We have a gentle hitting game. Probably a bad idea. Jasper lightly pushes my face, and I snap my head back and yell "boom!". He loves it. He's not much of a hitter and has yet to bite. He will push us away sometimes and occasionally throws a toy. He has a very mild temperament, so he is rarely angry at us. The only thing that really upsets him is being kept out of places he wants to be. Meaning closing the refrigerator, dishwasher, or pantry, or not letting him leave the bedroom on his own to go down the stairs. I try to give him a little fridge, dishwasher, and pantry time, but he always goes for the beer and the knives. Sigh. Anyway, these are the things that cause tantrums. For Jasper, that means screeching, feet stomping, then giving up on life, sinking to the floor, and sobbing. He will allow us to pick him up and comfort him. After dd1, all other kids just seem funny. So I usually just laugh. Same with poor dd2- when she tries to be bad, I just laugh. Must stop laughing! Kids hate that! But I have infinite patience thanks to dd1. Well, not with her so much...
Screaming- Jasper does it. Typically only when he wants to be held or nursed and we aren't doing it. He has no words. Not a talker. I am trying super hard to teach him signs now because I don't think talking is going to happen soon. He knows more, all done, and milk. But sometimes he just uses all three in a row. It's a work in progress. Typically, I know what he wants, but I'd really like him to be able to express himself better.
Good advice given on hitting and biting. Not much you can do. Keep teaching gentle. Dd1 use to chase me around trying to bite. And she wouldn't give up for a long time. I'd have to hold her head back, but she'd still be coming at me, teeth barred. She bit for a long time. Just family, no other kids. Then dd2 would try to bite her.
I think the teenage years are very similar to the toddler years. I read that teen brains are flooded with dopamine, so they feel everything-good and bad-very strongly. So true. Oh the drama with dsd. The drama!! "Dsd, I see you failed your Spanish quiz last week. What happened?" Dsd- Sobs!! "You guys don't understand!!!" ??? We took her cell phone away a while back for something she did, and I swear she cried for three days. And wouldn't talk to us.
Btw, Jasper is all better! Rash is almost gone, and he is back at daycare. Yay!