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post #621 of 685
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Originally Posted by Jennyanydots View Post

Glad to hear it, MadameXCupcake! Hope it turns out to be nothing after all!

My placenta, as it turns out is anterior again this time, so that explains why I only started feeling movement last week. Feeling more and more now smile.gif


Thank you, I do too! I am glad we do know in advance so we are prepared just in case. I think I will pick up one of the bottles for cleft babies just in case since it is so hard to see definitively on an ultrasound.

 

YAY for baby movements! I was so sick in the beginning I forgot about the good parts of pregnancy. Isn't fun to poke your tummy and have the baby push back? =D You are only 20ish wks right? Its amazing how everyday you will only feel the baby more.

post #622 of 685
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Originally Posted by MadameXCupcake View Post


Thank you, I do too! I am glad we do know in advance so we are prepared just in case. I think I will pick up one of the bottles for cleft babies just in case since it is so hard to see definitively on an ultrasound.

YAY for baby movements! I was so sick in the beginning I forgot about the good parts of pregnancy. Isn't fun to poke your tummy and have the baby push back? =D You are only 20ish wks right? Its amazing how everyday you will only feel the baby more.
Yes, 20 weeks! I haven't had that kind of interaction with the baby yet, but I remember it and really look forward to it! So exciting! smile.gif
post #623 of 685
Hugs to you Madamexcupcake, that sounds like s nightmare.
They are not passive aggressive. They are AGGRESSIVE. Yelling threats of violence is only AGGRESSIVE, nothing subtle about it and they sound like horrible people. I'm not the most forgiving person so I would consider permanently breaking contact with anyone who had threatened me/my family, blood telative or not.

My ultrasound today went great. Looks like a girl, still, so I'm hopeful it really will be one! My sons are also hoping for a girl.
post #624 of 685
Madamcupcake--- firstly, you are amazing for keeping so positive about nursing! I am the hugest worrier so I envy you! And oh wow do we have similar issues with CRAZY in-laws/family. If I had a home birth my first time around, all of them would have insisted they be at the birth. That's what's so annoying about a hospital. You can't tell ppl to leave. It's a public-ish place. My DHs entire family had to show up as I was almost in transition. My DH decided to go in the waiting room to talk to them leaving me to suffer through the worst contractions. Then I ended up having an epidural because he wasn't around to stop it and my labor wasn't progressing. In hindsight-- I of course don't blame DH and he did support me as much as he was able. It's not his fault his family doesn't have much in the manners dept... I was so upset they were there and all had to invade my personal space. My FIL actually had the nerve to bust in my room while I was pushing DD out! Luckily DH stopped him. Um... crazy!!!

I might get my homebirth this time and because we live 40 min. north we will hopefully avoid the entire crew. I'm even nixing the idea of having my sisters with me-- I'd rather them help with DD! I just want it to be me, my doula, DH and the docs/midwife!

Good to hear all you ladies had good appts. and I really am glad to read about the cleft lip not being such an issue!
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Serafina hoping for you that you guys get a girl. Do you think its a girl or boy? I think a lot of moms have dreams or feelings about their baby.

 

Tilly Monster I hope you get a homebirth, my first was AMAZING and wish all women could have such a peaceful wonderful birth experience. If you birth in the hospital, I hope the inlaws stay away this time at least.

 

Thank you about the cleft, everyone's positive vibes helped!! It really was so much smaller today and harder to see. :3 I tend to think I worry too little since I am so okay with it.

 

Don't want to hog the thread but I am still so upset and frustrated. DP's family were just passive aggressive before(over everything) but today it went way beyond that. Almost three years and I have NEVER seen them quite like this before. Its hard because I dont really have family so I have tried to be extra nice to them against DP's advice,... I understand now. :P I am going to make a police report I think(saved the voicemail) in case I need a restraining order once the baby is born. The last thing I want is angry people contacting me or showing up after I have a baby. At least we live an hour away.

 

DP did talk to his older brother who has been living at his moms awhile, he had heard a much different story with 99% of it untrue. His brother does know how his family can be and said he is going to try and talk to them and help them realize they are being insane. DP and I have decided to not contact them anymore and he did text his uncle letting him know never to threaten us again and to not contact us. I feel like we are such peaceful normal people and this was just so out there for me!!

 

Worst part and this is terrible of me,..I doubt they will buy the crib and carseat now and we are on such a tight budget with the midwife fee. Oh, good thing happened today though, we have a small aquarium maintenance company and we actually got a new tank today! The wife saw I was pregnant and gave us a gorgeous bassinet, baby tub, baby seat, and a ton of girl clothes that she was about to donate and they are all like brand new.

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post #626 of 685

Madamexcupcake, that sounds pretty intense! DH is worried about "handling" his parents but at most they would be very disappointed (and slightly resentful for the rest of their lives) about not being there, I don't think they would ever resort to threats and violence! Definitely start recording those conversations if they could be helpful in getting the law involved, hopefully it won't come to that.

Also, very cool about the lady just giving you stuff, there are so many good people in the world and I hope that you find more of them to add to your tribe/community.

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madamexcupcake so glad to hear everything is looking good with your baby! Your inlaws sound CRAZY. Sorry you have to deal with that drama while pregnant! I couldn't even imagine something like that with family. Luckily my dh's family are pretty good about staying out of our business, they didn't even ask to be there during our dd's birth. They came that evening and that was perfect for us and I'm hoping for the same this time. I would definitely save those messages and cut off all contact. So cool about the baby stuff you got.
post #628 of 685
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Originally Posted by Serafina33 View Post

Hugs to you Madamexcupcake, that sounds like s nightmare.
They are not passive aggressive. They are AGGRESSIVE. Yelling threats of violence is only AGGRESSIVE, nothing subtle about it and they sound like horrible people. I'm not the most forgiving person so I would consider permanently breaking contact with anyone who had threatened me/my family, blood telative or not.

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So sorry you're dealing with such craziness madamexcupcake.  As you probably know from the first time around, the boundaries you set with family regarding your birth and your baby are so important...IMO, the boundaries set the tone for where folks can step in the future. This is so beyond setting boundaries! I think you are on the right track with saving the messages and contacting police. 

Great news about your US...hoping the cleft is minimal, if anything.  Seek out some good lactation resources in your area to have on deck just in case there is an issue with a cleft--professional guidance through an unusual nursing situation is invaluable (not that I'm biased or anything winky.gif)

 

ETA: In our county, the health department has a low-cost car seat program. There's no need to prove income/expenses...a person who want the seat has to attend a brief class and bring the vehicle to the health department to have the seat fitted and checked. The cost varies from $25 for an infant bucket to $40 for a convertible car seat. Just a thought you might want to check into in your area.  I hear ya on the budget related to paying out of pocket for midwifery care! 

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I got to meet the 3rd midwife today, she was alright. The second one is my favorite for now, our personalities just seem to match.

There are some anatomy pictures of pregnancy at various stages on the wall in the exam room and I asked the lady today what weeks they were since they aren't labeled. She didn't know and then she pointed to one that seemed to me like it was 14 weeks at the most and she said that's probably where you are now. HUH? She'd already measured me at this point and obviously had felt my uterus above my bellybutton. I don't know if she just kept thinking that I wasn't as far along even though we had established at the beginning of the appt I was 22w5d. I was a little weirded out by that because then it got me wondering how much she really knows about pregnancy if she can't relate an anatomy picture to a real person...

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Thank you everyone, I do feel much better today after sleeping it off. It is weird how many people have crazy in laws! dizzy.gifIf I had a son I would in no way ask or assume I could be at the birth of his/his wifes child.

 

haurelia that is a really good idea about the carseat. I am going to look around and see if we can get a bucket seat through the county's program and that will give us plenty of time to save for the Radian convertible seat I really want.

post #631 of 685
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Originally Posted by dakipode View Post

I got to meet the 3rd midwife today, she was alright. The second one is my favorite for now, our personalities just seem to match.

There are some anatomy pictures of pregnancy at various stages on the wall in the exam room and I asked the lady today what weeks they were since they aren't labeled. She didn't know and then she pointed to one that seemed to me like it was 14 weeks at the most and she said that's probably where you are now. HUH? She'd already measured me at this point and obviously had felt my uterus above my bellybutton. I don't know if she just kept thinking that I wasn't as far along even though we had established at the beginning of the appt I was 22w5d. I was a little weirded out by that because then it got me wondering how much she really knows about pregnancy if she can't relate an anatomy picture to a real person...

 

I would go with the second one if you liked her. Its so important to have a good relationship so you can be most comfortable. Are there more midwives to interview still? The midwife you saw today sounds like she is lacking experience. >.>

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I don't get a choice, the three of them share the practice at the birthcenter so I get whoever is on call that day. At least it's better than one out of ten OBs who would be seeing me as one of at least five other women giving birth at a hospital. Right now I choose to believe that whoever I end up with will be just fine and I'll keep working on building a better relationship/understanding with the two midwives I don't feel as comfortable with.

post #633 of 685
Like you dakipode, I saw another midwife today too. I think I should be using the term lightly however because they see like regular OBs to me. At kaiser you get who you get but can request certain docs. I've heard good things about the one I saw and she did not disappoint! She was very nice. I meshed well with her and would just LOVE if she was at the birth if I do end up doing a hospital birth.

I was diagnosed with a DOUBLE infection-- both BV and yeast. Ugh. The last midwife I saw didn't seem to think anything was wrong and totally ignored my symptoms. She told me I was very irritated but had no infection. Uh ok. I had one, I'm sure of it.

I was rx'd flagyl and am afraid to take it. I am thinking the gel for BV would be better or just trying to treat it naturally. I don't know WHAT to do. I'm treating my YI first because that I know is totally safe for pregnancy. Not looking forward to battling infections this pregnancy and down right PISSED my symptoms were ignored.

I'm calling a birthing centre to see if we can afford it. I really don't want to have my baby in a hospital again. greensad.gif
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I had a first meeting with a volunteer doula yesterday and she was lovely.  Really sweet.  Totally inexperienced (meaning she is waiting on attending her first birth which could be any day now) but really sweet.

 

There are no professional doulas available at this time in my area, and I really liked her and her English was perfect and she's about ten years or so older than me, which is important to me for some reason (the other doulas were largely twenty-somethings and I feel weird about leaning on someone younger than me in this kind of dynamic, am I weird?).  I guess I want to be able to think of her as having at least more life experience than me, and as much experience birthing herself (she has also given birth twice, like me--some of the other volunteer doulas haven't even had kids), in order for her to be credible as a resource for depending upon for some help and advice.

 

She took my copies of Birthing Within and Ina May's Guide to Childbirth to read so she could brush up on all the birth terminology in English and just to read them.  She wants to meet me once a month and be my friend as well as study labor pain management techniques that appeal most to me from the books, and help me with them during the labor and help tell my fiance what he can do, ---and she had a really social and bubbly personality (that is EXTREMELY rare in this country where most people are really close lipped, awkward, and stiff).

 

So I guess I have a volunteer doula!

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I had my monthly prenatal checkup last night with my OB/GYN.  She is only providing my prenatal care.  I will be travelling to the US at 32 weeks for a homebirth.  I recently picked a midwife and she will soon start doing monthly Skype appointments with me until I arrive.

The OB/GYN measured my fundus (23 cm), weighed me (176 lbs) and gave me a prescription for ketoconazole suppositories for my yeast infection.  She also listened to the heartbeat, but she had a hard time cause hyperactive boy was wiggling all over the place.

 

She said everything was going along fine except that I have gained too much weight since our last appt.  My non-pregnant weight fluctuates A LOT and I often range from 145-175 depending on the time of year and what's going on in my life.  I was on the light end of the spectrum when I got pregnant.  I was 153 at my first prenatal visit at 8 weeks, but I think I had already put on a few pounds.  Anyhoo...  I don't know how much to make of this.  I went up 8 lbs in one month and I know everything says you should gain a pound a month...but that seems very rigid to me, like other things like your build and height would impact how much you should gain. And I hear some women say they always gain a lot more than you "should" gain but are still able to lose it all and it's not a problem.  I'm inclined to not be too concerned, since I was at a pre-pregnancy weight somewhat lower than my average weight.  What am I supposed to do anyways??  Not gain anything this month to get back on track - that seems crazy.  I'm going to try to start making better nutritional choices - I've been pretty good, but I do also indulge a lot of cravings for pastries and ice cream.

As for the yeast, I was torn over weather to use the suppositories or not because I really didn't want to use any medication during my pregnancy.  But I am getting desperate - the itching is driving me crazy and none of my home treatments (vinegar, peroxide, garlic) have done anything more than calm it for one night so I decided to start using the suppositories.  They are Class C - but what I read said that topical ketoconazole doesn't cross into plasma, so I decided to let that reassure me.  It's a three-day treatment and I hope to God that they actually work and I don't just get a relapse of the yeast a few weeks later.  If that happens, I'm gonna be pissed.

post #636 of 685
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Originally Posted by lilmamita View Post  And I hear some women say they always gain a lot more than you "should" gain but are still able to lose it all and it's not a problem.  

That's me.  I gained 40 pounds with first pregnancy and 50 pounds with second, and I'm 5'7" and a size 2 normally, very low BMI (but not quite 'underweight').  I lost 90% of the weight right away in the first couple of months post partum, and then the last ten percent after weaning.  I actually ended up a half-cup size smaller in the breasts and five pounds lighter than I was before having kids, when my kids were 3 and 5 and weaned, about a size 0, but then again I was going through a rough divorce at the time so stress can also affect that.  I'm also 25 pounds up already from where my normal weight is (maybe 18 since getting pregnant and another 7 while TTC and Christmas holidays), and I am not giving it a second thought.  If you are at ALL concerned, skip the pastries and ice cream for healthy alternatives, like homemade whole grain muffins sweetened with banana and berries (yum!) that are easy to make....and for ice cream, my favorite substitute that I actually PREFER to ice cream, is getting red seedless grapes and washing them and picking them ahead of time and then putting them in a plastic bag and into the freezer.  The next day they are a DELICIOUS frozen snack, the texture is like sorbet inside, and it's absolutely addictively delicious.  And totally healthy.  Frozen mango and banana are good, too.

post #637 of 685
50lbs with my first pregnancy. It was all gone before I even went back to work...
post #638 of 685

Serafina and CDsMom, thanks for making me feel better!!  I guess the doctor just got to me last night.  It's silly, cause my cousin also gained 50 pounds (half of her pre-pregnancy body weight) and she's skinny as a rail again.

 

We finally defrosted our freezer the day before yesterday so there is now room for me to freeze fruit!!

post #639 of 685
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Originally Posted by Serafina33 View Post

I had a first meeting with a volunteer doula yesterday and she was lovely.  Really sweet.  Totally inexperienced (meaning she is waiting on attending her first birth which could be any day now) but really sweet.

 

There are no professional doulas available at this time in my area, and I really liked her and her English was perfect and she's about ten years or so older than me, which is important to me for some reason (the other doulas were largely twenty-somethings and I feel weird about leaning on someone younger than me in this kind of dynamic, am I weird?).  I guess I want to be able to think of her as having at least more life experience than me, and as much experience birthing herself (she has also given birth twice, like me--some of the other volunteer doulas haven't even had kids), in order for her to be credible as a resource for depending upon for some help and advice.

 

She took my copies of Birthing Within and Ina May's Guide to Childbirth to read so she could brush up on all the birth terminology in English and just to read them.  She wants to meet me once a month and be my friend as well as study labor pain management techniques that appeal most to me from the books, and help me with them during the labor and help tell my fiance what he can do, ---and she had a really social and bubbly personality (that is EXTREMELY rare in this country where most people are really close lipped, awkward, and stiff).

 

So I guess I have a volunteer doula!

She sounds wonderful! I hear the age thing a lot honestly, but I have also heard people say they were worried about having a younger support person but in the end the person really came through and that age didn't matter anymore. I do think becoming a doula is a job that is slowly becoming more popular  so I think we will start seeing a lot more 20-somethings in the job. It also seems like a great stepping stone into midwifery so I think that's one reason a lot of younger women are pursuing a doula career before leaping into midwifery. Just my observations :) What matters is that YOU feel comfortable with her and are going to be able to lean on her during your most vulnerable time. Our doulas sound very similar! Outgoing, bubbly, social types! 

 

Are you taking a Birthing From Within class or just reading the book? I am in the middle of reading the book and just picked up a journal to start writing in and doing a bit of journaling like getting my fears out and talking about my birth vision. I did that for my daughter, although I hadn't read BFW. I also like to save the journals for when the kid(s) are older and pass onto them. 

post #640 of 685
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As for the yeast, I was torn over weather to use the suppositories or not because I really didn't want to use any medication during my pregnancy.  But I am getting desperate - the itching is driving me crazy and none of my home treatments (vinegar, peroxide, garlic) have done anything more than calm it for one night so I decided to start using the suppositories.  They are Class C - but what I read said that topical ketoconazole doesn't cross into plasma, so I decided to let that reassure me.  It's a three-day treatment and I hope to God that they actually work and I don't just get a relapse of the yeast a few weeks later.  If that happens, I'm gonna be pissed.

 

I have only ever had a yeast infection once in my life so far and I was not pregnant, but I did boric acid capsules and it cleared it up within a day or two. I am not sure if boric acid is safe during pregnancy, a simple Google search could answer that probably. You have to buy the boric acid and capsules seperately and fill them yourself, it's very easy. Just another option for you if you wanted to avoid the meds. 

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