I didn't want to stay an academic.  I stuck with it because it paid (poorly!) and worked with our family's lifestyle, but I knew for several years that my true calling was midwifery.  It was really scary to change gears because all things considered I was doing well as an academic, but I just knew it wasn't where I wanted to be.  My husband on the other hand is still a doctoral student -- in Economics -- and he hopes to get a full time academic position when he finishes his PhD next Fall.

 

I have a huge extended family, most of whom live in Brooklyn.  I am very close to my sisters, who live across the street from me, and my parents, who live up the block.  Family is a huge deal in my life and I am so grateful to be close to them!

 

Other things?  I like to knit and sew, learn about herbalism and alternative medicine, write, and read.  My husband and I are very political and were very involved in the Occupy Wall Street movement last year though sadly not anymore.  I was a vegetarian for 22 years until this fall, when we started eating meat from a couple of very specific local farms.  I feel really good about the switch.  

 

Here is our family at my sister's wedding two weeks ago:

 

 

 

I think that's enough info -- ha!  Thanks to Tiffany for setting this up!!  And Happy New Year everyone!!


Edited by brooklyn_warbler - 1/1/13 at 11:57am
post #4 of 29
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What made you want to get into midwifery :)?

 

It was my academic work, weirdly enough.  When I was 20 years old I wrote a paper on medieval gynecological texts (!) and then in grad school I did a lot of worth on the history of birth practices, midwifery, and overall women's health.  By the time I was 25 or 26 I had the distinct feeling that I actually wanted to move into practice rather than theory, but I couldn't imagine becoming a midwife without having been pregnant or having given birth.  I got pregnant with Wren when I was 27, and the day after she was born was the first day I looked into options for midwifery school here in NYC.  smile.gif  But it still took a few years before I got up to the courage to officially make the switch.  I also had to do a full year of pre-reqs (generally the stuff nurses would come into the program with, since my program is for nurses and non-nurses) before I could officially start school.  I took 9 classes in 9 months!  It was crazy.  But I am so glad I am finally here, and so glad I have such a supportive husband and family.  It feels more right than academia ever did. 

post #5 of 29
You have a beautiful family! What a privilege to travel so much in your childhood smile.gif where are some places you haven't yet been to, that you would like to visit?
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You have a beautiful family! What a privilege to travel so much in your childhood smile.gif where are some places you haven't yet been to, that you would like to visit?

 

I haven't been anywhere in Africa, so I'd like to travel there - both Northern and sub-saharan.  I also haven't been anywhere in the far east and would like to check out Vietnam and Japan specifically.  Pakistan and China actually share a border so at some point we would like to cross it and travel around China.  I also have had this weird childhood desire to travel to Norway (one of the European countries I've never been to) so I'd like to cross that off my bucket list someday.  Random!  Basically, there is no place we don't want to go.  I hope homeschooling and our chosen professions will make it something we can return to someday.  My husband and I haven't traveled abroad since the summer before I got pregnant with Wren (when we went to Pakistan, India, and Nepal).  We've only been to Mexico and Canada with the kids. 

post #7 of 29
What made you decide to unschool your children?
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What made you decide to unschool your children?


 Haha, the answer to this is also "because of my research!"  I think it all started because, as an educator, I started realizing that the way literacy is taught in most schools is just not evidence-based at all.  I found that hugely problematic, but I didn't think much of the option of homeschooling until I got pregnant and fell down the natural birth -> attachment parenting -> homeschooling rabbit hole.  MDC was actually really helpful in this regard because I met some friends through here that were homeschooling and it introduced me to the amazingly diverse homeschoolers here in NYC, which put it more on my radar as a viable and realistic option.

 

There are many things about schooling that I find problematic, but I try to see our decision to homeschool as one that is based on the essentially positive possibilities open to us as a homeschooling family rather than the negatives of school, if that makes sense.   I can go into more detail too, if you are interested!

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I could never be a vegetarian I love meat too much but I'm curious, after 22 years as a vegetarian, why did you start eating meat again and do you feel any healthier or worse since the decision?

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Oh and what exactly does "lean toward an unschooling philosophy" mean?  Do you have any plan or schedule for how you teach your little ones?  I've never heard of this before.

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I could never be a vegetarian I love meat too much but I'm curious, after 22 years as a vegetarian, why did you start eating meat again and do you feel any healthier or worse since the decision?


It was a combination of shifting understandings of health since becoming responsible for the development of young children and a desire to support people who I think are attempting to CHANGE the system of meat production we have in this country (which I think is horrific, not to mention unsustainable) rather than a desire to opt out of that system entirely.  We always had a very healthy diet, but I do feel better actually.  I was becoming increasingly uncomfortable with having to be on supplements (especially B supplements) to feel like a normal human being and I struggled with anemia for the first time this year and it was the straw that broke the camel's back.  We can't afford to eat meat more than a few times a week but even that small amount has made a noticeable difference for me.  I think I've been somewhat depleted by the six years of nursing and pregnancy!

 

 

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Oh and what exactly does "lean toward an unschooling philosophy" mean?  Do you have any plan or schedule for how you teach your little ones?  I've never heard of this before.

 

Do you mean you have never heard of unschooling?  Or just that you've never heard of someone leaning that way without classifying themselves as a full-on unschooler?

 

Basically at this stage we don't do any one formal curriculum.  I always have activities (and even workbooks, because my daughter asks for them!) on hand to do but I try to be as child-led in our learning as possible.  We encourage questioning and try to find projects that will help answer and explore those questions in an integrated way as opposed to breaking down "subjects."  I think as my kids get older we will get a little more formal about schooling -- while I think we will always prefer the child-led and project-based approach we will probably be a little more formal about having specific "school" time and making sure we hit certain things even if they don't come up organically.  But I think this young age we want their relationship to learning to be based in curiosity and engagement -- we want them to start to learn HOW to learn, if that makes sense -- especially since I think our culture has an increasingly skewed view of what is developmentally appropriate for a five year old anyway (I would say we overestimate academic capability and underestimate practical ability!).

 

More on unschooling:

 

 

http://zenhabits.net/unschool/

post #12 of 29

Oh okay, thank you for explaining.  I meant that I hadn't heard of unschooling.  That's interesting I will definitely check out that link.

 

My last question: Having met people from many different cultures all over the world, was there one culture that really sticks out in your mind as being the most intriguing to you or one that you felt the most comfortable around (not including your own culture)?

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Oh okay, thank you for explaining.  I meant that I hadn't heard of unschooling.  That's interesting I will definitely check out that link.

 

My last question: Having met people from many different cultures all over the world, was there one culture that really sticks out in your mind as being the most intriguing to you or one that you felt the most comfortable around (not including your own culture)?


Oh, okay!  I just wanted to make sure I answered your question properly. I hope I did!  smile.gif  The wikipedia page on unschooling isn't bad either, fyi.

 

Thanks for all of your questions!  To answer this one, I would say the friendliest place I have ever traveled was Turkey.  I was also really intrigued by Bosnian culture.

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How do you feel being a midwifery student affects how you look at your own pregnancy/birth experience?

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So I've noticed in some of your belly pics you've got some pretty awesome tattoos... S since I LOVE tats that leads to my next question... How many do you have? And which is your favorite? Do you have any in honor of your kids? I can't wait to get more, I had a few appts scheduled I had to cancel when I got prego.
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This feels really inarticulate: but I am interested to know more about any cultural traditions (from Pakistan or elsewhere) you celebrate with your children/as a family.

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I know it's not technically the "middle east" though many think so, so did you/your family have any problems being of Pakistani decent while living in NY after 9/11? I know a few Muslim students(not sure where they were from though..) had a very hard time, a family even pulled their kids out of school, because of the prejudice...and we lived in Alaska!

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How do you feel being a midwifery student affects how you look at your own pregnancy/birth experience?

 

Surprisingly, not very much!  I think because of how much I wrote about midwifery and women's health as an academic, being a midwifery student hasn't changed much of my thinking.  I do think early on in the pregnancy there were a few minutes where I felt sort of paranoid that I was going to have problems I was learning about, but that seems to have settled too.

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So I've noticed in some of your belly pics you've got some pretty awesome tattoos... S since I LOVE tats that leads to my next question... How many do you have? And which is your favorite? Do you have any in honor of your kids? I can't wait to get more, I had a few appts scheduled I had to cancel when I got prego.

 

I have three (I guess technically 4, if you count the birds as two?) tattoos.

 

This backpiece:

 

 

These birds, which are based on an illustration in the version of _The Secret Garden_ my grandmother and I used to read:

 

 

And my dog's pawprint on my side, which you can see here:

 

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I love those birds! If I was skinny, I would definitely have something on my hips like this! I have 10 myself and have always wished I was small enough to pull that off. 

What do you love most about living in NYC? I visited a few years ago when I was in high school. It was a lot of fun, but seemed like SUCH a busy lifestyle for me considering I am from southwest Virginia where things are very laid back. 

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