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[cagnew]

I think all pregnant women are entitled to some complaining :) The last due date club I was part of had a thread just for the moms to commiserate about their aches and pains. Anyone want to join me? Here I go:

I have sciatica (mostly at night), lower back pain, my hips ache and ache at night, my ribs are starting to hurt at the end of the day. And the horrible constipation, alternating with horrible diarrhea is in full swing. It's been 8 days since I "went" and I am sticking around the house because I know it big D is coming any day now....

I almost forgot the pubic pain and the brand spanking new pregnancy symptom- vulvar varicose veins. Anyone else have vulvar varicosities? Do the support belts work?

It's all worth it and I am complaining in fun (mostly...), but by the end of pregnancy I am usually a mess and feeling like crying on a daily basis!

[alaskanmomma]

I had constant nausea from the beginning-20ish weeks, barely ate, but still gained like 30 lbs o.0 (HOW?)
Now the past 3-4 weeks have been heartburn hell, even drinking water brings on a heartburn attack :(
I'm sad I can't feel the baby as much as most since I have an anterior placenta :( and when I DO feel her, it feels like her foot is going to shoot out of my vagina or something, so uncomfy!!!!

[Cananny]

My complaints.. 

The pressure is soooo intense..carrying three puts alot of pressure early on

I love feeling the boys kick and like Bambi all 3 of ours have anterior placentas so at 26w4d  Im just starting to feel them more but ive been told to lie on my side.. well when i lie on right side.. baby C gets mad and starts kicking up a storm.. when i rotate to my left.. Baby B gets grumpy and kicks me.. Baby A is down low and he casually kicks me .. I am like hello boys.. WHERE am I supposed to lie? Cant be on my back because I get really short of breath.. They def do not care for me to be on my stomach.. LOL

But man my hips and legs hurt ... 7 more weeks for us!!! we are in the countdown.....

All in All Ive had a easy pregnancy no M/sickness.. only 2x of heartburn.. but i loathe the pressure on my cervix~

[BeanBean06]

Oh man! Don't get me started! Well... Since you asked

I've been in strict bed rest now for 9.5 weeks... So my back and neck hurt constantly! I frequently wake up or try to move and my neck totally locks up and I'm in pain and can't move for days... That happened yesterday and while I can move my neck abit more today my arms now have shooting pains and numbness... And of course the leg pains are just awesome! Not.

My hips are crazy sore!!! I have had HUGE bruises on them from abt 2 weeks of bed rest on... They r just swollen red and purple. The dr looks at them at every visit and visibly cringes but he says how sorry he is but it's common in bed rest... And that it isn't a prob unless they open up? EWWWW! I sure hope that doesn't happen!!! Ugh.

Migraines. Nausea, oh yeah I never had "morning sickness" until about 3days ago! 27 weeks and morning sickness is just starting!?!?! Oh joy.

Not to mention these awful BH contractions that are sometimes really painful and have landed me in L&D a few times.

An last but not least!!! I hope this isn't TMI but... It's been 5 FREAKING MONTHS! Since I was put on "complete pelvic rest" --- I miss my DH

So happy to have been blessed with this baby after so many years! But yeah, I so can't wait for her to be here and healthy and to NOT be pregnant anymore!!!!!!

[MommyRuth]

Cananny and BeanBean, I feel like you have more reasons to complain than I do! I can't imagine being pregnant with more than one or being on bed rest! I'm sore enough and can move about all I want to. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth and less painful. I have one thought that might be worth looking into. Have you thought about seeing a chiropractor? I've been getting adjusted weekly since about 14 weeks and it's definitely helping. BeanBean, I'm sure it would help your neck and back...hips, too! I am extremely fortunate that my insurance covers it for now and I don't know what I'd do if it didn't!

My complaint is more about the state our apartment is in right now. The dining room is piled up with a bunch of computer crap that belongs to my husband. He won't put it in storage because apparently cold temps might ruin it but there is NOWHERE else in our small apartment for it to go! I wish he'd either store it or get rid of it, but I can't ask him to do that. When we get a house he plans to have an office with all his computer stuff in it, so I understand not wanting to get rid of it, but who knows when we'll be moving into a house? On Sunday he sent DD and me out of the house so he could "do some stuff." He made a valiant effort, but the only difference is that now all of the stuff that was in front of the fireplace is gone and we can use the fireplace (which is wonderful!) I appreciate the thought and effort he put into it, but wish he had actually organized/got rid of stuff. I got rid of damn near everything when DD and I moved in, so it's not my crap taking up space! We really will need a bigger place sooner than later. The kitchen is tiny, too. Granted, hubby was a bachelor before we met and this place was perfect for just him. The lease is up on the 1st of April and I can't remember why, but there's some huge event happening in April that will prevent us from moving...oh yeah, we're having a baby! ha ha ha Anyway, that's my complaint for the moment.

[1babysmom]

I'm having near constant sciatica and my SPD is really bothering me now.  Haven't had as much SI joint pain as I've been working really hard to stay on top of it, but the SPD scares me, because I know how vicious it can get and I don't want it to get as bad as it has in the past.  

I promised myself I wouldn't allow complaining about the things I so desperately wanted to experience again after all we went through, but when they are so physically painful it's just kind of hard to blow them off.

[BeanBean06]

MommyRuth - I have been active in chiro care for years!!! Unfortunately after my cerclage was placed I wasn't allowed for a month and then given permission, to give it a try and not 5 minutes into the adjustment I started CRAZY contractions and had to go to L&D, they werent strong enouh to show on the monitors but were really painful...And it freaked my chiropractor out, he won't adjust me anymore til after birth (or I get to term) I hope I can get an adjustment in before birth. Ugh my body is screaming for it. I'm not allowed prenatal massage either

[Greenlea]

Right now my complaints are horrible heartburn. And I'm super thirsty but any kind of liquid brings on the heartburn.

My hips are super sore from lying on my side in bed.

I have super dry skin on my face, which makes my face very red in some parts and I look ridiculous!

My belly hurts a lot. I don't know if its BH or just too much stretching or what.

[Oliver's Mama]

Sinus infections while pregnant really suck. I'm so hungry but I can't enjoy food because it's hard to eat when you can't breathe! And I have a feeling I'm getting really gassy again, but I can't smell so I don't know for sure... it's just awkward to be around other people now.  

Dh is in the hospital. something's wrong with his heart, and that just well, breaks my heart. and I know it's totally wrong for myself to go to the hospital to visit when I look like the walking dead myself, but oh well.  I find if I stand by the doorway dh gets service really fast because who doesn't feel bad for a crappy looking pregnant woman??  He was in the ER for 5 hours, then I showed up and stood by the doorway and within a minute the nurses were talking about where was the transport, and let's just go find someone ourselves now to get him moved to a room right away (as I rub my belly...)

On the bright side, I have a wonderful wonderful mother who happened to have vacation time this week and has taken the boys for a while. Chasing and hollering at boys was a bit challenging without a voice or energy.

nice to vent! thanks for starting this thread.

[TIFF4NY]

I'm starting to wake at night with incredibly sore hips, legs, ribs and arms on whichever side I'm laying on. Flip and then repeat a short time later. Suuuuck. 

[cagnew]

1babysmom: Maybe "complaining" is the wrong word. After all, we are all happy to be pregnant (I assume anyways) and I don't think anyone is complaining that they are pregnant. Perhaps it would be better to say we are just talking about the tough parts of pregnancy :)

Most of y'all have me beat! I can't imagine being on bed rest! 

Oliver: I hope you feel better and that your DH gets better soon!

[jessmn]

I guess things have been pretty good for me! I am getting close to 23 weeks with twins and my biggest complaint is horrible hip pain and leg burning/numbness at night. I just can't get comfortable at night! I've been getting more out of breath and it's harder to move around (in/out of the car, couch, bed, etc) but my husband is awesome and either does things for me or helps me up if I need it. He even puts on my socks! :) Heartburn is definitely picking up again a bit, and my heart itself periodically palpitates, which scares the heck out of me (I went to the doc and it appears normal). It seems that it happens when I don't eat or drink enough.
 

[firespiritmelody]

It's nice to be able to commiserate <3

Let's see... I've had sinus issues this entire pregnancy - I just can't breath out of my nose, at all. Which is leading to dry cracked lips and a sore throat. It goes away here and there, but comes right back. Thankfully it's been a while since it's been runny, which was worse, but it's still stuffy.

Baby is sitting HIGH and squishing my stomach so eating is still a challenge. Food has finally started to sound good again but now I can only eat a couple of bites before I feel stuffed and uncomfortable, but then half an hour later, I'm starving again. The heartburn is getting bad again too.

This weekend my middle dd came down with a 48 hour stomach bug (out of the blue) so that lead to a rough couple of days. I came down with it on Tuesday night and stayed home yesterday and spent the day in bed - let me tell you I have so much respect for you mama's on bed rest! I woke up this morning in so much pain! My arms and upper body were soooo sore from the tossing and turning and pillow fluffing I did yesterday. It was awful! Then to top it off, just as I was feeling better last night, youngest dd started to feel icky and ended up throwing up all over both of us and the couch! Poor baby really let it all loose too. I was so grateful DH was home since the LO and I had to get in the shower and there was a huge mess to clean up on the couch. Thankfully that seems to be it for her, she was feeling fine afterwords and is her normal self today.

I think baby went through a pretty big growth spurt this week too - there's a lot more movement now and it's the gliding kind where you can feel a little foot or elbow move across my belly, not just swift kicks. And I can feel baby simultaneously on both sides and/or top and bottom at the same time now. The down side to that is that I feel like I've got a stitch in my side, like if I ran too long or something, and it's usually in the same spot and lasts for a few hours. I'm pretty sure it's just muscles/fat/skin trying to accommodate the growth, but man is it uncomfortable!

[1babysmom]

Oh yeah, one thing I forgot....

In my past pregnancies, my heartburn/ER has been SO bad that I can hear the clicking sound of my esophageal sphincter opening and feel the acid come up.  Yuck.  Thankfully that hasn't happened this time- yet- but on Christmas Eve, after everyone else was asleep, I was still wide awake in SEVERE pain, felt like I had a knot in my esophagus that someone was pulling on and tightening every few minutes, and the heartburn on top of it was horrid.  I wanted to die.  I had already taken my d-limonene, was out of manuka honey, took papaya, drank some aloe vera juice, gargled with some salt water and ACV, finally resorted to some Pepcid complete and was able to sleep off and on for the rest of the night sitting up straight.  Horrid.  The burns were sore for days afterwards!  Yuck.

Chiro managed to relieve a little of my sciatica today so I'm hoping to maintain it for a while.  Having to already take a LOT of careful time getting out of bed in the mornings to prevent SPD flare-ups because I'm so dang sore.

Does anyone else fear getting bigger?  I've seriously tried to figure out why this pregnancy is SO different this time- gaining more weight faster and feeling like a house much earlier.  I'm so uncomfortable just sitting most of the time, and feel like there's no way I can make it another 15-16 weeks.  It's ridiculous.

[1babysmom]

Originally Posted by cagnew 

1babysmom: Maybe "complaining" is the wrong word. After all, we are all happy to be pregnant (I assume anyways) and I don't think anyone is complaining that they are pregnant. Perhaps it would be better to say we are just talking about the tough parts of pregnancy :)

Nah, I feel like when I do it anyway, it's definitely complaining. LOL  I just meant that for me, I remember just begging God to let me have another baby and that I would do my best do not have negative feelings about any part of it since I wanted it so desperately, and I tried to go into this pregnancy with a mindset that anything I had to deal with was worth it and I could truck through it with a smile on my face.  Obviously I've failed. ;)

[mayday]

Where to start? I am so thankful to be pregnant--but I've been sick for the last 20 weeks. Nausea from weeks 6-8, nausea and vomiting from weeks 8-12 or so (even on Zofran!), and then killer heartburn/acid reflux for the last 8 weeks which has me taking Pepcid twice a day and still not able to lie down for a few hours after eating. And still sometimes feeling like crap even with the Pepcid.

The relaxin has loosened up my left hip joint to the point that it's painful to walk, and torture to sleep on. And my right arm falls asleep if I lay on that side. Fun times!

Insomnia and crazy light sleeping have kicked in this week--which means I sleep for two hours, am awake for two hours. Then maybe sleep again, but better pee first, or I'll be up again in half an hour.

Pregnancy has totally zapped my (very, very healthy) libido. Poor BF! Except for the occasional stimulating dreams, which means waking him up at 4am to get busy. Thankfully, he's very happy to oblige!

Babe is wonderfully active--I love it! Now if only she'd take her feet out of my right side rib cage...

[Greenlea]

Originally Posted by 1babysmom 

Does anyone else fear getting bigger?  I've seriously tried to figure out why this pregnancy is SO different this time- gaining more weight faster and feeling like a house much earlier.  I'm so uncomfortable just sitting most of the time, and feel like there's no way I can make it another 15-16 weeks.  It's ridiculous.

Oh my gosh yes! Especially my belly. The top of my belly hurts from stretching I guess, most nights after dinner. It could be painful BH too, not sure. I just fear more pain in my belly as this baby gets bigger. All my belly is above my belly button this time, where as in previous pregnancies, my belly is always really low. I also fear getting all new stretch marks at the top of my belly where I had none before.

[IronMam]

Right now my biggest complain is how freakin' lonely I am. I feel completely isolated. I wish it was hyperbole when I say I have no friends, but it isn't. If I wanted to go out for some coffee and a chat, I literally have NO-ONE I could call. My family is all 1800 miles away. The closest things I have to friends are online, and not close enough to talk to about my problems or anything. I thought DD starting preschool would give me a chance to make friends, but nothing's come of it so far. Everybody is so busy with their own lives and already have friends. And during pregnancy, this sort of isolation is just compounded because you see all these other pregnant ladies being celebrated by their friends/family and you feel so jealous.

[cagnew]

IronMam: 

[mrsavery]

I have all the usual "common" complaints, as well- RL pain, nausea, heartburn, uncomfortable for more than two seconds laying down in bed, not sleeping, ITCHING that is driving me nuts. But the biggest thing I am having to deal with is being pregnant with type 1 diabetes- it sort of sucks. No, it really sucks. Normally, as your baby grows, your body kicks out more insulin to compensate, and keeps your blood sugars level. Since I have no insulin, I have to guess how much the baby is growing from one day to the next and how much more insulin I need. My insulin needs have already more than tripled, which I am assured is normal, but it is still freaking me out a little. I can't eat hardly anything I used to be able to eat without a HUGE spike in blood sugar. High blood sugar makes me feel weak and nauseous and just ICKY like I have the flu. It's hard to stay hydrated, so that's another constant battle. I have to worry about ketones and protein in my urine and whether or not that will cause kidney damage. Mostly I just worry about what a higher than normal blood sugar is going to do to my baby. I don't want him/her to be twelve pounds and have issues at birth and not be able to bond and breastfeed and do all the things a "normal" baby would get to do. And I really feel guilty when I think I could pass this disease on to him/her. Even though it is manageable, I can't go more than five minutes without some sort of reminder that I have diabetes. some alarm going off telling me I need to poke a finger or give an injection or quick hurry up and eat something before you pass out. Be as perfect as possible so you don't inflict a lifetime of suffering on your child. It's exhausting- physically and emotionally.