Wow so much I want to respond to and so little time
first esenbee: Congrats, it's so crazy that you had posted earlier about just knowing. How wonderful!!!! 
and mrs and bigfoot: Twins, holy moly, what's with the multiples lately. So excited for you!!!!!!!!!! 
lizbian, darcy and others: just wanted to offer my support as well regarding your dad, I'm sure that is really difficult. Although my family is very supportive of DW and I we are very familiar with homophobia. If you ever want to chat or vent, my ears are open. Glad your mom responded positively lizbian.
On male role models: I'm not too worried about this, DW and I have both what would be considered masculine and feminine characteristics, interests, skills, hobbies, etc. I also have a step-brother I adore who can't wait to teach our kids how to ride dirt bikes and a handful of close male friends. I'm sure if our kiddos want or need a special male role model they will have plenty to choose from. They will also have teachers, coaches, and the like.
Friederike: the atheist god parent made me lol, I'm going to start using that phrase
merstone: My DW also comes from a very conservative, small town, mormon family. I was raised in the religion when I was very young, but my dad had the sense to get us out. When we met I was sure in a few years DW's family would come around. At first I wasn't allowed at their house, but after she refused to go without me and they didn't see her for almost a year they said I could come. Four years later things are better but I worry about what will happen when we have kids, especially since I will be carrying our first. Her 8 and 4 year old niece and nephew have no idea who I am, I imagine they think who is this weird woman and why is she at our family dinner. We had a very emotional conversation with her mom last christmas and it was kind of relieving to find out her biggest problem with us having children is the generational loss of the religion. She just cannot accept that her daughter's children won't be raised in the church. I'm glad to hear things go better for you when you had your DD, I will remain hopeful that will happen for us too. It is so hard to watch DW struggle with her family, I just wish they would get over it. I am in the not being polite camp as well. The whole prop 8, mormon church was and continues to be a big deal here. We are extremely careful about which businesses we support now. As soon as that baby comes and they don't treat it like the rest of their grandchildren, I will no longer have any relationship with them at all.
On a somewhat funny note, DW's aunt who had previously promised would come to our reception, didn't come and a few days later called DW to explain it was because she thought it would be like what she sees about gay pride, and couldn't be around that kind of behavior.
KWPX: Good question. When we first starting talking about getting pregnant we thought we would use a bank, turns out we are going to try with a KD. It really changed our criteria. At first we wanted a donor who resembled DW as much as possible in both physical and personality traits. Our KD looks nothing like DW and his personality is quite different from both DW and I. We just really love the person he is and feel good about using his genes and knowing that he is a good person, open to communication with our kids with a pretty healthy medical history. I think at the end of the day it's what you feel the very best about. I know some people have made a sort of rubric, assigning certain things certain values based on priority. I'm sure you will make the best choice for you.
scorpio: Yay for a possible insem this month, good luck!
!! I'm feeling so much joy for you right now. 
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