Oh Esenbee you made me smile sooo much this morning. What great news!
Oh Esenbee you made me smile sooo much this morning. What great news!
You all are making my morning! Eek!
Just let me know when you feel ready to be our first graduate of 2013!!
Scorpio - Yay for possible insems this month - the band is getting back together! Fingers crossed that those tests work out for you.
Twomommy - So exciting! This is your first insem, right? It must be starting to feel very real!
Darcy - Good luck at your u/s this morning!
fmorris - Wow, that is awesome! So excited for you to have some of this financial burden lifted. Good job, mum!
Sphinxy, thanks! We are in this together again, probably, since O date for is prob. Monday- so we'll be searching for EWCM all weekend, ha!!
Fmorris, so happy for you- insurance is such a blessing (and I don't use the word blessing often, haha)... This process just got that much easier. Smiles !
Darcy, hope your u/s goes well... Insemination this weekend you think?
love to all!
ps. KD gets home from California tonight so we'll probably be finding out if he is getting tested tomorrow. DP and I are surprisingly peaceful. I have been diligently charting and thinking of good things. Seems that the beginning of the new semester helped me to be distracted and I also started a major fitness change (working with a trainer every other week & on a schedule) and DP started weightlifting and tae kwon do. Working towards getting healthier, more fit and centered has been a great exercise for both of us. And so needed because we want a baby so badly!
Twomommy sounds sensible to me, gotta be in it to win it!
Esenbee - YAY!!!! that's fantastic news fingers crossed all goes well
granite - good idea re lunches etc. I tried not eating lunch as a way to save money but it doesn't work just kidding, making lunch does save a lot in the long run, every bit helps.
Darcy good luck! stay positive.
fmorris that's great news! insurance covers nothing here but the states (same as the government) pays a little bit so every bit helps. Why not go with IUI if you can get some paid for eh.
Mrs&Mrs & bigfoot such exciting news for you guys too - it's all go.
AFM I have great news. Got an email response to my second email this morning. Basically my mum saying sorry for not replying sooner (my sister gave her a nasty virus) but she thinks she understands my reasons better now. She also said for the first time and I quote '`May I take this opportunity to tell you how highly I esteem Abby and how happy I am that you are with her. She is definitely a gem. I know that between you there would be a rich and loving atmosphere for any child." that is massive for me and a huge step forward for her. She wants to tell me some time about her religious beliefs etc so I better understand and I said that I'd be happy to listen - after all I have foisted my lesbianism on her so it's only fair. So relieved & sure it'll only get better with time.
yay and great feeling about this year for us all x
lizbian -That is amazing news about your mom! It made me tear up a bit! My mother made a graduation speech at my celebration dinner where she thank DSp for taking care of me and our DD so well. It was really touching, especially coming from her. My parents had the HARDEST time coming to terms with us being together. I came out to her 3 months after I had told her I was pregnant. So it all was a complicated time for them and they did NOT handle it well. I was still living at home and if I wanted to have DSp over, we weren't allowed to be in their house, had to stay outside in the dead heat of summer while I was 6-8 months pregnant! Anywho, I am so happy for you that your mom has responded so well, so thoughtfully, and is not giving you a hard time! It must be such a relief!
Soon to be insem-ers -Can't wait to hear the stories of yall's great timing!
AFM - sphinxy, you can go ahead and add me to graduation list. I will still be around this board though, cheering you guys on!
esenbee - thanks it's such a relief. I can imagine that would be a lot for your mum to take in and it's great she's turned the corner with you guys. It makes it so much easier that my family all
love Abs and that we've been together for over 11 years (told them after 10) so they've had a while to come to terms with it. Lots of cheering from you and keep us updated with your progress, very excited for you x
ps brought a little tear to my eye too.
Feeling overwhelmed in the best way right now - the good news just keeps coming!
Nice to meet you, bigfoot, and holy cow I don't know how I missed in my last post that you and mrsandmrs are having twins !! I'm feeling so much joy for you right now.
LIZBIAN! Wow, this is huge for you! I'm so happy to hear that your mom was able let herself feel those things and share them with you. What an amazing gift. I hope the conversation about her religious beliefs goes well. I totally understand the desire to be "fair" since she is taking this big step, and doing something for her in return probably feels right. (I agreed to go to family therapy after my parents found out because they weren't convinced I had thought this through and that it might just be a phase. Very quickly, the therapist excused me from future sessions and refocused my parents on accepting me, which was a much better use of everyone's time, but I digress...) So... I would only suggest that you consider that being lesbian is who you are, and perhaps not something you have "foisted" on anyone. If anything, it was foisted on you. Big Hugs.
Scorpio - you totally made me laugh out loud - it's a treasure hunt for EWCM!
lizbian - Haha, got it! Reminds me of a conversation I had with my dad a few months back. He asked me when I "knew", and I found it a little odd the way he phrased it, and I had probably had at least one glass of wine at that point, so I decided to just lay it on him and I said "well, the last time I hooked up with a guy I puked after, and I finally realized that's not normal." That stopped the questions! Also, I just noticed that you have a kitty named Churchill - I've got one (also 5) named Winston!
sphinxy hahaha I bet that stopped the questions pretty quick smart. My mum would never ask anything personal like that luckily! I have no doubt she doesn't think about the sex thing at all which I'm quite relieved about as this is about as much as she can handle. Yep Churchill was a rescue 3 years ago (already named). He's got a great personality & is fantastic with the dogs and the only thing bad is that he's a great hunter. brought in a baby snipe bird the other day. Took to the GSPCA but it died love the name Winston too.
friederike thanks for the youtube link - very informative.
Does anyone know whether the clearblue o tests are accurate ie would they say you're ovulating when you're not really? Heard contradictory stories about what's more accurate - those or blood tests and as my BT says I'm not O'ing but clearblue says yes which is right.
Wow so much I want to respond to and so little time
first esenbee: Congrats, it's so crazy that you had posted earlier about just knowing. How wonderful!!!!
and mrs and bigfoot: Twins, holy moly, what's with the multiples lately. So excited for you!!!!!!!!!!
lizbian, darcy and others: just wanted to offer my support as well regarding your dad, I'm sure that is really difficult. Although my family is very supportive of DW and I we are very familiar with homophobia. If you ever want to chat or vent, my ears are open. Glad your mom responded positively lizbian.
On male role models: I'm not too worried about this, DW and I have both what would be considered masculine and feminine characteristics, interests, skills, hobbies, etc. I also have a step-brother I adore who can't wait to teach our kids how to ride dirt bikes and a handful of close male friends. I'm sure if our kiddos want or need a special male role model they will have plenty to choose from. They will also have teachers, coaches, and the like.
Friederike: the atheist god parent made me lol, I'm going to start using that phrase
merstone: My DW also comes from a very conservative, small town, mormon family. I was raised in the religion when I was very young, but my dad had the sense to get us out. When we met I was sure in a few years DW's family would come around. At first I wasn't allowed at their house, but after she refused to go without me and they didn't see her for almost a year they said I could come. Four years later things are better but I worry about what will happen when we have kids, especially since I will be carrying our first. Her 8 and 4 year old niece and nephew have no idea who I am, I imagine they think who is this weird woman and why is she at our family dinner. We had a very emotional conversation with her mom last christmas and it was kind of relieving to find out her biggest problem with us having children is the generational loss of the religion. She just cannot accept that her daughter's children won't be raised in the church. I'm glad to hear things go better for you when you had your DD, I will remain hopeful that will happen for us too. It is so hard to watch DW struggle with her family, I just wish they would get over it. I am in the not being polite camp as well. The whole prop 8, mormon church was and continues to be a big deal here. We are extremely careful about which businesses we support now. As soon as that baby comes and they don't treat it like the rest of their grandchildren, I will no longer have any relationship with them at all.
On a somewhat funny note, DW's aunt who had previously promised would come to our reception, didn't come and a few days later called DW to explain it was because she thought it would be like what she sees about gay pride, and couldn't be around that kind of behavior.
KWPX: Good question. When we first starting talking about getting pregnant we thought we would use a bank, turns out we are going to try with a KD. It really changed our criteria. At first we wanted a donor who resembled DW as much as possible in both physical and personality traits. Our KD looks nothing like DW and his personality is quite different from both DW and I. We just really love the person he is and feel good about using his genes and knowing that he is a good person, open to communication with our kids with a pretty healthy medical history. I think at the end of the day it's what you feel the very best about. I know some people have made a sort of rubric, assigning certain things certain values based on priority. I'm sure you will make the best choice for you.
scorpio: Yay for a possible insem this month, good luck!
2justicemamas - I understand how hard it must be for DW & it's sad to see so much homophobia among families but luckily it seems to be getting slightly less with each generation. Good luck with your journey & I hope that when the grandkiddy comes her Mum will come to terms with it. That was my biggest concern, for the child rather than for us but my Mum said today she would be happy for a grandkid & would treat it the same whether it was from me or DW so let's keep hoping!
Darcy good luck - I can imagine how stressful it is getting all that news at the same time and having to worry about costs as well. I'm trying not to focus too much on TTC issues at the mo but it's hard not to! I'm probably going to need Clomid but don't even know if my doc will prescribe it to me and don't want to worry about that until I come to that bridge but good luck for yours - you're years younger than me so fingers crossed it's not too hard. Grow follies, grow!