Where to start...I thought about putting this under the sleep forum but when I started to type it, it was clear it was more of a breast issue.
First of all, my son is 8.5 months old. He WILL NOT go to sleep without a breastfeed. Lately, he is refusing my left breast at night. He pushes and screams and scratches if I try to put him on the left, so I'm quickly becoming lop-sided since he's always on the right. Any idea what that is about??
He used to fall sound asleep while nursing and I'd lay him in his crib. Lately, he eats, starts to drift off and then fusses, which quickly turns into a loud cry and he WILL NOT go to sleep. He keeps putting his binkie in and taking it out for the nipple then switching back and forth--all the while crying. I then have to put the breast away and walk, bounce, sing--whatever works at the moment--to get him to sleep. Then once he's down he is waking up A LOT--like every half hour or so :(
Once he's down and he wakes up, he wants to nurse EVERY TIME. I obviously cannot nurse him every half hour or hour all night long. Plus, since he is teething (no teeth yet but he's chewing on everything), his latch is painful now after a while. And this kid takes his time--he'll be on for 20 minutes + if I let him. Even when the milk runs out. He likes to stay on and just suck. So, my husband has to go in EVERY TIME he wakes up because if I go, he wants milk and then he goes into a frenzy. If my husband goes, he's able to get him back down with some walking, rocking, etc.
On top of that, this whole thing is making me want to wean him--especially at night. I have no clue how to do this. He WILL NOT take a bottle or a sippy cup. He goes BALLISTIC when we give him a bottle with ANYTHING in it (even water) and he can't have cow's milk for another 2 weeks when he turns 9 months old and who knows if he will even take that. He is on purees and has been since 5 months. He eats A LOT so I know he doesn't NEED to nurse all night. There is NO WAY he'd go down in his crib without the breast. If we just lay him down, he cries his eyes out and we WILL NOT do CIY. We need some serious help.
He IS teething--no teeth yet but chewing on everything and I feel a bump on his lower gum so I know that is part of it. However, I don't know what to do about any of this. I am just at my wit's end. I end up crying too many nights a week and this is putting a strain on my husband and my relationship, too, since the baby is refusing me once he is down so my hubby is in the baby's room every half or or hour soothing him back to sleep and he's got to work in the morning and it's just a hot mess. I do nurse him around 2 or 3 am when he wakes and/or 5am--depending on when he is awake. He usually comes in the bed with us if he wakes up around 5am and he sleeps with us until about 7:30 when he wakes for the day. Depends on his wake times since he is not on any schedule and every night is a total crap shoot. ANY HELP IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!