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post #481 of 1405
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Rant Alert! My arm is infected, spent the evening at the urgent care.... I'm an adult, I don't need a lecture. I'm a bit looney at times - I just need my arm fixed. I know its infected, don't treat me like im a psycho - cuz i'm not. I didn't even want to come here tonight, but my shrink convinced me to- and what I was afraid of is happening, People are treating me like dirt. I cut, get over it. Fix my freaking arm. Ya i went somewhere else for stitches 2 wks ago), right now just deal with the infection. Write me an rx and send me on my flipping way. Some people should NOT work in the medical field. Rant over
post #482 of 1405
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Rant Alert! My arm is infected, spent the evening at the urgent care.... I'm an adult, I don't need a lecture. I'm a bit looney at times - I just need my arm fixed. I know its infected, don't treat me like im a psycho - cuz i'm not. I didn't even want to come here tonight, but my shrink convinced me to- and what I was afraid of is happening, People are treating me like dirt. I cut, get over it. Fix my freaking arm. Ya i went somewhere else for stitches 2 wks ago), right now just deal with the infection. Write me an rx and send me on my flipping way. Some people should NOT work in the medical field. Rant over

 

So sorry that happened to you.  I hope your arm heals quickly. 

post #483 of 1405

Makes ya almost wanna go in with a note from your psych like you are a 5 year old huh?  At least they care, which is better than if they didn't I suppose.  It's like every time I go to the ER with a kid who's hurt and they give me the third degree over how it happened.  I know I didn't hurt my kid.  They don't though.  So I put up with it and don't complain because there ARE people that hurt their kids and then take them to the ER to be fixed up.

post #484 of 1405

Zebra, I'm so sorry that happened to you.  How awful all the way around.  Please take care of yourself.

 

Had a long talk with the hubs.  Things aren't perfect, I'm still upset obviously, but a lot of good came out of the initial conversation at least.  I'm on guard still and I'm hoping for our future.

 

Taking the kids to the park then coming home for popcorn and one of our yard sale movies we haven't gotten to yet.  Woop!

post #485 of 1405

To answer a couple folks' questions:

 

My "sister"  was my foster sister when we were kids; she was never legally adopted. I have 3 more sisters with this same relationship. We call each other sister, and have a true sister bond. But we are not technically related. She has dual (actually triple) citizenship - US, British, and Polish - due to her birth parents' nationalities. But even if we were "real" relatives, the aunt/niece relationship is not close enough by British law to sponsor DD. Yes, DD can come as a tourist or visitor. That is no problem. But if my sister doesn't have a live-in carer, officially, she will lose her apartment. It will take about 6-8 weeks for DD to get a passport. In that time, my Mom and I can come up with the plane fare.

 

The only way I can see around this mess is to leave her son or daughter as the official carer, on paper.  Not for the money, but to justify the 2 bedroom apartment. I don't know if either of them would be willing to do this - I imagine it is a legal risk. And a risk for my sister as well. If we somehow got "caught", it might seriously screw up her eligibility for services, and she is very much dependent. She works part-time from home; she has been a website-designer for many years, but she is losing her ability to type as her skin hardens and she loses dexterity in her fingers. She already is typing with her knuckles. I am planning to call her tomorrow morning to talk with her about all this. Another stupid money issue: my only phone is my work cell phone. My agency is fine with me using it for my personal phone (perk of working for an amazingly understanding non-profit!), but I can't make overseas calls, of course. Had to borrow a friend's phone for the occasion. Yuck!

 

Zebra - I totally get what you are saying about the condescending, patronizing attitude of some hospital staff. I know they may mean well, their hearts may be in the right place, but, shit, it wouldn't hurt for them to act with a little respect!

 

Happyhats - I know what you are saying about lying being the biggest issue. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship. If he couldn't trust you enough to be honest, and if now you don't know how much you can trust him, it creates huge questions. Is there any chance you could get some couples counseling? This doesn't need to be a deal breaker, but without some intervention, it could get to that stage.
 

post #486 of 1405

To answer a couple folks' questions:

 

My "sister"  was my foster sister when we were kids; she was never legally adopted. I have 3 more sisters with this same relationship. We call each other sister, and have a true sister bond. But we are not technically related. She has dual (actually triple) citizenship - US, British, and Polish - due to her birth parents' nationalities. But even if we were "real" relatives, the aunt/niece relationship is not close enough by British law to sponsor DD. Yes, DD can come as a tourist or visitor. That is no problem. But if my sister doesn't have a live-in carer, officially, she will lose her apartment. It will take about 6-8 weeks for DD to get a passport. In that time, my Mom and I can come up with the plane fare.

 

The only way I can see around this mess is to leave her son or daughter as the official carer, on paper.  Not for the money, but to justify the 2 bedroom apartment. I don't know if either of them would be willing to do this - I imagine it is a legal risk. And a risk for my sister as well. If we somehow got "caught", it might seriously screw up her eligibility for services, and she is very much dependent. She works part-time from home; she has been a website-designer for many years, but she is losing her ability to type as her skin hardens and she loses dexterity in her fingers. She already is typing with her knuckles. I am planning to call her tomorrow morning to talk with her about all this. Another stupid money issue: my only phone is my work cell phone. My agency is fine with me using it for my personal phone (perk of working for an amazingly understanding non-profit!), but I can't make overseas calls, of course. Had to borrow a friend's phone for the occasion. Yuck!

 

Zebra - I totally get what you are saying about the condescending, patronizing attitude of some hospital staff. I know they may mean well, their hearts may be in the right place, but, shit, it wouldn't hurt for them to act with a little respect!

 

Happyhats - I know what you are saying about lying being the biggest issue. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship. If he couldn't trust you enough to be honest, and if now you don't know how much you can trust him, it creates huge questions. Is there any chance you could get some couples counseling? This doesn't need to be a deal breaker, but without some intervention, it could get to that stage.
 

post #487 of 1405

had a lot of cheap/free fun this week with the kids and I am beat!

 

tuesday me and the xdh took the kids to the amusement park which we got memberships for

wednesday was a free puppet show via the library by one of the best puppetry companies in the area, the kids LOVED it!

thursday: Free family fun nights at the historical farmstead

Friday we went shopping =) I got some good deals at the kmart that is closing, put some things away for gifts

saturday: swimming at a church friends pool!

 

 

I need to figure out our mini vacation soon, DS starts school in 1 month and I start a few days later!

post #488 of 1405

Hi all. I am not new here, and not new to being low income. :)

 

My husband started a commission based only job and its been a rough few months.

I am going to read and note any tips etc.

This month we were unable to pay some bills. :(

We have a trip in August to visit my family in Europe, they paid for the trip for us. I don't know what I would've done without their help so we can see our family.

post #489 of 1405

Just another financial struggler here- like some of you I chose to stay home (and homeschool) although it meant poverty.

 

My husband and I didn't anticipate the extent of poverty we've experienced, but we've made it through to this point somehow. I've actually had quite a few jobs over the years, but no career.

One thing that bugs me is people who assume they are somehow better or more intelligent than me because they have a profession.

 

Now my kids are grown, just one teen left. Sometimes I wonder if staying home was worth it because of all the stress our finances have caused for the whole family. But yes, it was worth it.

 

I am currently employed as a driver of an eighteen-wheeler. I don't recommend that for a job, LOL!  I am trying to come up with a more eco-friendly  income.

 

Those of you enduring health insurance and bill-paying issues, I can relate.

post #490 of 1405

welcome, ladies!

 

I have all the passwords now, I have talked heavily with dh, and I think we are on the right path.  But emotionally I"m just depleted.  I was sick last week, my son is being even more high needs than usual, and I keep seeing the pantry staples dwiddle.  I'm feeling pretty down on myself.   A few more days and we will be able to restock the food, another month and we can pay the credit card off, we'll have the 401k paid off by the end of the year.  I know all that logically, but my mind is just racing with what I should cook, what we will eat for this meal and that meal, how to save and how to make more money, etc.  I just need to make my mind quiet down today and reboot. 

post #491 of 1405

Well I was thinking about silver linings today and...STBX gets to take the credit card debt so I don't have to stress about it anymore!

post #492 of 1405

that's a defenite plus, micah.  I'm in a similar position if we were ever to divorce, pretty much all the debt is his.  Thankfully we aren't in that position though. 

 

We saw a rainbow.  And apple chamomile tea is pretty darn tasty iced.  So today hasn't been all bad.  

post #493 of 1405

I wish I could reply to everyone, but I just don't have the energy tonight. I have been reading and thinking of you all. 

 

 

This has been a horrible week here - no FS, pc problems from it simply getting too old {my laptop is about 8 years old}, people backing out on CL sales {including the person I had lined up to buy the central a/c system I have for sale, which I was counting on selling}, mystery sickness, my cycle hitting, my sewing machine malfunctioning {it needs a tuneup which costs $70}, and then to top it off woke up to a sopping wet mess in the laundry room - apparently one of the pipes cracked right at the foundation. We tried putting plumber's putty on it to seal it - no luck. It decreased a little, and it's more directed outside than inside now, but still leaking. SO I ended up spending the last money I had on a water shut off tool so I can turn it on & off at the meter. I've got at least 3 or 4 loads of sopping wet laundry to do tomorrow, plus probably another load from mopping while I do the laundry. There is a city program that will fix it for free BUT last time I had to call that city office it took nearly 2 weeks to get an appointment, plus then another week for the actual appointment. 

 

I have some stuff to ship, and once it's received I can get paid enough to cover part of the bills, but I just can't seem to hold onto cash long enough to get it shipped :( 

 

And this is a total vent, but it's Ramadan {the holidays for Muslims} and I feel horrible because I can't fast because of my health, I can't go to any of the events because they are all too late at night to get home on the bus, I have nothing for Eid gifts, no money to buy then with and can't sew any with my machine broken, and I'm just feeling very disconnected this year. I have all these great plans for making it really special for my dd since this is her first Ramadan & Eid, but nothing is working and I just feel like curling up in a ball and crying. 

 

 

 

Gratefuls, because I need to have a remembrance that there is a light at the end of this tunnel:

 

~ Got a phone call today - have a phone interview for FS tomorrow afternoon! They might be on the card as early as tomorrow night. 

~ A Friend, who not only gave us $30 of groceries, but her husband came over after work tonight, found the leak, and tried to fix it as best he could. And only charged $30 for the service call when it took far longer than an hour. 

~ Our bountiful basket which was full of yummy produce we actually eat this week!

~ The lovely cooler & rainy weather we've had today, which is supposed to last much of the week!

~ Pintrest, which is helping us to get ready for the kitten DD wants to adopt from the shelter. By the next monthly sale on kittens at the animal shelter, I will have made at no cost a cat bed, turned an entertainment center into a cat tower, and made lots of cat toys. 

post #494 of 1405

So much suffering and struggling here in this thread this month.

 

 

 Welcome to our new members.  Welcome.gif

 

 

 

 

 

Gratefuls:

 

 

-can't get away for a real camp adventure iwth me babysitting every morning at 6am so we camped out in my parents' backyard and roasted dinner and marshmallows on their firepit.  Had a great time sleeping in a borrowed tent but had indoor plumbing and refrigeration which was really nice.  Our last campsite was a dry site that we hiked a mile out to so this was a refreshing change.  

 

-heading to the beach today because it's going to be over 100 today.

 

-My freezer is absolutely STUFFED with fruits and veggies and homemade muffins and such.  Makes me feel rich and prepared for leaner times.

 

-got 4 quarts of pickles canned this past weekend, all "chemical-free" but not certified organic.

 

-visited with my aunt and terminally ill uncle and my young cousin this weekend which is always fun.  I'm so glad that my girls are getting to know him now before he's too incoherent to know THEM.  They were great helpers feeding him bites of food at the cookout and racing him down the street in his wheelchair.  lol.gif  We jumped off the dock at the beach down the street and I realized that somehow when I wasn't paying attention, my older girls learned to swim.  headscratch.gif  How does that happen?  

 

-I got a big bag of canned goods and pasta and such that I dropped off for the food pantry yesterday.  I used to do it monthly, even if it was only a few small things and I got out of it when times got tough and the kids were eating school lunch daily and we were struggling.  I'd like to get back into helping the less fortunate than myself.  It felt good.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Chin up ladies.  We've been through tough times before.  We'll continue to make it through.  I have faith in every single one of you.hug2.gif  Life could always be worse.  There are blessings everywhere if you just have a mind to look  

post #495 of 1405
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Job starts monday.  Hour commute each way, and I will be making less than when I sub.  Hopefully its very temporary and the district has subbing jobs posted a couple weeks after school starts cuz I need money, I dont need to loose money.  sheezez.

 

Grateful for bountiful basket I ordered for saturday pickup.  Partially stocked fridge and freezer for the rest of the week. Hit a yarn sale at joann's and used coupons so have yarn for a couple projects I want to do. (hopefully enough to hold me over til the next mega coupon sale).

 

Going to the science center today. DS is going exploring and I'm going to find a bench and crochet.  Older kids are great!

post #496 of 1405

Small vent:  I am so frustrated with a mom friend down the street from us.  She is constantly asking me to come over and bring the girls.  Like, nearly every day.  It's fun to have play dates and get together and have adult conversation but every time I invite her out to do something, she has an excuse.  She has a car.  I'm asking her to do free stuff, mostly in town so it's under 10minutes driving distance.  I have asked her to do free things iwth us that require a 25 minute drive and she declined a few times(by way of excuses)  so I just assumed that she couldn't afford gas and that she was too embarrassed to say anything.  Even the free stuff that's literally a 5-10minute drive(the BEACH!) she has declined by way of excuses.  I'm getting really frustrated.  It's nice to get together and have the kids play but I would love to take them all out to do something.  I understand if she's overwhelmed by a toddler and a VERY ADHD school aged child but I think I've shown myself to be helpful there when we walk to the bus stop during the school year and I have a 13 year old who's also very capable of helping.  I just don't get it.  irked.gif

post #497 of 1405

justmama-agoraphobic, maybe?

 

Hubby borrowed a movie from a co worker, my mom is giving me her old dvd player sometime this week, and we had yummy smoothies.  Oh, and hubby gets paid tomorrow so we can start grocery shopping Thursday.  My sister's birthday is on Sun, we are having a small party and get together on Saturday night.  I already have the gift, which cost me a whole 2.50 thanks to yardsaling.  I may get her a couple scratch off tickets if I can.  All in all, things aren't going too shabby.  I'm off to make a last batch of muffins, and cut up some cantaloupe, but I'm seeing the finish line.  Yay!

post #498 of 1405

So in lieu of my divorce and health issues I asked on FB if one can get medicaid with preexisting conditions. One of my "friends" says "Oh yes, let's live even more off the government."

Ouch. I literally have chest pain now.

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So in lieu of my divorce and health issues I asked on FB if one can get medicaid with preexisting conditions. One of my "friends" says "Oh yes, let's live even more off the government."

Ouch. I literally have chest pain now.

 

 

Oh Micah - that was terrible of her. I have some  "friends" like that on FB too unfortunately. And yes, you can get medicaid with preexisting conditions. 

post #500 of 1405
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Oh Micah - that was terrible of her. I have some  "friends" like that on FB too unfortunately. And yes, you can get medicaid with preexisting conditions. 

Thank you..he's a misogynist who is never wrong. His wife is my BFF IRL though. Sigh. 

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