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post #21 of 339

Our pregnancy is on hyper speed ,, thats what my DP says... since we are having 3 babies.. we will deliver ( hoping and god willing) at the end of Febuary at a little over 34 weeks.. So we have had a lot less time to prepare... 

 

But the babies nursery is ready .. we got the final piece we were waiting for ( handmade quilts we ordered for their cribs) we have lots of clothes ( up to a size 2t.. we have been very blessed) and bottles and so on.. 

 

things are so diff once there is more than one baby.. we cant really co sleep or breastfeed 100 percent..  I plan to try and  will be pumping for them as well! 

 

I cant believe we are having babies so soon!!!!!

post #22 of 339

I'm really excited for you Cananny. Eagerly waiting for the arrival of your guys! 

post #23 of 339
Thread Starter 

I know which bucket car seat we're getting...the cheapest Graco I could find was at Real Canadian Superstore. I want a Graco because we bought a used Graco Sweetpeace swing, and you can set the carseats right in those. But I'm waiting to buy it because Superstore often runs a promotion where if you spend a certain amount, you get a free gift card. As soon as they run that promo I'll go snag our seat. Once Teddy outgrows the bucket he can use DD's convertible carseat because she'll be big enough for a booster...and those are only 15-30 bucks.

 

I really need to make an appt. with the chiropractic office here that specialized in prenatal care (DH's work insurance covers chiro). I'm hoping they can help with the SPD pain, and maybe even write me a prescription for a support belt. Hopefully DH's work insurance will cover a belt if I have a script for it, because our provincial insurance doesn't cover that sort of thing. And I told my midwives that the insurance will cover $300 for a pump if I have a script and they said they'd be very happy to write me one. So yay! Looks like I'll be able to get a good pump after all.

post #24 of 339
I just want to check in. I left to go to my mom's about quarter after ten. With adjustment to time difference, I got to her house (She lives in Tennessee.) six. She got me a hotel to stay the night, but even though I laid down at 8.45, I stayed awake trying to sleep until 2. I woke up at 6.45, worried because I hadn't heard from DF since before he started his shift (he and the kids stayed home). I called home, and it turned out my phone was acting up, he had been texting me, just I didn't get them. So I went to get breakfast (chicken, egg, and cheese *whole wheat/grain bagel!!!*) and then went to help my mom pack. Four hours later, everything was packed, the car was loaded, and we left.

We got here (to the hotel in Missouri, where she's moving), about an hour ago, and I am *so* tired of driving. My back hurts, my hips hurt, I miss DD, DS, and DF. I know I need to do this, to help my mom move, but... when I get back home, I'm not driving again for... maybe forever. I'm still a bit overwhelmed about the fact that after I make sure my mom is settled in, I have about another ten hours before I get to see my immediate family again, let alone be in my own home.

But, on the bright side, finally, after 26 years in a very abusive relationship, my mom finally decided to leave! And staying in a hotel means I get to sleep in a real bed, instead of the floor or a couch. So, a few good things.
post #25 of 339

I'm REALLY starting to get super excited for April to get here! It seems SO far away when I think about having 16 weeks to go, as I'm due at the end of the month, but when you all talk about having babies here in 7 WEEKS and 12 WEEKS, my heart drops into the pit of my stomach! Then I feel like I don't have any time at all!! 

I'm already chomping at the bit to get everything done! I am getting ready to complete my cloth diaper stash and I have plenty of clothes for baby from newborn to 6 months. We already have my car seat that we will use in my car (we will have another for DH's car) and his swing as well. We've stocked up on blankets and hooded towels, baby washcloths... just normal things that we think we will need. I'm pretty positive that my family is throwing me a baby shower, so that will be nice too! 

I am going Saturday to get my new car. I'm so excited! Mine is such a piece of junk. DH's parents bought his car for him about 7 years ago when he was in high school. It's still a nice vehicle and we haven't had any issues with it. Mine, though, is trash. It only has 115,000 miles on it, but things constantly go wrong. Thankfully my dad is an auto body repairman and is always there to pick me up and fix my vehicle as soon as I have issues and I never have to pay for labor, but it's ridiculous when you have to pay for car parts once every three weeks. DH is dreading me having my new car because I have chosen a 2013 Kia Soul and he thinks they're hideous... but it will be SO convenient with baby!! 

I am also looking into buying a breast pump. I plan to exclusively breast feed for the first few months, but when I go back to work I plan to pump. So if any of you all have a specific brand that you were in love with, please let me know!

 

post #26 of 339

Being our fourth child, I need nothing. So after trying hard to organize my house for the last month or so, I forked out money to purchase organizational items for our house that will hopefully help us fit another person. New drawers for toys in the girls room where Maebelle will eventually sleep.  A shoe rack by the front door so we don't have to look all over for everyone's shoes.  Bins for the wire rack dh and I store our clothes in (the kids are constantly getting into them and making a mess).  Slipcovers for the couch that is falling apart.  Oh and a baby gate so I can keep the two littles in my office with me if I need to without worry about them walking into the rest of our bedroom which is the official "unsafe for kids" part of the house. The only thing I'm missing is the extra coat rack I need to hang at the kids level.  So I feel like I spent a ton of money but if it declutters my house, it will feel awesome!

post #27 of 339

Had a baby appointment today! Calliope is doing great, hates cooperating for the doppler and took 10 minutes to get her to stay put for her heartbeat....150BPM! She seems to be growing good! OH! And I talked to her about not doing vaginal exams during labor, and she agreed to it :D

post #28 of 339
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Originally Posted by bambihelton View Post

I am also looking into buying a breast pump. I plan to exclusively breast feed for the first few months, but when I go back to work I plan to pump. So if any of you all have a specific brand that you were in love with, please let me know!


 

With my DS1 I using a manual Medela pump after going back to work, and it didn't work for us. It didn't keep up my supply while I was away at all. We ended up having to do formula PT.

 

With DS2 I borrowed a friends double electric Medela pump (with new tubing & parts) and it worked awesome! I was able to pump for 10 mths and not have to do any formula. So if you can, try to get a double electric one for work. You can sometimes get them through the hospital and your insurance will pick up the tab. Otherwise, since they are so expensive, try getting a used one. As long as you get new parts where the milk touches, I don't see it as a problem.

post #29 of 339

Alaska: Our midwife lends out electric breast pumps for free, so you might want to check with yours just in case.

post #30 of 339

We ordered an Arms Reach Co-sleeper some time ago but it was on backorder. I just got word that it has been shipped. So excited to start putting the corner of our bedroom together for the Little One!

post #31 of 339

Please be careful with used electric pumps!! Especially if you don't know the person you're getting it from. There was quite a stir a couple of years ago with the Medela pumps because even if you replace the tubing etc a small amount of dried milk CAN get into the motor into areas that you can't clean. Though it usually is harmless, in rare cases, if mom had something communicable, it could be transferred to the milk you're pumping.

 

Ameda pumps have a fail safe built in - there is a silicone diaphragm that prevents any air from actually being sucked into the tubing/motor so it's impossible for milk particles to get up there. I don't know if Medela has fixed the issue in recent years or not since it was 4 - 8 years ago that I was researching it, but please be cautious. The Medela instruction booklets used to have a big warning about not sharing or using someone else's pump.

post #32 of 339

Heh, I've seen Bambi and I mixed up 3 times so far in the last few days :P!

post #33 of 339

So, I had my 26-week appointment yesterday (and the GTT-ugh), and the doctor spooked me a bit. I've been going to the women's health practice at our local hospital (it's only 5 minutes away), and have seen almost all the OBs on staff. Yesterday I saw the department head--he was filling in for the doc I had the appt with (she was doing a c-section). This guy was in the room for less than 5 minutes, didn't even confirm my name, and suggested--as he walked out the door--that it was a good time to check and see if my insurance covered tubal ligation, so they could take care of that when I have the baby.

 

I looked at him and said EXCUSE ME?

 

Seriously, I'm not a fan of western medicine in general, but...this guy really freaked me out. Is that something that docs would normally ask? Am I right to be weirded out?

post #34 of 339
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Originally Posted by mayday View Post

So, I had my 26-week appointment yesterday (and the GTT-ugh), and the doctor spooked me a bit. I've been going to the women's health practice at our local hospital (it's only 5 minutes away), and have seen almost all the OBs on staff. Yesterday I saw the department head--he was filling in for the doc I had the appt with (she was doing a c-section). This guy was in the room for less than 5 minutes, didn't even confirm my name, and suggested--as he walked out the door--that it was a good time to check and see if my insurance covered tubal ligation, so they could take care of that when I have the baby.

 

I looked at him and said EXCUSE ME?

 

Seriously, I'm not a fan of western medicine in general, but...this guy really freaked me out. Is that something that docs would normally ask? Am I right to be weirded out?


I'd be freaked out! It sounds like he didn't look at your chart at all, or assumes you don't want more children. It also sounds like he's already planned for you to have a c-section. While your abdomen is cut open, they can just tie your tubes for you. Your baby can wait to meet its mother while she finishes surgery...geez. I'd be finding a different practice, if it were me. Any midwives around where you live? Most cities have midwives who deliver in hospitals...it doesn't mean they're great, but it's worth a shot.

 

This reminds me of why I LOVE my midwives. I'm choosing not to take the GTT and when we discussed it, she made sure I knew that it is MY choice and America is the only country who tests every pregnant woman for it. It just shows me that when I'm in labor, I'll still be making the choices that are right for me. Anyway, good luck!!!

 

ETA: Did he even introduce himself and shake your hand? I've had experiences with doctors who assume I will willingly put my life in their hands, whether they introduce themselves or not...some just have a god complex. Some are great, but a lot of OBs especially just do things how they want to, without regard to the mother's feelings. It's SO not cool! I could go on and on, but I won't...Women have to take back control of our own healthcare; reproductive or otherwise.

post #35 of 339
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Originally Posted by alaskanmomma View Post

Heh, I've seen Bambi and I mixed up 3 times so far in the last few days :P!

Hah! I was about to say the same thing! ...I wonder why this is! If only I was as tiny as you too! 

post #36 of 339
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Originally Posted by mayday View Post

So, I had my 26-week appointment yesterday (and the GTT-ugh), and the doctor spooked me a bit. I've been going to the women's health practice at our local hospital (it's only 5 minutes away), and have seen almost all the OBs on staff. Yesterday I saw the department head--he was filling in for the doc I had the appt with (she was doing a c-section). This guy was in the room for less than 5 minutes, didn't even confirm my name, and suggested--as he walked out the door--that it was a good time to check and see if my insurance covered tubal ligation, so they could take care of that when I have the baby.

I looked at him and said EXCUSE ME?

Seriously, I'm not a fan of western medicine in general, but...this guy really freaked me out. Is that something that docs would normally ask? Am I right to be weirded out?

OMG!!! I would of told him OFF if he said that to ME! Wow. That anyone would assume something like that is appalling....OMG. I'm speechless. I'd be so pissed, I'd have to call and complain. Wow.
post #37 of 339
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Originally Posted by mayday View Post

So, I had my 26-week appointment yesterday (and the GTT-ugh), and the doctor spooked me a bit. I've been going to the women's health practice at our local hospital (it's only 5 minutes away), and have seen almost all the OBs on staff. Yesterday I saw the department head--he was filling in for the doc I had the appt with (she was doing a c-section). This guy was in the room for less than 5 minutes, didn't even confirm my name, and suggested--as he walked out the door--that it was a good time to check and see if my insurance covered tubal ligation, so they could take care of that when I have the baby.

 

I looked at him and said EXCUSE ME?

 

Seriously, I'm not a fan of western medicine in general, but...this guy really freaked me out. Is that something that docs would normally ask? Am I right to be weirded out?

I think doctors are being encouraged to offer this or it is because they make a ton off this procedure.  A few years ago, I believe that I had a miscarriage with an IUD in. I didn't take a pregnancy test even through I had symptoms because I  had an IUD so there was no possibility. After a couple of months of irregular spotting, I passed what looked like an embryo straight out of a pregnancy book.  I was shocked. By the time I came to terms with it a month later, I went to the first ob/gyn that would agree to take out the IUD.  I let them know that we were planning to TTC the next month anyway so there was no need for birth control. Their response was to let me know that I should consider "permanent birth control".  I responsed again saying that we wanted more children.  This must have gone back and fourth for at least five minutes. It's rediculous.  They will never perform that procedure on me!

post #38 of 339

Thanks, ladies. It seemed kinda crazy to me, but I was caught off guard, and went for a polite "no thank you, that won't be necessary." Afterwards I stewed, and told my BF who was like "WTF?"

 

Really, it's funny--I'm 35, this is my first baby, and I'm certainly the healthiest-looking pregnant lady I've seen in this practice (I live in a teen mom, smokin' and drinkin' rural area). Don't you think I can manage my own fertility if I've made it this far without getting pregnant?

 

MommyRuth, there is another practice/birthing center a half-hour away, staffed predominantly by midwives, with only consulting OBs. I've been too darn lazy (or distracted, or forgetful--goodness, it's almost third trimester time) to inquire about switching practices. I think this was my tipping point, though.

post #39 of 339

I'm trying to catch up on everything here since I've been blocking myself out of most of the internet from 7am to 9:30pm each day!  It's been nice...but annoying, too, as when I'm pregnant I just want to "chat" with other pregnant ladies due around the same time as me.  It seems I always have a need to compare what is going on!!!

 

Mayday....I would be SO offended in that situation! (like, "not go back" offended!!)  I am sorry!!!!  That totally stinks.  Can you submit a complaint?  

post #40 of 339

Oh....EXHAUSTION!!  Anyone else?  I can't sit anywhere for more than 5 minutes at a time without falling asleep!  I know we already discussed how some of us have less energy in the 2nd tri than any other time, but man this gets old.  I hate being too tired to exercise, or too tired to clean the house, or gosh...too tired to get up and make my kids a sandwich without feeling like I'm having teeth pulled. LOL

 

But the thing is, if I nap during the day, even for a few minutes...I have the potential to stay up ALL.NIGHT.LONG.  I'm still tired, mind you, but that tiny bit of sleep (can't call it "extra" since I'm definitely lacking) combined with the pregnancy insomnia I get with night wakings...well...yeah.  They don't work well together.  Scratch that...they work TOO well together.

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