Having one of those "being poor sucks" days. It's grey and cold and rainy out. That never helps. But I'm SO frustrated. I'm out of money. AGAIN. It'll be a stretch to pay the bills. Two kids need new shoes. One has two birthday parties in the next week. I'm gonna have to turn one down but the other we can't really turn down politely so dollar store art supplies it will be. AGAIN. I hate rainy days. I can't do laundry because we hang dry in the basement(our dryer is broken) and the clothing gets all stinky. There's a mound of dishes in my sink AGAIN. I feel like all I do with my life is cook and wash dishes and clean. I'm so tired of struggling. I'm having some issues/doubts in the relationship I'm in and these things don't help. It's always been complicated but now I'm even more doubtful that life will work out in my favor in this regard and I'm really struggling with it. It just makes my life harder in a lot of ways and I'm not so sure I want to keep at it. I'm just a bowl full of sunshine today, I know. Sorry.
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~~~~2013 Low Income Support Thread~~~~ - Page 14post #261 of 14054/23/13 at 5:31ampost #262 of 14054/23/13 at 11:35am
I'm so sorry you've been having a tough time lately justmama. I know you've posted "everything sucks right now let me curl up and ignore the world today" a couple times. Have you taken any time to yourself or even a family trip lately? I know your response would probably be that you can't afford it and I completely understand, but once in a while we have to say that we can't afford not to. It really sounds like you need something to clear your mind and find hope. =( I say get outside. It's cheap, all you need is gas and maybe entrance free. Beach, lake, state park. Sit by the water or go on a hike. For my birthday last year my dad took us sailing and my fiance kept the baby in the seating area and I sat on the front of the boat pretty much the entire time. It was the first break I'd had since my daughter was born and she was 6 months old. I think we'll be heading to the beach for some healing time soon. Whatever you do, I really hope financial and mental peace is heading your way.post #263 of 14054/23/13 at 1:00pm
Well yesterday DH comes home and says he forgot to pay his travel card off and we have to pay them $100. Like, right then. So now I feel even worse and we only have $25 to last until next Tuesday. We have 0 fresh food in the house. I feel guilty because my kids wanted "special hot chocolate", which is Starbucks and I was feeling stressed/depressed so we did. We won't starve but damn, would the kids rather have hot chocolate at Starbucks (sooo guilty, it's just such a fun tradition for us :( ) or fresh apples/oranges/bananas? What's better for them? So I sold 3 cloth diapers for $15. Still have 15 diapers left but no one is buying.
I tried to go to the food pantry, which had been advertised to have a play room for kids to play but they don't have that anymore so I couldn't go. (My 4 yo has autism and needs supervision 100% of the time, can't go anywhere with him without a buggy to hold 2 of the kids). So I had a good cry in the parking lot and now I'm just. Depressed. We can only afford to pay our bills next paycheck because I realized one of them is due the next pay period.post #264 of 14054/23/13 at 5:24pm
Hi everyone. I'm new to mothering.com. My name is Brittany and I am a single mother of two boys ages 10 and 7 and recently found out I'm pregnant. I work, but barely make ends meet and currently I only get child support for one child. We live pretty frugal although I know there are a few things I could cut back on and now have to since I am pregnant. I look forward to getting to know everyone as well as getting some ideas on how to make this work as a single mom of 3.post #265 of 14054/23/13 at 7:30pmpost #266 of 14054/23/13 at 11:45pm
micah_mae, sent you a pm.
We're all sick here, caught something at the hospital on Saturday. My baby is having the toughest night. I'm having to sit up in bed so she is more upright so she can breath. She keeps wanting to sleep ON me. I'm putting an order together for the ingredients for some elderberry syrup. Debating if I'll get faster shipping so we can get better sooner. But it's so expensive. Almost as much as my order. Forgot to refill the humidifier. Looonng night, ladies.post #267 of 14054/24/13 at 11:17am
Welcome to our new member, I'm still new too. I'm sorry everyone is having a down day....it must be in the air. Same here too. Things have been hard with husband working two jobs...and the money isn't really changing things as of now. Going to get my booklist together today and printed out, our printer is almost out of ink. I was so upset with the husband last night. I asked him to pick up one toothpaste, one shampoo, etc and I swear he got like 4 to 5 of everything! I'm tried of the stress that money can put on a marriage. Our lawnmower is broke, so we are trying to save toward buying a new one before our grass is too high for a push mower, we sure can't afford to pay someone else to do it! I thought I had someone to buy my baby girl stuff, but they backed out. On Friday I have a lady who is going to come make a offer on some items for her re-sale store...but I refuse to let her take advantage of me. Oh well, thats whats going on here.post #268 of 14054/24/13 at 12:10pm
Today is definititely an "it sucks to be broke" kind of day for me, but not in the usual sense. One of my best friends was in a car accident yesterday and lost her baby. She is in labor now to deliver her son who has already passed away and I can't be with her because she is in California. I didn't even know about it until today because my cell phone is broke so her Mom had to wait for me to get into to work today and call. I just want to be there with her.post #269 of 14054/24/13 at 5:07pm
breebacon I am SO sorry for your friends loss. I can't imagine how much she's hurting. I'm sure she knows you want to be with her and that you'll be there to talk to once it's over.
Our tax return did hit today, although tonight it's already almost gone. Paying May rent, saving a months of rent for a rainy day (hah), booked our wedding venue (although they only required a deposit and since I decided to get some essential oils, we're going to bust our butts to make sure we have the rest day of the wedding when they'll automatically charge our account), essential oils and ingredients for cold syrup, wedding stuff, saving some for my copay to go to my midwives to get an IUD placed once the miscarriage is over. So, it's all already spent or dedicated. What is left is being kept for gas or emergencies.
Baby has slept pretty much all day. So miserable. I hope she doesn't have to wait for the cold syrup stuff to get here before she gets better =(post #270 of 14054/24/13 at 7:45pmWelcome new mamas. Im sorry for everyone having such a rough time. Breebaconm I can sort of relate to how you are feeling. When I was younger I lived in Ca while they were in Mo, and when my grandmother died I wasn't able to be there to say goodbye or go to the funeral. My roommates were assholes that would turn the ringer off and not tell anyone, so I didn't even know until the funeral had passed. Hugs.
Everyone else, just hugs and virtual cups if tea.
Not much goung on here. Making a large batch of kale chips because my kalebis starting to go off. Did a conditioning mask with coconut oil on my hair as a pick me up, and planning a diy mask of clay and honey. Bits the little things, right?post #271 of 14054/26/13 at 6:36pm
Honor Noble, what a great way to find the little (inexpensive) things to make you feel better.
Crunchymama, I hope your little one feels better soon. I buy dried elderberries from Mountain Rose Herbal and make my own syrup with local raw honey. It is really easy to do and much cheaper.
Breebacon, sorry to hear about your friend. That would be hard to not be able to be there with her. Big hugs to you both!
We are still in the midst of car shopping. We were turned down by our credit union that we have been with for 15 years for a $7000 auto loan. That was a blow. Oh well I guess we will have to suck it up and pay the crazy used car dealer rates. We are looking at a 2004 Town and Country tomorrow. Hopefully the mileage isn't too high. I saw it as we drove by and the clear coat is peeling off on the roof, but the price is lower than most others we've found so.... I hate car shopping. That and the fact that having 3 growing boys means I NEED a minivan. We can no longer drive more than 15 min in our Corolla without a fight breaking out because they are so squished together in the backseat. Although I am blessed just to have a working vehicle, no matter how small...post #272 of 14054/27/13 at 5:11pmQuote:
12y, 8y, and 5y. 8y and 5y still in carseats. I drive a toyota matrix. I TOTALLY get you.
ETA: My only saving grace is that my 12y old (turning 13 in 2 months) JUST miraculously hit 80lbs. She's TINY and under the growth charts in weight for her height so thankfully she fits between the two carseats. ONLY way we could fit in the car. I've actually been contemplating putting her in the front seat now since she's legally of age even though it makes me nervous just because her shoulders can't fit between the seats without shimmying sideways a little and it seems incredibly unfair and uncomfortable for her.
As for us, we are still pushing through. Meals are getting.......creative. Food stamps hit the card Wednesday so we'll make it. We won't be hungry and the kids can eat lunch at school which is a lifesaver. I'm doing a major decluttering in my house and cleaning everything out. We live pretty simply but my baby is now 5 and going to kindergarten this year so I guess it's time to get rid of all the babyish toys and board books. Bittersweet. But it means we can pare down toys a lot. Just trying to keep busy at home, avoiding burning gas in the car, stay out of stores, and do productive things. I think I'm baking some bread and putting together a clean-out-the-freezer type soup for dinner. I want to get some time in the garden today. Last night I may have indulged a bit too much in a vodka party for one so.........I'm feeling rough this morning. Unfortunately my children are merciless. Good news is, it's going to be nice and sunny today in the upper 60's. It's actually going to be like that all week! I'm ready to get outside in a few with my cup of coffee and see what yard work I can get done.
Edited by justmama - 4/28/13 at 6:53ampost #273 of 14055/1/13 at 6:38pmQuote:We got a town and country last year. There is a reason those have such a high resale rate. They are sooo comfortable and run very nicely. We managed to find a 2006 Touring model with the built-in Dvd system. With two young kids and long drives, it's a lifesaver. We call it the tree fort on wheels.Originally Posted by maciascl
We are still in the midst of car shopping. We were turned down by our credit union that we have been with for 15 years for a $7000 auto loan. That was a blow. Oh well I guess we will have to suck it up and pay the crazy used car dealer rates. We are looking at a 2004 Town and Country tomorrow. Hopefully the mileage isn't too high. I saw it as we drove by and the clear coat is peeling off on the roof, but the price is lower than most others we've found so.... I hate car shopping. That and the fact that having 3 growing boys means I NEED a minivan. We can no longer drive more than 15 min in our Corolla without a fight breaking out because they are so squished together in the backseat. Although I am blessed just to have a working vehicle, no matter how small...post #274 of 14055/1/13 at 10:12pm
Good Morning Ladies,
First off, WELCOME!!! to all the new members.
This year has been not so good for us. just when I think everything will be ok, boom, it hits the fan. Lost not one, but two jobs because my car died on me. Been waiting for DH to fix it, but something else fails on it. So tired of being home, and broke.
On a better note, oldest moved out with her children's father, so had to help them out. She is about to go back to work next week. I might be able to keep the kids so that she does not have to put them in childcare. Earned 30.00 in amazon gift cards through swagbucks, just wish that I had some referrals. Will be transplanting some tomato and pepper plants next week. The Snap benefits went up, so can make another run to Sam's and really stock up. The kids eat so much during the summer, so have been trying out bread recipes and cooking more from scratch.
Thanks to everyone who read. Just needed to vent to others that can understand. Here's to the month of May looking better for us all.
love and blessongs
post #275 of 14055/1/13 at 11:57pmHi. Hope everyone is doing well.
I have been doing some major spring cleaning and now Im pooped. Earlier this week I really deep cleaned the living room and started on a projectm4o decorate my rentals kitchen cabinets. I also organized my pantry. This afternoon my house smelled like a bar because I used vodka in my bathroom and then decided since it workedmso nicely I would do all my counters, wipe off my cabinets, clean the mirrors, and really scrub out my fridge. Of course the house is no longer spotless because I have a 2 and 4 yr old but its looking nice. I finished up decals for m5 kitchen cabinets too, yay. Honestly they are the ugliest things.
Im a little worried ab8ut money this month. We need to do a thorough grocery shop and had to pay rent this week. Our electric bill is crazy high for some reason and things just seem to be falling apart. Hubby needs new clothes, my daughters bike is broken, and a kitchen stool is now breaking too. Ugh. Kids are so rough on stuff, lol. Fortunately I can borrow some stools my sis has stored, and Im hoping to find a bike at a yardsale this weekend, plus I have asked a friend if she might have one. I need to have hubby see if we have any reward points he can turn in for a gc to do some cloth shopping and empty his closet.post #276 of 14055/3/13 at 12:23pmpost #277 of 14055/6/13 at 11:35amSo I guess i am learning my lesson the hard way, my sister told me she would not be able to pay me back with her income tax as planned. 400$ i was going to use for my property taxes and replenish my savings. I guess I should be surprised but now I just know I have to tell her no next time...lesson learned and u all were right and I crossed my own boundaries, i said i would look out for me and my kids first but let us down.
Also I apparently filled out the fasfa wrong and had to fix that, hoping it all goes through in the week as my classes start in 2 weeks.
bI probably spent too much money on dd's bday party we ended up having quite a bit of food/drinks left over though i hate the kids drinking pop..
Dd did get 260$ in bday money plus several nice outfits and of course tons of toys so now that i bought her some new shoes and socks her spring/summer wardrobe is set. I am using the money to buy winter/fall items on clearance for dd since my sister doesn't me hand me downs for dd anymore.
Just feeling a bit discouraged. Having my savings cut in half has sent me into a mini panic as I have been so used to having my nice little cushion and now I feel like i must get it back to where it was. I also racked up 400$ in credit card debt this month but I paid off 125$ of that so far. I am probably going to stop/minimize snowballing until I get my savings up to 2500-3000 again.
My xdh is late on his darn cs/alimony. I give him a friendly reminder a week in advance because it takes that long to process and he says oh it is not time yet to pay it, then i ask him on the 1st if he paid it and he said no! WTF. He fought to not have it garnished like most in my state and I know he has several thousand dollars in the bank yet he forgets to pay me when he knows I rely solely on that money. I know a lot of people say I am lucky to get the money I do but it is a little bit of a stresser not knowing if he will pay on time each month. And that income disqualifies me from any assistance so I am in a tight bind if he doesn't pay.
I plan to sit down and really think about my financial situation in the next few days and maybe try to relist items on craiglist, I would love to do a yardsale but I know i can't man one solo with my dd running about!
And speaking of dd she is now refusing to where her cloth diapers. I use both cloth and sposies and took a break the week of her bday and now she rips them off anytime I put them on. I may just have to stop trying to put her in cloth and use up the rest of the sposies and then try potty training her once my classes are done end of june. But she has never peed on the potty one time, she just doesn't get it yet...Idk, will just have to wait it out and see how she is in a month.
Edited by ILoveMyBabyBird - 5/6/13 at 12:00pmpost #278 of 14055/8/13 at 3:20pm
It's been really quiet around here lately. Hope everyone is well. Nicer weather is headed our way. Keep the faith!
-weather has been warm enough that my garden is almost completely planted. Now we wait.......and water.
-found a few extra bucks for a long overdue haircut and I've gotten lots of compliments. My curls are back now that it's not too over-long and heavy.
-the kids' dad got a new job and he'll be making a bit more money and he'll be working less nights and weekends so that will be good for everyone.
-we got financial aid for Girl Scouts camp and spent a TON of time selling cookies(cookie credits towards camp) so my middle daughter will be the first of my kids to be able to attend camp this summer. I'm feeling pretty blessed. It's still going to cost us $65 but that's peanuts compared to the $180 it typically costs for a week of day camp.post #279 of 14055/8/13 at 10:42pm
well I feel like i'm doing well. I had some left over Foodstamps last month and used them to buy plants for my garden hoping they do well enough so i won't need to buy tomatoes and peppers this summer :) I'm thankful for the long growing season here so this summer will provide me with enough veggies i can help my mom out too.post #280 of 14055/9/13 at 8:18am
The springtime choices at the produce market have inspired me to take advantage of the sales. So I have committed myself to twice a month (my pay schedule) buying a case or a crate of whatever is in season (or discounted for whatever reason - really cheap!) and preserving it. So far, I have chopped and frozen about 30 pounds of onions ($3), and 20 pounds of bell peppers ($6). Last year, I did this on a smaller scale with tomatoes and apples (we love homemade applesauce), peaches, and a few others. This year, I plan to get carried away, and fill the freezer and the pantry! Strawberries and mangoes are next. I might even go farther and can spaghetti sauce, salsa, things like that that can be done in huge batches. I also make chicken and veggie broth (separately) from veggie trimmings and bones, and freeze quarts. I am only growing fresh lettuces and spinach and herbs this year (tiny garden area, limited time). But add a pot of rice or noodles or potatoes, and it sounds like dinner to me!
It makes me feel rich to know we have food, come what may.
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