Sounds like DC liked the lesson and that is the most imporant part.
This weekend went way to fast...had a b-day party for #3...went to the zoo...church and not much time in between That is all without my in-laws. Can wait for that.
WOW! Praise the Lord!
9/11/01 my friend was to start a new job in the World Trade Center that day. She was late getting to the train...the train was running late. She just gets out of the subway as the 1st plain hits the tower. She is so thankful to the Lord for her life! Also the I went to church with a man that made it out of the south tower...that is a story.
Hahaha-- what a sentence to start your post :)
I never had one big "talk" w my DC, it was ongoing, age-based, matter of fact simple info along the way. All their questions were always answered promptly, truthfully, and age- appropriately. When there was related scriptural principle, it was given in context at the time. (Like if a 6 yo wanted to know how a mommy egg and a daddy seed got into mommy's belly, I'd prolly say that God gives married people a special and private way to make babies; that some people who aren't married also have babies this way, but it was God's gift only to married people, that it is called sex, etc, something like that-- depends on the child & how much they've already asked/ already know.)
Somewhere around the double digits, I want them to have a really complete understanding, so we usually read something like "Preparing for Adolesence" together. BE WARNED-- this book has SUCH an inappropriate (as in EXACTLY CONTRARY to scriptural commands!) section on self- stimulation that I literally CUT it out of our copies of this book & replaced it with a short paragraph that is in line with scripture! (I'd love to hear if any of you mamas can recommend another book as complete & direct & honest as this one without the sin-promoting section -- IDK why they did that! Grrr!) There are other messages I disagree with, but it's minor stuff so my DC & I discuss it.
I love how Corrie Ten Boom's father replied to her when she asked specific questions about oral sex when she was quite young (pre-school, I think). He told her he would answer her, but first, she must go to his shop and bring him his big metal toolbox. Off she went to get the box. She soon returned after trying and failing to even budge one end off the ground, and said, I can't bring your tools, the box is too heavy for me. He told her, that's ok, he knew it would be and the answer to her question was also too heavy for her right then, but they would talk about it more later, when she could bear it. What a great dad!
Welcome, Cantora87! Amish hippie, LOL! You sound a lot like me C: heehee
YW, Nazsmum, I loved reading about Corrie Ten Boom's life-- it was a homeschool unit study for us & led to us reading a lot about other missionaries.
My parents did not do a good job talking to us IMO, & I would never advocate their methods. They mostly left health & sex ed up to the public school we attended; I recall asking a question once of my mom & she asked my older sister to explain stuff to me & rushed off to work! When I was a bit older & her friend told her she saw me kissing a boy at the park, my mom tried to shame me & mentioned "discretion," but she/ they never instilled moral (or any!) values related to sex. When I became a Christian, I learned a LOT & knew I could never raise my DC that way!
I am so thankful for many Christian parents who were excellent and gentle examples to me along the way! I got a LOT of encouragement on how to be less GRRR- Authoritarian! like my parents were here on MDC (tho I mostly lurked at first!) When DS1 (now 19 yo) was born, a kind nurse gave me a spare copy of Mothering in my going home bag-- that has made a huge difference for my family! It was full of all new concepts to me! but it was exactly in line with how I wanted to raise my child.
For me sex ed was a mix of public school and my mom. My mother was very open. She like you never just sat me down and had the talk. It was an on going talk. Public school I think is very over rated. We had plan parenthood come in and all the parents where in an up roar...If you want the school to do the teaching then deal with it. My mother was not among the moms and dads with the problem.
Did you read about George Muller? He lived his life with a great faith. Amazing! I love to read all kinds of auto/bios Christian or not.
Forgive me but what is YW? I'm so not the computer person.
baby all over me...sorry
Hi, YW = you're welcome
I'm not familiar with Muller (or it's been so long I don't remember the name, heehee). We like "Hero Tales" when my DC were small & I'l consider it again... at least it hasn't made DH's "no list" yet... I think we also spent a long time on Gladys Aylward. One thing I want to do is have my DC study contemporary missionaries-- there are couples I went to school with who've been in the field since college & others the cong we attend support; maybe that's a starting point. They get some up close looks at a limited area of mission work w DH at work, but hopefully it can send the message that these were real people & the work is still out there and all around us to be done!
I will check out the Not the Stork book, TY, trekkingirl. Although I have at least a decade before I have to fill in gaps again C:
Did anyone's parents do a really good job with sex talks? LOL