January 2013 Chit Chat - Page 3 « Back to Group Discussions

[Jaimee]

Yeah, Joanie, I don't think that not vaxing is an issue as long as you fill out the non-vaxing forms provided by your state or write a letter stating your reasons (usually religious reasons are necessary).  I just made up some stuff about our philosophy and it was fine.

[Becky Wheeler]

Here, you can find almost NO regular daycares that will take your child unless they're vaccinated. It's mandatory.

[TalkToMeNow]

I'm all about the questions this week.  Penis question: Jasper's foreskin is pinkish... it looks irritated. He shows no signs of it bothering him except that the last two times we tried to give him a bath, he started screaming and crying the minute he sat down. He wanted to take the baths, so it wasn't that. I looked at it closely, like at the inside a little... ?? Umm... not sure how to describe that. Obviously, I didn't retract his foreskin! But it is a bit lose, you know? Anyway, it looks raw and irritated in there. Any advice? We are definitely going to stop doing bubble baths, make sure he is changed quickly, and let him have some diaper free time to air out. Anything else? What about in the short term- is there anything we can do to speed up healing and minimize discomfort? Any idea what caused this? 

Re: baby fever. None here. Still feel like I have a baby! Joanie, when do you guys plan on having another? 

[CDsMom1031]

I don't have any advice with the foreskin issue, but I hope you get it resolved quickly.

Regarding the daycare thing, I personally would move him. The long term stuff might not matter as much at this time, but it WILL... So if you move him now, he can get adjusted. I'm sure anywhere you take him, he'll be happy... And if not, you can always take him back. I know it's a hassle but that's what I'd do.

I lost a coworker on Wednesday. I had just worked with her on New Year's Eve. Someone went to her apartment to check on her after she didn't show up for work and found her deceased in her bed... She was 28. =( The coroner investigator came to work last night and told us he was fairly certain she'd been dead over 24 hours when she was found. She left a coworker's NYE party around 1245a, and they believe she passed in her sleep at 4a. No one found her until the following morning around 7a. They said they believe she went peacefully in her sleep. There still isn't a definite cause of death, but everyone at my work is fairly certain she accidentally ODed. It sucks really bad. =(

[Jaimee]

I'm so sorry to hear it Nicole!  How awful!

Amanda, I would assume he's just have some irritation due to a wet or dirty diaper that may have been left on a little longer than usual or maybe a little bit of a yeast infection.  I would recommend all the things you already mentioned- more frequent changes, diaper-free time, no soap in the bath, etc.  If you're using cloth, I would also recommend adding some TTO to the load to kill off the possible yeast.  If you're using sposies, you could try a little bit of OTC anti-fungal cream.  If you prefer not to use a medicated cream, you could go the more natural route, but it's messy... gentian violet.

[birdhappy85]

Oh wow, Nicole, I'm so sorry to hear about your coworker's passing.  How tragic. 

Amanda, there is no TTC going on over here for at least another year. Since I want a spring baby next time, we'll probably be waiting another year and a half to try again. If we could afford to finish our basement and move a lot of stuff down there, we'd have another baby sooner... but we don't have the room at the moment... which is so frustrating to me considering we have a decent-sized 1650 sq ft, 3-BR house. Our third bedroom is currently DH's office with computer parts everywhere and an elliptical machine I can barely get to in the midst of boxes and other randomness. Our dining room has no dining table still. It's a storage room in the middle of our house. It's crazy-making! I hate having clutter all over because we just don't have anywhere to put it all. *sigh* Sorry for going on a tangent, but I have a feeling with how long it's going to take us to finish this basement, we won't be having another kid for much longer than I want to wait...

[Becky Wheeler]

Ugh! What a horrible way to go. :( I'm so sorry for your loss, Nichole.

Amanda If Levi has a diaper on longer than usual, his gets irritated and I put him in a baking soda bath (sometimes a breastmilk bath if I have some extra) and keep a diaper off of him as much as possible.

[TalkToMeNow]

Nicole, I'm sorry to hear about that. How sad. 

Thanks for the info about Jasper, Becky and Jaimee. 

Joanie, just throw some stuff out! Lol. You can store stuff in an unfinished basement, right? Dd1 and dd2 shared a room until they were 10 and 7. 

Hold the phone: I was looking at the fancy daycare's website again, and they offer a vegetarian menu! What?! I've never seen that before. It includes things like breaded eggplant sticks and homemade vegetarian chili. Yum. 

[birdhappy85]

Oh yeah, I suppose I should've added that we can't store stuff in the basement right now because ever since we cleared it out for foundation work, the floor is an exposed asbestos tile that we have yet to get removed or cover. 

[seraf]

Nicole, I'm sorry.

Joanie, peel and stick linoleum is less than a buck a square foot and easy to install yourself. Lol.

Amanda, they're often pale pink inside. Neospirin if you are into that, breast milk if not. Sometimes they scratch themselves with their fingernails, so soft pants are nice for protection while airing. If he's fussing in the bath but not while peeing, I wonder if something else is hurting?

No baby fever here, we still have a baby.

[Mal85]

Joanie-- I feel you on the house situation. We have the two girls in a 950 sq. ft. two bedroom home right now. We are packed in here! Luckily, we have quite a bit of storage in our basement, but we are still just overflowing. The girls share a room, so that leaves little space for toys and such in there. Everything that belongs to them is in our main living area and I can't stand looking at it all the time! We have the house on the market, now if only we could sell it and get some more space! I would like a finished basement to keep the bigger toys in and keep their personals in their own bedrooms. Them sharing isn't too much of an issue so far. They don't really keep each other awake and they seem to like each other's company at bedtime for the moment. It will be nice to give them their own space though once we find something a little bigger.

Vax-- DD1's preschool states that vaccinations are required, but I was never even asked for immunization records. I got a copy of them and was prepared to defend the fact that we haven't done all vaccinations, but they never asked so I didn't bring it up.

This has been a long week here. DH got sick overnight NYE, a stomach virus. I got it yesterday afternoon and was supposed to return to work today after our Christmas break, but wasn't able to. DD1 was running a fever last night and this morning, but seems to be feeling better now. So, I'm missing my class Christmas party today. It was supposed to be our last day before the break, but we had a snow day and I just hated to push it back again, so they are having it without me. :( I also had a new student starting today and had to miss her first day, huge bummer. 

Oh and baby fever... no thank you! This was about the age I started getting baby fever after DD1 though. We decided to wait until she was 18 months old, hoping for a late spring baby. Took us longer to conceive than we planned on and ended up with a wonderful Scorpio instead! I do see tiny ones from time to time and enjoy snuggling them and miss that newb stage... but I also enjoy handing the baby back to their own parents! DH says he's done. I'm still giving it a few years to make any decisions. I like our family of four for now.

That Scorpio is screaming at me now, gotta run...

[seraf]

Joanie, we have 6 people in 1600 square feet with no basement. Maybe just look at your living space as see what you can move around? Our house isn't traditional but we like it!

[Becky Wheeler]

So I got my AF back yesterday! I know that that's not usually something to celebrate about, but I really wanted off of birth control so we could practice NFP. My cycles are always spot on 28 days long  and it's really evident when I'm fertile. Is it normal to HURT when you ovulate after 23 months of no ovulation? Two days of sometimes outright PAIN (it almost felt like an obstruction it hurt so bad) and the rest of those 2 days was dull aching. 

[Jaimee]

I wouldn't say it's normal to feel ovulation, though certainly some women do, and especially not common for it be classified as all outright pain.  You might have a cyst.  Most ovarian cysts are completely benign and resolve on their own.  But with this in mind, I would absolutely NOT rely on NFP as birth control for several extra months.  Definitely get many charts under your belt to see your new postpartum pattern emerge and make sure you're not dealing with a cyst anymore, which can obscure your pattern.  USE PROTECTION. 

[Autumnshades]

We have been interested in trying NFP but my cycles aren't 28 days, anywhere from 28-34 days in length. There is no pattern at all. Frustrating. When my AF came back postpartum the first one was a killer! I was in so much pain, and it was so heavy. But since then, a few months have passed and the pain has lessened considerably.

I have a small amount of baby fever, but it is more my DH than me. Eli had such bad colic and the first 3 months of his life are a blurr. I want to trust that our next babe will be different but I am not sure. It was so hard and I am not sure I feel ready to face that yet. Besides, I still need to ideally lose another 30lbs before we ttc. I am at my pre-pregnancy weight right now, but I need to loose this extra weight...

My DH is just getting over a terrible cold. I am so glad my immune system is strong - I managed to not get sick when Eli had it, and I seem to have gotten through my DH's cold unscathed. Too bad migraines plague me so often though.

[Becky Wheeler]

Originally Posted by Jaimee 

I wouldn't say it's normal to feel ovulation, though certainly some women do, and especially not common for it be classified as all outright pain.  You might have a cyst.  Most ovarian cysts are completely benign and resolve on their own.  But with this in mind, I would absolutely NOT rely on NFP as birth control for several extra months.  Definitely get many charts under your belt to see your new postpartum pattern emerge and make sure you're not dealing with a cyst anymore, which can obscure your pattern.  USE PROTECTION. 

Ya. After I got my period, I was like gosh, I hope to goodness the birth control isn't causing me to have cysts. (heard so many stories it's not funny) I haven't had problems like this before. Is this usually where discomfort occurs during ovulation for those that do feel ovulation?

(this is on MY right)

[CDsMom1031]

I have a friend that started getting severe ovulation pain post partum. Her doctor gave it a name... I can't remember what it was. He just prescribed her pain meds.

And I only had mild baby fever, haha. I'm excited, don't get me wrong. It would have just been ideal for this to happen at this time NEXT year.

I'm honestly terrified of raising two. I'm so scared, it's not even funny. I don't know how you guys do it.

[Becky Wheeler]

Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 

I have a friend that started getting severe ovulation pain post partum. Her doctor gave it a name... I can't remember what it was. He just prescribed her pain meds.
And I only had mild baby fever, haha. I'm excited, don't get me wrong. It would have just been ideal for this to happen at this time NEXT year.
I'm honestly terrified of raising two. I'm so scared, it's not even funny. I don't know how you guys do it.

you wont know how we do it until YOU are doing it. ;) It's a secret. :P

[birdhappy85]

Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 

I have a friend that started getting severe ovulation pain post partum. Her doctor gave it a name... I can't remember what it was. He just prescribed her pain meds.
 

Maybe he was referring to mittelschmerz...? Although that doesn't just happen postpartum, it can happen at any age, any time. (I can't imagine being prescribed pain meds for it, though...) I started getting mittelschmerz when I was a young teen. My dad brought me to the ER because the pain was so severe we thought I had appendicitis.  I always feel my ovulation, every single month. I've read statistics saying something like 20% of women experience mittelschmerz occasionally or regularly, so it doesn't seem THAT uncommon. It is totally normal for me. It sure does suck some months. I had DH laughing the other month when I swore if we TTC'd then I would've popped out twins because I was feeling ovulation from both sides and more painful than usual (whereas I typically just feel it on the right side). Ha!

And yes, Becky, that does appear to be similar to where I feel the ovulation pain. I'm not sure how low on your abdomen you're pointing, though. Mine is pretty low.

[CDsMom1031]

That's the word! =) Thanks, haha.