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post #201 of 585
Oh, I do remember reading that Sotohana. Sorry to hear about the heartache in your family recently. I conceived my DS on our second try... I think that is why I'm having a little bit harder time with ttc #2 ; I expected it to be as easy as it was last time. I know that isn't reasonable (and the folks who've been trying for MANY months are probably rolling their eyes -- rightfully so).
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Lindsey -we tried for #2 for 4 months last year and just started back up after a long 9 months. We got it the first try! There is no reason to feel unreasonable for thinking it could happen for you quickly!
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Escher, Welcome.gif I hope this try is a lot shorter and pain free! Best of luck to you both!

 

Sphinxy, No problemo. I was just thinking of all the times I needed support and would have been utterly lost without the ladies here so I thought I'd say thanks!!

 

Lindsey, You're insurance sounds about like mine! I never thought to ask about a consultation along with bloodwork. Maybe they'll cover it for meeh as well! And don't give up hope bc so many BFPs have come with no symptoms at all.

 

Soto, Keep hope alive!! That could be a little implantation bleeding! FX for you!!! And glad the interview went well, another FX and toes you get the job!

 

AFM, this day has been pretty terrible! Heard back from mye OB's office in regards to the refund they should be issuing meeh...now the insurance is saying they overpaid so they may need to make adjustments and might end up not covering anything..putting meeh back to square 1. UGH! And then on top of that...DP and I were arguing this afternoon. mecry.gif We left each other angry (which is something I'm completely against nono.gif) and then no more than 20 minutes later she called nd said a school bus had hit her. This year is turning out to be the worst nd we're only 10 days in. If it plans to continue like this...iono if ima make it. *EPIC SIGH*

SPHINX, could you move meeh to taking a break/waiting..i'm too stressed to even think about this right now nd am feeling pretty down greensad.gif.


Edited by fmorris28 - 1/10/13 at 6:21pm
post #204 of 585

Oh, fmorris, I'm so sorry! What an absolutely sh*tty run of everything! Please don't give up on 2013 yet, though... There's still 355 more days to go, and they could be full of awesomeness, including a new addition to your family. hug2.gif

 

Glad to hear the interview went well, sotohana... FX for you! I think it's great you're making the choice to leave a position you loath, even if there's a pay cut: Quality of life is so much more important.

 

Lindsey, you seem so chill through this TWW! I admire you for that. That's great that you'll get insurance coverage for at least some aspects of this whole TTC gig... Every little bit helps.

 

Welcome back, escher! I was lurking wayyyy back when you became pregnant with your DS, and am happy to get a chance to share this adventure with you. I hope you and your DP get your BFP long before you run out of vials.

 

Hugs to you and your DP, SanDiego... Yes, this has been a bad start to 2013 for you too, and I'm so sorry for that. greensad.gif

 

chortles, I am *so* with you on the weird ambivalence of the TTC rollercoaster: We're simply baby-crazy and it seems like we're ready, and then suddenly so full of difficult emotions when we're moving closer to making it real! For me, this happens every time I need to call the fertility centre... I literally have to sit down, because my heart starts beating too fast.

 

AFM: I'm *totally* about to *finally* O, and my RE won't be back in town in time to do an insem!  This is when I get completely livid about the way donor sperm is regulated in my country, because if we were allowed to, we'd be doing our own IUI at home tomorrow... And as it stands, my sperm is locked away in a lab on the outskirts of town and I'm not allowed to have it! Arg!

 

Okay, rant over.

 

I'm actually happy and doing great. I didn't hear back from the fertility clinic until after I called them this morning with the news that I got a strong positive on the OPK, which is when they told me that they wanted me to get bloodwork done but couldn't insem until next cycle anyway. My on-the-bright-side take on the situation is that I'm ovulating without drugs, and that's pretty nice.

(But if anyone wants to do a midnight raid on a certain medical facility in the PNW, let me know...)

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Fmorris: Oh my! This sounds like a day from hell! I'm so sorry to hear all of this! hug2.gif  Is DP okay? I hope that things with your insurance also work out better than it seems at the moment. Everything seemed so promising yesterday. 

Escher: Welcome and how exciting to be TTC #2! hola.gif  I can't wait to someday be in your shoes and be posting here when my DP is ready to carry our second. I hope that this TTC process is shorter than your first!!

Lindsey: Its not over until AF shows! You're still in it! 

Soto: Plenty of women get lucky on their second try!! I do think its great that you and Lindsey are thinking ahead and just checking in with the RE to see if all is well with hormones if this cycle doesn't work out. Also, I really hope you get the job! Sorry to hear that you don't like your current position so much so that you'd be willing to take a pay cut. But if the stress level goes down significantly that can help with TTC and eventually having more time to spend with the baby! 

Granite: how frustrating!! I'm sorry the laws are so restrictive in Canada and I wish your doctor were in town! I would definitely raid the bank with you!!
Edited by Twomommyfamily - 1/10/13 at 8:40pm
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Granite, thanks. You won't believe how the days been..on top of that...its been raining the whole time like the rain cloud is seriously following meeh! I'm trying not to give up, but when DP and I argue she gets hesitant about tryin. Ion get it bc even married couples with children already still have an argument here or there, but it has nothing to do with parenting skill and ability. iono ...shrug.gif... And as far as you O'ing thats wonderful! No drugs and its going naturally! Yay! I hate it that the laws in Canada are like that! I would say get across that border to insem, but your swimmers are at the RE! Ugh!! Well atleast the O is confirmed! Thats great news for next cycle! (Nd i'd be so down for a midnight raid for swimmers if i was closer!!)

 

Twomommy, Yes indeed, the day from HADES! Thanks for the hugs. Nd DP is alright just a little banged up, but shes ok. Maybe the insurance will say they didnt overpay nd just give meeh mye credit. Sure crazy how things can change from day to day.

post #207 of 585

fmorris that is a pretty awful day. Perhaps you'll have to have a 'New Year' starting from Feb instead? wipe this month again, regroup and decide it'll be a short 11 month year instead of twelve. x

 

granite so frustrating to have the little swimmers so close and yet so far away I feel for you. Good that you're so positive though, I'm impressed.

 

afm I'm having a 3rd blood test in a week to see if I'm O'ing as the tests seem to show I'm not even though the clearblue monitor indicates I am. Also having appointment with knee surgeon in a week (busy week with docs) so will know after that when op is and then when I can start TTC.

post #208 of 585
Maybe I spoke too soon. Got a BFP this morning. Wow, I guess they do come with no symptoms sometimes. The light is awful in here at 5:30am but can you see it?
post #209 of 585
Thread Starter 
I see it!!

No icons I'm on my phone but CONGRATS! I had a feeling Lindsey, yesterday when you were sure you weren't pregnant, I thought - watch her 2nd pregnancy totally sneak up on her, that would be so cool.

I know some people like to wait for other tests and things, so you just let me know when you are ready to be graduated.
post #210 of 585

Lindsey - THAT'S A LINE!

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WOW, LINDSEY!!! Amazing!!!!
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YAY Lindsey!!!!!!  First time!  That is so awesome!  We are in the same boat with DC#1 being almost 5 years old!  We can commiserate with each other in QP&P....

 

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post #213 of 585
Lindsey! Hooray! Definitely a clear line!!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif

Lizbian: I hope that your blood work goes well (and shows that you are Oing) and that the knee surgeon gives you exactly the information you want. It's funny: I know what you mean about half-sibs, but since our son and the babe we're TTC will have the same parents (my wife and me), it actually feels to me like they'll be full sibs, genetics be damned. orngtongue.gif

Granite: How totally frustrating that you're about to O and your RE is out of town. Hooray though for ovulating! It's fun that you remember when I was on the board last time.

Fmorris: What an awful day! I hope that today is better and that 2013 proves soon that it is going to be a good year for you.

Sotohana: It's neat that you are planning to alternate who insems. How did you decide that alternating is the way to go? I'll keep my fingers crossed though that you don't have to do any more alternating because this cycle is the one! fingersx.gif

Esenbee: My wife charted back when we were TTC our son, and she started up again about six months ago. So we have a decent collection of her charts. Her cycle is a bit irregular, but she does seem to ovulate every cycle, so hopefully it will be ok.

Sphinxy: We're on CD2, so we'll probably be insemming in about two weeks.

Has anyone done an AMH test and gotten useful information from it? Our RE recommends it (I think for everyone over 30), but my wife is only 31 so it seems like a bit of a waste of time and money. What do you all think?
post #214 of 585
Lindsey!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif how wonderful!!

Escher: don't get me started on AMH. Mine is .88 which is low. So I just had it retested because all the other tests (except progesterone) are normal. The results arent back yet. AMH indicates ovarian reserve. And based on mine, I'm nearing menopause. So I have diminished ovarian reserve. My FSH was low, which is good, and that typically indicates egg quality. Quality is more important than quantity. However, some REs see low AMH and otherwise normal testing and still say go straight to IVF or even get an egg donor. It's good to know. And there are women in their 20s with randomly low AMH, it can just happen for no apparent reason. My RE is using the second amh test to dictate if we do injectables next cycle. This cycle will be unmedicated. I believe that FSH, estrogen, and antral follicle count are better indicators of overall fertility. I'm sure many women with low AMH (undiagnosed) get pregnant all the time.
Edited by Twomommyfamily - 1/11/13 at 7:57am
post #215 of 585
Thanks for the excellent explanation of AMH issues, twomommyfamily... All this talk about it had been making me nervous, cuz I have no idea what my AMH level is. But it's reassuring to think that many pregnant people don't know theirs either!
post #216 of 585
Thanks for that explantation. Do you (or does anyone else) know of anything you would do about low AMH other than injectables, IVF, or donor egg? If those are the only two options, we would just ignore a low AMH result if we got one and try anyway, Are there supplements or other treatments that are supposed to improve ovarian reserve? My wife's other bloodwork all looks fine. Thanks!
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Escher: don't get me started on AMH. Mine is .88 which is low. So I just had it retested because all the other tests (except progesterone) are normal. The results arent back yet. AMH indicates ovarian reserve. And based on mine, I'm nearing menopause. So I have diminished ovarian reserve. My FSH was low, which is good, and that typically indicates egg quality. Quality is more important than quantity. However, some REs see low AMH and otherwise normal testing and still say go straight to IVF or even get an egg donor. It's good to know. And there are women in their 20s with randomly low AMH, it can just happen for no apparent reason. My RE is using the second amh test to dictate if we do injectables next cycle. This cycle will be unmedicated. I believe that FSH, estrogen, and antral follicle count are better indicators of overall fertility. I'm sure many women with low AMH (undiagnosed) get pregnant all the time.
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Lindsey! Holy crap! That is SOOOOO AWESOME!!! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif  Yayayay!

 

Fmorris- I'm sending you and DP some hugs. what a rough start to the year, indeed. I agree with Lizbian that maybe you can just decide that February is the start of your year! xoxo

 

Granite- That is the hardest thing ever. I'm so sorry that they won't be able to let you do an IUI. So many people I  know want to live in Canada, but maybe you could come to WA to insem??

 

Twomommy- I think REs push way too much medicine and testing and unnecessarily freak people out. Fear mongers- the lot of them! Get in touch with your own body and trust it- that's the best advice I can give - though you didn't ask for my advice or anything ;)

 

Escher- Fx for a smooth cycle for you!

 

AFM- I got the job! Wahoo! I can't even tell you how excited I am to not have to take all that trauma home with me anymore. It is going to be so awesome. Also- last night I had acupuncture to help with potential implantation. I'm feeling really good about this y'all! I can finally start picturing what it would be like and DW started to tear up when I told her that I'd dreamt of what it would be like to learn that I was pregnant. She said that she feels like that's a sign. <3

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Thank you all! I really appreciate it. This was our 3rd try (just the first one that I posted on the boards for). I am in shock myself. 

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Lizbian, I think that sounds like a brilliant idea. I think I'll go with that nd hopes Feb will  bring much better luck mye way! Thanks! Good luck with the blood test nd I hope the knee surgery is quick with a speedy recovery!

 

Lindsey, wow!!! joy.gifjoy.gifclap.gifbroc1.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbanana.gifWhat a short and sweet stay huh!? Congrats!!!

 

Escher, Agreed! Today has been alright so far, but we're steering clear of all school buses in sight!

 

Soto, CONGRATS on the new job!!! WHOOOO! I bet that in itself lifted a massive amount of stress off you! Glad that you feel good nd I hope that your dream is a great sign of whats to come.

 

AFM, Well today is starting off alright. I spoke with mye OB and then again with the insurance company. They told meeh the insem was definately not covered, BUT the follie scan is completely covered. :) So I'll get $155 credit back. Half isn't bad. So with the credit it cut the cost of our 2nd cycle in half from the 1st cycle..thats amazing! Here's to things looking up!

post #220 of 585

Granite, so there is no way to get sperm "checked out" even if you said that you were just going to do an IVI? That sucks. I had to get a form signed by a doctor to get permission to have the sperm delivered to my house but I just went to my regular family physician and we didn't say specifically how we would do it but I also don't think she thought we would do an IUI at home. She just signed it. 

 

Sotohana - Congratulations on the new job! That is so exciting! 

 

esenbee - I'm excited to have someone else in such a similar situation to ours!

 

 

In case anyone is interested or this is useful - I was AMAZED to see how my current chart looks with an overlay of the cycle that we conceived our son. I used that feature on FF immediately before POAS this morning and that is what convinced me not to wait until Sunday. My other cycles look more like a mountain -- they go up to a point and then down. It is almost bizare how similar these two BFP cycles look! (those really low temps pre-o were when we were traveling and I think the thermometer was wacky). 

 

 

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