Hi everyone. i have a 2.5 year old. she will be 3 in april this year.
She has only ever nursed, never had a soother, bottle. I am proud of this.
I am proud of myself to continuing to nurse beyond the age of 2. i nurse her to sleep for nap time, and i nurse her to sleep at bed time. On the evenings when i am not home usually due to work (i work part time in the evening 1-2x a week) she goes to bed great for her dad.
we never let her CIO.
I nurse her when she is hurt, scared, tired, sad, or just wants some 'nursies'
She nurses on demand, but i do set some limits, like after my back is killing me or my boobs cant take it anymore.
she nurses to go to bed around 8 pm, and sleeps until 4-6 am ish when she nurses to sleep again another couple hours then nurses again.
She nurses to go to bed in the afternoon for a nap, sometimes up to an hour, she just sleep nurses.
on average i would say she nurses 3-4 times a day.
I love the benefits and the positive it brings to her but am annoyed lately. she will never go to sleep for me without some nursing. i know its all normal but fuck i am frustrated!!!
I was 3 months pregnant in November when we lost the baby, my plan was that she would liekly just naturally wean off by the time number 2 came. since the m/c she seems to nurse more. it hurt a ton when i nursed while pregnant.
i have NO DESIRE TO TANDEM however if she wanted to i would, because thats what ya do... i have no desire to wean her, unless she wants to, but starting to feel like i should but i feel SO GUILTY for NOT LOVING NURSING!
my uhusband is very supportive but at the same time will put little jabs hereand there that she is not a baby anymore... (aka she can stop nursing)
oh and DID I MENTION THE TODDLER TWIDDLING, playing with my other boob, switching boobs back and forth 10 times, fonding me, poking me holding them ugh i find it so annoying and constantly telling her to keep her hands to herself and getting angry when she doesnt listen. she constantly pulls at my shirt to get at my boob, and sometimes latches on before i even can tell her not right now...
please tell me i am not alone and not everyone loves toddler nursing.
im not sure what to do.
thanks for listening