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post #21 of 224

Wow mrsavery that sounds awful.  I'm sorry you have to go through all that.  You should be able to enjoy your pregnancy and not have to worry constantly.  Although I seem to worry anyway at least I don't have as much of a reason to worry.

 

Although my first trimester was completely miserable, the second trimester has gone quite smoothly.  In the first trimester I had pretty much every symptom possible all at once for weeks.  In the second trimester I only had to deal with dizziness and shortness of breath at certain times of the day and occasional vomiting but nothing like in the first tri.  And extreme hunger causing me to pile food onto my plate only to find out I can only eat half of it before feeling full or uncomfortable.  Then an hour later it seems like I'm starving again.  Oh and falling asleep has been almost impossible.  As soon as my head hits the pillow my little guy starts flipping and kicking me constantly!  Just when I think he's calmed down and I start to drift off another huge KICK causing me to jump in bed sometimes waking my poor husband.  That's okay though he gets his revenge because usually as soon as our son finally stops kicking my wonderful husband begins snoring loudly and I'm left laying there glaring into the dark, wide awake.  Or he will start twitching in his sleep, shaking the whole bed.

 

One symptom just started tonight and I'm curious if anyone else has had this problem.  My little one has been very active today especially since I got home from work and his constant kicking (which has become much stronger the past couple days) is making me feel a nauseous tonight!  He's not usually active at this time of day but he hasn't stopped for more than a few minutes for a little over an hour now and kicked all through my dinner.  The weird thing is that it never made me sick before but tonight I couldn't even eat much of my dinner and I think it's because of his activity while I'm trying to eat.  Is that possible or a coincidence?  I haven't felt sick in a couple weeks!  I'm thrilled that he seems to be getting stronger and has plenty of energy but mama needs her food now.  I'll be 26 weeks on Monday.  Anyone else felt sick from movements during dinner?

 

Ironmam I can sympathize a little bit with your situation.  Although my I can talk with my family, they are quite old fashioned and seem a little uncomfortable discussing pregnancy stuff.  And most of my family is appalled that I'm having a home birth and considering skipping some vaccinations.  They don't even seem to support my desire to homeschool.  So talking to them isn't very satisfying.  They pretty much think I've lost my mind and refuse to listen to my reasons.  I also don't really have any friends.  Any friends I had from high school have either moved far away or have drifted away due to different levels of maturity as we grew up (if you know what I mean).  I have one "friend" I talk to occasionally but she's a few years younger and nowhere near ready to settle down and have kids so her idea of a good time is having pretty much having a couple drinks which obviously I won't be doing any time soon.  She sometimes asks about the pregnancy to be nice but has no way to relate to any of it and doesn't really know what to say.  And as much as my husband wants to be there for me he has no idea what to say most of the time either.  So I feel very isolated as well.  That's why I come to this site every night to see how you all are doing.

 

Sorry for the length of this post, I realize my complaints are nowhere near as bad as what some of you are going through but its nice to share with those who can sympathize.

post #22 of 224

Can I just complain about sleeping? I'm actually sleeping decently but I have to keep rolling over because the entire side I'm laying on will start to hurt sooo bad. My ribs especially. I am not looking forward to the next 2-3 months of this getting worse. ouch. =(

post #23 of 224

I get the rib pain, too!  It's like one specific rib under my left breast, and it's like I'm "jamming" it or something so I always have to sleep with my top arm (assuming I'm on my side) up along my side or behind me so it pulls my ribs apart.  But yeah, totally annoying and uncomfortable!!!!

post #24 of 224

Does anyone else have problems with overheating? A couple times a day I'll get really hot and flushed, but not sweaty or shaky, sometimes accompanied by a thumping heart (not necessarily a fast heartbeat, but definitely thumping). I talked to my OB about this yesterday but he just said, "more water!" It just happened now, and I was sure I was drinking enough - I even went to the bathroom and sure enough my urine is nearly clear. Now I'm back to normal (cold with goosebumps - my office is cold!)
 

post #25 of 224

My biggest sleep issue is I'll wake up to pee at like 4 or 5...and end up starting thinking, and suddenly I'm just laying awake. Only to fall asleep like a half hour or 45 min. before I have to wake up!

 

On another note, the note of "Kids say the darndest things" (big kids!)...my 11 year old stepdaughter just asked me "Do pregnant women get big butts?" after I walked past her in my saggy, comfy union suit. Uhhhhhhhh...

 

I think I said "Many women put on a little weight all over..." and then she tried to backtrack saying "I'm not saying you have a big butt, you have a medium butt, an extra small butt. Can I say you have a medium butt?"

post #26 of 224
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On another note, the note of "Kids say the darndest things" (big kids!)...my 11 year old stepdaughter just asked me "Do pregnant women get big butts?" after I walked past her in my saggy, comfy union suit. Uhhhhhhhh...

 

I think I said "Many women put on a little weight all over..." and then she tried to backtrack saying "I'm not saying you have a big butt, you have a medium butt, an extra small butt. Can I say you have a medium butt?"

 

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post #27 of 224

I don't remember having BH with my other pregnanies this early. I am much more "tuned in" to this pregnancy because I wanted it so bad so maybe I'm just paying better attention. I've been having uterus-hard-as-a-rock contractions and wow, I'm really impressed by them. Sometimes I can't even walk normal because it is sooo tight and often I stop talking because it almost takes my breath away. Not "painful" but sure the heck aren't comfortable. I'm just in awe of my body and the pregnancy in general.

post #28 of 224
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I don't remember having BH with my other pregnanies this early. I am much more "tuned in" to this pregnancy because I wanted it so bad so maybe I'm just paying better attention. I've been having uterus-hard-as-a-rock contractions and wow, I'm really impressed by them. Sometimes I can't even walk normal because it is sooo tight and often I stop talking because it almost takes my breath away. Not "painful" but sure the heck aren't comfortable. I'm just in awe of my body and the pregnancy in general.

 

I hear you! They are a lot stronger for me this time around and I have exactly what you described. It does take my breath away and it's so noticeable this time.

post #29 of 224

So as hard as I was trying to avoid getting sick, it's happened. I have the flu, and it SUCKS. And to top it off, we got new windows today, and so the kids were going all kinds of crazy, and they were here for like, 6 hours, which may have been reasonable, but it felt like forever. On top of that, the land lord  was here, and kina pitched a fit because I didn't vacuum, and the kids had their snacks sitting on the table, while they played. I'll get it done, but frustrating, anyway. I didn't want to vacuum before they came, because I didn't know what kind of mess they would make.

post #30 of 224

bmcneal, I hope you feel better.

 

All 4 of my kids were home sick today! :( Lots of fevers, headaches, and coughing. I'm thinking it might be the flu, but not planning to go to the dr to confirm. We were there last week for something else and probably picked it up there. Trying to hang in there. I've developed a little cough, but hoping to avoid this. What are the odds?

post #31 of 224

Is anyone else getting pulled muscles in your thighs, above your knees? The pulled muscle seems to go from above the knee about halfway up my thigh. My mom said it's probably a combination of my joints loosening and the added weight (nearly 30 lbs).

 

I *think* it happens when I go up stairs too many times, at least I can really feel it when I use the stairs. I did it once in my right thigh about two weeks ago after going up and down A LOT of stairs, then nursed it and then re-injured it like a day later. Then I did the same thing on the left side, nursed it back to normal, and then hurt it again today. I've given up going up stairs, too! Elevators or two-stepping it up the stairs (which takes forever). As for today, I must have been walking too fast for the bus or trying to keep up with my coworkers when we went out for coffee.

 

 

In other news, sleeping sucks. My hips hate me and I wake up every 2 hours like clockwork. I might have to start sleeping in a comfy chair. (this is with a snoogle pillow and a wedge pillow) SAD.... :(
 

post #32 of 224
I feel you on sleeping sucks... It's really bad... My hips are in so much pain from sleeping on them with the added weight:/
I can't lie on back or tummy ... I too have the pillow :/ I wish we had a chair or space for one... The couch isn't very comfy...
I have about a month to go... I'd like some sleep!

Also eating is hell lately... I get really bad stomach aches after any meal... It takes a few hrs to semi subside... I eat smaller meals more often, upped the protein, tums make me sick.... Sigh I need these babies to gain weight they are being evicted in a month !!!!
post #33 of 224

Thank God.  A forum where I can whine and not feel ungrateful.  I'm 45, this is a totally unexpected, wonderful, nay miraculous blessing in our lives, but gosh, I'm tired all the time.  Gosh I wish the federal gov't offered maternity leave, even a month!  Gosh I wonder where the energy to do all the new mama stuff will come from. 


Again, guilty here (not to mention silly) for even mentioning it because I have zero pain, zero trouble sleeping and zero food issues (except I'm hungry every few hours), but gosh I wish I didn't have to "toot" constantly!  It's one thing when we're at home and my 5-year old laughs, but hello, still working here, still around adults who don't appreciate it!  (Hope that wasn't TMI, even for this group!) 

post #34 of 224

Cool, Seth's Mommy. I'm 44, but will be 45 before my dd, I guess I'm not the oldest one here ;)

 

I'm also exhausted. I was doing OK until I came down with the flu 2.5 weeks ago, and now I am tired all the time and have a cough I can't shake. The cough wreaks havoc on my weak bladder and makes everything feel weird and swollen down there. I'm also having a lot more BH contractions, which are normal for me, but still freak me out. I also get out of breath a lot.

 

I have large varicose veins on the back of my thighs. I think the fact that I wear crocs all the time helps my leg pain, because so far it is manageable.

post #35 of 224

Wow, cool, another mid-forties Mom!  I've been veering crazily the whole pregnancy between "I can't believe this is happening!" and "How will I ever live through this?"!!

 

Yuck, the flu!  Watch that cough though - when I get a persistent cough it tends to drop down into pneumonia.  Hugs and hugs....

 

My birthday is two weeks before my due date, so I'll actually be 46 when dd gets here (if I go full term). 

 

I am fine when I can have brief periods of real rest (feet up, body relaxed) every now and then, even 15-20 minutes or so.  It's the sitting at a desk and pretending to be work-focused all day that gets me.

 

I wear one pair of Clark's clogs constantly, too.  But I'm particular about comfortable footwear anyway.

 

Do you have other kids?

post #36 of 224

I became painfully aware yesterday that the baby has gotten herself into a position where if I eat pretty much anything at all, I get some serious discomfort and indigestion. I spent nearly all day at my In-laws for the Superbowl and practically the entire time I was in pain. The pain started from eating about a 1/4 cups worth of leftover pad thai from the night before and then didn't let up until about 4am this morning when I managed to (TMI) poo a little and vomit up what was seemingly trapped in my stomach. Then I was instantly better! Argh.

 

This morning I've had a tall glass of water and about 2/3 of a banana and that even started to give me pains so I'm backing off for now. I guess we'll see how long this lasts. I'm not sure if I should look at it as a pain in the ass or a blessing in disguise so I don't overeat. Heh.

post #37 of 224

Another 40s mother here....I'll be 42 in a few days so not quite mid-40s LOL  No real complaints here.  My biggest issue is that the back of my left leg is almost solid purple and bulging with veins and painful. This has happened starting with pregnancy #4 and will resolve itself immediately upon birth.  I had my husband bring down a rolling office chair to the kitchen so I can keep off my feet as much as possible....and with my crew, I'm in the kitchen probably 70% of my waking hours :)

post #38 of 224

I'd be curious if there's any data to support the idea that us "older" mothers are just plain more tired than the younger ones - it makes sense intuitively, especially since I was no dynamo even before I got pregnant - but looking over the other symptoms listed on this thread, I have to say that I feel pretty lucky.  No one should have to deal with diabetes, or migraines, or nonstop nausea, or social isolation while trying to grow a baby.  Hugs to all you mamas!

post #39 of 224

Seth's Mama I have 4 other children (ages 3-12). My birthday is 3 weeks before my dd. I was no great shakes energy-wise before I got pregnant either. I've never been that energetic, though. I don't think my symptoms are particularly worse than those of the younger moms here ;) except for maybe being tired.

 

Ethelpea, I've been using a rolling chair in the basement when I do laundry. It's great for my front-loader because the bending is impossible.

post #40 of 224

I haven't had much to complain about lately, but it seems everything is coming at me at once. I now have round ligament pain whenever I got to lay down for sleep. My pubic bone kills at night while laying on my hips which also hurt. I sleep on my back probably more often than I should because my hips hurt so much. I'm getting fatigued pretty easily now, my fingers swell up but only at night (not sure why only at night??), my right leg hurts like I have charlie horses sometimes and I start limping.  I get quite a bit of uterine cramping as well lately, I'm guessing baby is growing? And I have that burning stretching feel under my boobs.

 

Luckily my heartburn is few and far between, only been getting it when baby sits too high.

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