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twomommy & darcy Fingers crossed ladies - at least you're getting the tests etc & not just trying haphazadly waiting for something to happen so it's going in the right direction.


chortles thanks - I think the only 2 they have are the pregnancy testing ones & the monitor ones to test for the big O but don't quote me on it - may be different over here. We might start TTC at the same time, the more info the better I reckon.

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Threadcrashing to say CONGRATS to esenbee! joy.gif Sending positive vibes for a sticky baby!
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I am so happy to hear all the great news today...congrats mrsandmrs and esenbee! joy.gif


afm: dw & I are taking the next cycle off (dr recommendation) and we'll start this all back up again in Feb. (should be late Feb.) In the meantime, dw is going to get an HSG test, to make sure everything looks ok with her tubes & uterus.  She had her thyroid checked a few months ago which was fine.  It may just be as simple as her needing extra doses of progesterone next time for the bean to stick. Our doctors feel confident this will eventually work for us.  I'm trying my best to keep dw's spirits up throughout this.....she is pretty depressed...what a way to start off the  new year. boo.

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Esenbee, how bout that digital. Way to confirm!! jumpers.gif


Sphinxy, You're absolutely right! Cheers to mum! TTC can get expensive, but sure is worth it!


Scorp, LOL on the blessing! Anything that makes this process easier is more than welcome on mye end!! Good job on the getting healthier! Its not as easy as I thought lol!


Lizbian, I have been assuming mye insurance (through mye employer) was an epic fail when it came to ttc, but thanks for mum's backup! I think so too with the IUI's ..and then i've got a trigger that I haven't used. Good plans :)  Mye goodness, what a lovely email from your mum! What a great feeling for you two!


Twomommy, Pleasant surprise is the word! Looks like i've gotta get DP ready, shes been so busy lately travelling nearly every other week for business. And she'll be going again in 2 weeks. Seems like just when she gets settled in and slows down its time to go again. GEEZ!

Darcy, I can imagine how you're feeling, but remember this is a journey with many ups and downs. Things will get better. When I tried clomid the first time I had 3 follies all over 19mm. Maybe its just about getting the right protocol for you. You'll find it and then you'll get that BFP! No worries but tons of hug2.gifyour way.


CHortles, I think I almost did that as well. I thought they were replacement strips for the digital ovulation checker. But apparently they're for the fertility monitor. They should let you return them. I've been looking for replacements for the ClearBlue Digital as well, but it seems like they really want you to buy a whole nother test and strips everywhere I've looked!


Sandiego, Sometimes a break is all you need. Look at esenbee, after they're break they came back with a BFP. This is a time where you two can focus on each other. Put TTC in the back of your mind for the time being. Things will get better I don't doubt it..its just one of those rough patches in TTC we all go through.hug.gif


AFM, I'm finding eating breakfast for meeh in the morning is the hardest thing! I know its good for meeh, but mye appetite is just not there. I've only been able to manage some yohgurt and granola with an ensure plus..maybe a banana sometime. Otherwise...nada. I'm sure trying, but this gaining weight thing is harder than imagined. If I eat too much I feel too full, but then I still have a whole nother meal to eat plus snacks! I'm going to get a scale to stop mye guess work...havent had one in the house in ages.


JUST A THOUGHT FOR ALL: TTC is a wild emotional rollercoaster ride. It brings you up and takes you back down just as fast. We go through a lot in this process and I just want to reflect and make everyone aware just how strong we are. Not just as individuals, but also as a wonderful thread family. Doing this alone (or even just with DP/DW) is hard and can get harder without the proper support. All you ladies are amazing and thanks for all the support and all the strength here. Its more than appreciated! thanks.gif

Edited by fmorris28 - 1/9/13 at 2:40pm
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SanDiego I hope the month off lets you both regroup & come back harder with more success.


fmorris - very true words, thanks. Perhaps it'll work better if you eat smaller bits more often? I remember when I had to eat lots more carbs when I was training lots and it was VERY hard so good luck! 

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Originally Posted by lizbian View Post

SanDiego I hope the month off lets you both regroup & come back harder with more success.


fmorris - very true words, thanks. Perhaps it'll work better if you eat smaller bits more often? I remember when I had to eat lots more carbs when I was training lots and it was VERY hard so good luck! 

I'll try that, I just had a small salad before tea so i'll still be hungry enough. Seems like i'm eating all day lol....but I am! :) Nd I thought i'd share mye thoughts because we all struggle at some point In TTC where we wanna give up and get discouraged.

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Finally on a computer and can give hugs: Darcyhug2.gif


And in the spirit of Fmorris' empowering message of us all together as a supportive community: grouphug.gif

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That is the best news.


AFM- been worrying a bit about my FF saying I O'd on CD 12 since I insemmed on CD13. After I finally figured out that feature that lets you compare charts to others, I realized that some other women who've used frozen sperm have also insemmed the day after O and gotten pregnant. I was just about to convince myself that I oughtta give up hope. Now I'm feeling a bit more reassured. It's possible! Six DPI...I guess it comes with the territory. Other than this, I've been surprisingly calm this time- mostly because I convinced myself I couldn't be so lucky to get pregnant on my second try. The other day I called a local RE and left a vm requesting an appt. Turns out that my insurance doesn't require a minimum number of tries anymore before they'll cover treatment. Now they just require that you meet your deductible and then they'll cover 50%. That is way more doable especially considering that we maxed out both of our FSAs this year and mine lets me use the money on a credit card before I've even accumulated it from contributions. The timing is so funny- I kind of have to assume I'm not pregnant because I want to be sure to set up an appt with an RE in time so that if they need to do certain tests on certain cycle days, I've planned well enough in advance. The way I'm thinking of it is that I could always cancel if I do end up pregnant, but holding that negative assumption is grating on me too.


In other news- I applied for and was granted an interview for a much better (for me) job within my company. Interview's tomorrow. Wish me luck! This would cut my hours down to PT and my job duty related stress down to zero. I'm willing to take it even though the rate of pay is $1.50 per hour less. Seriously. I hate my current job that much. 

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sotohana - super good fortune vibes to you -- no luck needed!  You got this!

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sotahana good luck - great insurance covers some of it. As you say easier to cancel an appointment if not needed than have to try to book one with short timeframe.

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Thanks Chortles & Lizbian! I'm feeling pretty good about it this morning. I'll hop on afterward and let y'all know how it went. smile.gif

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Hi Everyone!

My wife and I are just starting to TTC #2. This will be our first cycle trying. Can you please add me to Waiting to O? Thank you!

Our TTC process for our son (now 14 months) was fairly long and painful, so we're hoping that this round will go more smoothly. We're switching uteri (from me to my wife), so we're hoping that she happens to be amazingly fertile. We'll see!

I look forward to getting to know you all!
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oooo escher good luck! are you using the same donor? 

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Lizbian: We hope to! We have 12 vials of his sperm, and while it took us more than 12 vials to get our son, it seems like we should have a decent chance of getting a baby with 12 vials!
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Thread Starter 

SanDiego - It's so good to hear from you. I took the liberty of moving you over to "Waiting to be Ready/Figuring Things Out", I hope that's OK with you but please let me know if you'd rather be in a different category. I hope you and DW get the answers you need hug2.gif

Fmorris - So well put, thank you! This is a very special group grouphug.gif


Soto - FX for you today!

escher - Welcome! wave.gifI hope your stay is short and sweet. Any ideas when your insemination will be?


Lindsey - I just realized you must be getting ready to test soon... how's the wait going? fingersx.gif

post #196 of 585

Good to see you on the QC side escher!  Good luck!  Has your wife been charting/temping a few cycles? 

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Congratulations esenbee


mrsandmrs, TWINS! Wow! That is exciting. I have a few friends who have twins and another who is a twin. They all say twins have a bond unlike anything else. 


I knew a lesbian couple (on discussion boards) who had been trying for a while without success so they started inseminating BOTH of them each month and figured they'd stop when one of them got a BFP. They both ended up getting pregnant in the same month and one was carrying twins so they had "lesbian triplets". I can't imagine what that must have been like!


Soto - It says in your signature line that DW did 3 and you did 1 IUI. Does that mean you two are alternating who might carry the pregnancy? Sorry that I may have missed that in an earlier post. That is exciting.


Scorpio, did KD get tested and give you guys the green light for a try this month? 


Lizbian, Congrats on the great response from your mum! That sounds really sweet. 


On male role models -- I think the need for male role models is a myth. I can teach my son how to be a good human and a loving person. I believe he'll be even better served by not feeling like he has to act like a "man" in the social role model BS way. DW and I are loving and respectful of each other and him. We try to role model positive qualities that every person should have. We encourage him to pursue whatever interests he has. We bought him dolls when he was little but the only time that he interacted with them was to toss them through a basketball hoop. Some things are just "nature". 


Aww, thanks for thinking of me Sphinxy!  I know this sounds kind of weird but I feel like I'm sure that I'm not pregnant. I just don't have any symptoms. I've already been kind of down about it even though I have not tested yet. When I conceived my DS, I was SURE that I was pregnant. I even got a negative HPT at 11 DPO and I was so confused because I just felt sure. Then I got a positive at 13 DPO.  We are going away for the weekend and AF is due Mon or Tues. I'll bring a HPT with me and probably test Sunday? I just don't feel like going through the emotions of negative HPTs.  


I called my insurance and even though they don't cover any "fertility treatments or fertility medications", they said they would cover a consultation and blood work. I know I haven't been trying for very long and I don't even know about this cycle but since it takes about 6 weeks to get an appointment for an initial consultation, I figured it couldn't hurt to get the ball rolling. 

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escher yay - that's great they'll be half sibs - we're hoping to do exactly the same thing and I hope it takes less than 12 vials.


sphinxy can you add me to the waiting to be ready please? got knee surgeon in a week and having blood test so hoping to know more about timing soon.


LindseyW OMG triplets! It wouldn't even be like one of them could support the other as they'd be in the same situation. Crazy but a good way to get it all over & done with I guess. Good luck getting the ball rolling as you say can't hurt to start the process

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Hi Escher! That is so exciting that you two are TTC #2. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope that you get to send most of those vials back!


Lindsey- I hear you about feeling not pregnant. Wouldn't it be cool if you are, though? I hope you are so that you don't have to go through a long and protracted TTC process. I'll be thinking of you on Sunday. 


AFM- I am trying to avoid the negative assumption, but its pretty much constant. I mean... who really gets that lucky to get pregnant on their second try? Also- I'm doing the same thing as you, Lindsey- setting up an appt. with an RE before I even know. It's good to plan ahead, imo. Our appt. is set for the 21st at 1pm. I'll test on the 15th if I don't know beforehand. Also tonight I have another acupuncture session to help support implantation. Perhaps I'm imagining things, but it seemed like when I wiped earlier that the tp was ever so slightly pink...implantation maybe? Crazy-making? Last night I had a dream where I was able to fully imagine what it would be like to learn that I was pregnant. I haven't been able to imagine this so far. In my dream I didn't freak out. I was just like "Omg. that's so cool! Squee! I have to tell DW." I didn't even cry in my dream. 


Also- the interview went well! I will know by tomorrow afternoon if I got it. Yay!

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oops- forgot to reply to your question, Lindsey. DW and I plan to alternate back and forth each month. My nightmare is what happened to those women with the lesbian triplets. I'd die. We started out with DW actually and those were her three tries, but then her cycle stopped as she had a lot of grief last year with her sister and dad dying. They only recently started back up. 

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