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post #1101 of 1719
Oh god... I just discovered vulva varicose veins and they are *common* in pregnancy from extra blood flow to the area. *gulp*

I think I might be experiencing this and BV/YI. !!!

Any other ladies know about this? Just plain wrong...
post #1102 of 1719

On that TMI note..... today nausea hit me while driving on the freeway, had literally a mouthful of spit and nowhere to spit it, nearly had to vomit on myself while driving, but in the end thankfully managed to make it to a public restroom.  Where I then heaved several times (all I had had to eat that day was tea with milk and honey and a grapefruit, so it was just came out super violently as it was all liquid) AND a squirt of pee came out each time, and the pink vomit onto my shoes and floor, which of course I mopped up with toilet paper, and tried to blot my damp pants/panties crotch but it still felt gross. puke.gif I had a time crunch to get four errands done asap so I couldn't go home and change and just now (3 hours later) am I home and able to shower and put on fresh clothes.  Ewwww!!!!!!!!  

post #1103 of 1719
tillymonster - Have you considered placenta encapsulation or something similar for post partum? It's supposed to make a HUGE difference to the mood swings and things like post partum depression after birth. We did it last time and I took the recommended dosages of the placenta pills for about... 2 months? I think? After birth. I didn't experience any mood swings or PPD or post partum anxiety. Now, that was my first birth, so who knows, maybe I wouldn't have anyways, but I figure it can't hurt! But a good friend of mine suffered from PPD after her first birth, then did the placenta encapsulation and took the pills after her second birth and had no PPD depression at all. I think it really does help to regulate the hormones that run crazy in our bodies after birth.
I hope your thyroid meds help this time around, but figured I'd offer another option as well smile.gif
post #1104 of 1719

*edited for a typo (I'm sure there are others that I'm not catching :-)*

 

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Originally Posted by Bromache View Post

Oh, and Kegels are real, and really do help! What I hate about them is that feeling of dread that happens when you hold those muscles in (that's a real thing, too — I thought I was crazy, but at least one source I read said that when you get that feeling as you hold, it means you're doing them right), but they help. You can try to use the muscles to stop your flow of urine when you pee. Do it several times each time you're on the toilet and you'll notice it gets more and more effective.

Just wanted to second that Kegels are very real.  About 5 years ago I was having issues with being able to hold it when I had to pee.  Not pregnancy related at all, but I would get the urge to pee and if I didn't find somewhere fast I'd have an accident.  The doctor recommended Kegels and they totally helped.  It's interesting you mention the feeling of dread cause I've never heard anyone else talk about that before, but I definitely experience it.  When I'm contracting the muscles as part of the Kegels, I do get a sense of dread that goes away upon release.  It's interesting, because I've done some work with a bioenergetic therapist, and in bioenergetics your urinary tract and any issues with it are believed to be caused/linked to fears.  And as someone who has panic attacks, now I always realize that when I'm having a panic attack I also have to go pee.

 

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Originally Posted by tillymonster View Post

Oh god... I just discovered vulva varicose veins and they are *common* in pregnancy from extra blood flow to the area. *gulp*

 

I've had vulva varicose veins pre-pregnancy, though fortunately I haven't had any with the pregnancy.  I kinda hate the TMI label, cause I think it often gets overused for things that are totally natural and we shouldn't feel uncomfortable talking about, but I will go ahead and put it out since I know some might think what I'm about to say is TMI. My vulva varicose veins in the past were caused by stimulation/rubbing that was too vigorous.  I used to occasionally get these weird lumps near my clitoris, usually after sexual activity, that would just go away after a couple days on their own. But finally one of my gynecologist appointments lined up with when I had one and the doctor told me it was a varicose vein. There are so many veins down there that sometimes a little too much action just got them out of whack and they would turn varicose.  Mine were never that painful, just a little sore and usually the biggest inconvenience was just that sexual activity would be uncomfortable while I had them.  But other than that and being able to feel them, I probably wouldn't have even known I had them. For me they always went away with a couple days of taking a rest from sexual activity.


Edited by lilmamita - 5/30/13 at 9:55am
post #1105 of 1719
Hey my barfing and pee squirting is totally natural too! But less palatable conversation topic for example if one were eating so i added the (mostly joking) tmi label. Descriptions of other people's genital changes could also be something others wouldn't want to be thinking about while snacking perhaps so I guess that's why I thought they were kinda similar. smile.gif
post #1106 of 1719

Serafina33, sorry, I didn't mean to direct that at you.  It probably seemed that way since you had just written it, but it was more in reference to other posts I've seen (not really even in our DDC) that seem to put the TMI label on topics that I think, if anything, we should be fostering more spaces for open discussion of.  I wish there was a better term than TMI - perhaps "Potential Gross Out Factor" - "Frank Anatomy Discussion" - "Info about my Personal Sex Life" - "About to Openly Discuss Bowel Movements", etc....but, alas, something tells me my frustration with this issue isn't going to change the TMI trend.

post #1107 of 1719
Cracking up over here by that last quote!!!!!! smile.gif
post #1108 of 1719
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Originally Posted by lilmamita View Post

Just wanted to second that Kegels are very real.  About 5 years ago I was having issues with being able to hold it when I had to pee.  Not pregnancy related at all, but I would get the urge to pee and if I didn't find somewhere fast I'd have an accident.  The doctor recommended Kegels and they totally helped.  It's interesting you mention the feeling of dread cause I've never heard anyone else talk about that before, but I definitely experience it.  When I'm contracting the muscles as part of the Kegels, I do get a sense of dread that goes away upon release.  It's interesting, because I've done some work with a bioenergetic therapist, and in bioenergetics your urinary tract and any issues with it are believed to be caused/linked to fears.  And as someone who has panic attacks, now I always realize that when I'm having a panic attack I also have to go pee.

 

I've had vulva varicose veins pre-pregnancy, though fortunately I haven't had any with the pregnancy.  I kinda hate the TMI label, cause I think it often gets overused for things that are totally natural and we shouldn't feel uncomfortable talking about, but I will go ahead and put it out since I know some might think what I'm about to say is TMI. My vulva varicose veins in the past were caused by stimulation/rubbing that was too vigorous.  I used to occasionally get these weird lumps near my clitoris, usually after sexual activity, that would just go away after a couple days on their own. But finally one of my gynecologist appointments lined up with when I had one and the doctor told me it was a varicose vein. There are so many veins down there that sometimes a little too much action just got them out of whack and they would turn varicose.  Mine were never that painful, just a little sore and usually the biggest inconvenience was just that sexual activity would be uncomfortable while I had them.  But other than that and being able to feel them, I probably wouldn't have even known I had them. For me they always went away with a couple days of taking a rest from sexual activity.

 

Just wanted to say that I'm glad I'm not the only one who has experienced it! I went googling to see if I could find a link that mentioned it when I posted that originally, and all I could find were stupid articles about dreading DOING kegels! I can't for the life of me remember where I read or heard that, but it really struck me like it did you. It's definitely the feeling I get when I hold those muscles in. So weird. But interesting connection between bladder and fear. That makes more sense!

 

I also wanted to say that, as much as your body does somewhat go back to normal fairly quickly after birth, in that the uterus shrinks back in a few days (amazing! oh, but painful too!), I personally found it took me about nine months post-birth to REALLY feel normal again. Not to scare anyone or anything, but just to give another perspective so that first-timers don't get their hopes and expectations up too high, or become disappointed or self-deprecating if they just don't feel right for a while after birth. From talking to other moms, it seems to be fairly common. It makes sense: your hormones are all whacky, especially if you breastfeed, and you're usually sleep-deprived at least for a while. On top of that, my body just felt... stretched for a long time. My belly was like a deflated balloon. I just felt not myself. Not depressed, thankfully, so I don't think it's necessarily connected to PPD or anything like that. Just a feeling of not being normal. Poroably has a lot to do with meeting the constant needs of a new little person, too!

post #1109 of 1719

That's an excellent point, Bromache.  Perhaps I was so lucky the first times around because I was in my early twenties--one perk from birthing young, and we'll see how it compares being over 30 this time!  Time will tell!  Genetics also has a big part as well, I think.  

post #1110 of 1719

I bet that's a big part of it, Serafina! I was 29 with my first, and now 35 going through the third. No spring chicken here!

post #1111 of 1719

I think Bromache is right to bring up that not everyone has the same experience.  It took me a while to feel "normal" again, and really, it's always been a new normal.  Things move and shift, and are never the exact same again.  I look at it as all part of the change I went through to become a mother; it's imprinted in my body, my spirit and my heart. Also worth noting, although it might be a bit early for postpartum concerns to be discussed, it's perfectly normal (especially while breastfeeding) to lose your sexual mojo for a while.  While we resumed after about 6-7 weeks, it was a long while before my sexual response/desire felt normal.  

As Serafina noted, I think age has something to do with it, but since I have only been pregnant and birthing in my 30s, I can't really weigh in with IRL experience! 

post #1112 of 1719

It will certainly be so interesting to compare experiences from age 23 (first time) to now at 33!  I mean, I feel like my body went back to even teenage condition in terms of how i looked and felt--at least after I stopped breastfeeding my kids, ---and in the last two years my exercise routine even went up to a level of intensity that I never even reached in my twenties with strength resistance training as well as cardio, and before getting pregnant my gynecologist said that everything looked really perfect, even the pelvis floor muscles, so I feel like I want to hold on to some hope that I might enjoy similar 'bounce back' as I remember the first two times, but.....age is a bitch!  :)  Or, it can be. ROTFLMAO.gif  September will reveal all!  lurk.gif

post #1113 of 1719

amen to the being older with this pregnancy... my last one i was 28 and i worked until the day before i had her... this time i struggle with my everyday  farm chores and i am not bearable without a nap every day! im also STARVING all the time.. its so bad i have to carry a drink and a snack everywhere!  my sweetie pants comes back from the mountains next week and he hasnt seen me showing pregnant or experienced any of the second trimester.. when he left i was just craving sour candy! lol lets hope hes up for the challenge!

post #1114 of 1719
I'm a lot older now, too. I was 19 with my first, 21 with my second, and 34 with DS. I'm 36 now, and so far this has been my easiest pregnancy. My last was very easy, too, making me wonder if a different partner plays as important a role as age (DDs were from XH). I did have more trouble taking the weight off after DS, though. I've always been fairly slim, but I was still 10-15lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy when I became pregnant this time. Woe is my ass. I really don't want to struggle with weight after this little guy comes, but we shall see!
post #1115 of 1719
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Originally Posted by Jennyanydots View Post
 My last was very easy, too, making me wonder if a different partner plays as important a role as age (DDs were from XH).  

I'm also wondering the same thing!  My cervix is behaving and it could be because this time I'm not chasing after a one year old and breastfeeding, as I was last time at this point in pregnancy when cervix started going paper thin and soft.... but it also could be because the stress of a bad marriage is not in the air, and I am surrounded by a loving partner.  I guess I'll never know, but we know severe stress and toxic energy does affect our bodies......

post #1116 of 1719
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Originally Posted by haurelia View Post

Almost 23 weeks and feeling great.  I often get a little numb patch in my R thigh, but doing some squats or inverting my top half (a la Spinning Babies) gets rid of it.  Having some BH every day, lots of baby wiggles/kicks and sleeping well.  I'm super hungry some days, and other days I could take it or leave it.  Had a lovely craniosacral session this week, and have been doing regular walking and yoga.  Getting chiropractic care is helpful to me too. 

Tillymonster, glad you are finding the coconut oil helpful for your lady bits. smile.gif  It's the best. 

I've had the numb patch on top of my right thigh too! It kinda freaked me out my it has only happened when I first wake up from sleeping on that side. It goes away when walking.

I've been away for almost 2 weeks visiting family out of state so I can't wait to go to my chiropractor. My Midwife offers craniosacral therapy too. I'm going to do that when I get back. I need something. I never experienced this pain and discomfort with my first.
post #1117 of 1719
Is anyone else getting stabbing pains in their vaginas? I remember getting them with my first, but these seem to be more often. I think it's a nerve pain. I'm sure it's harmless, but any shocking pain makes me think twice.
post #1118 of 1719
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Originally Posted by MamaMash View Post

Is anyone else getting stabbing pains in their vaginas? I remember getting them with my first, but these seem to be more often. I think it's a nerve pain. I'm sure it's harmless, but any shocking pain makes me think twice.


I haven't been lately, but earlier in the pregnancy - around weeks 12-18 - I would get this occasionally.  It would always freak me out in the moment, but would then go away so I would never remember to ask a doctor or midwife about it.  If you find out what it's about, please share with the rest of us!!

post #1119 of 1719
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Originally Posted by MamaMash View Post
Is anyone else getting stabbing pains in their vaginas? I remember getting them with my first, but these seem to be more often. I think it's a nerve pain. I'm sure it's harmless, but any shocking pain makes me think twice.

MamaMash - yes, I get them from time to time, not every day but have experienced them a few times over the last couple of weeks. It's a little shocking when it happens, but doesn't last long and is not happening frequently. Like most things regarding pain/discomfort, I've read (and been told by my midwives) that as long as it isn't REALLY painful and doesn't last a long time, it's ok/normal... It seems that whenever I experience something I think is odd, I either read about it or ask my midwife and am reassured that "it's normal". 

 

Serafina - I just wanted to say thanks again for your thoughtful and detailed posts. They were so kind and made me feel so much better (emotionally). Physically, I'm still the same, but am definitely less stressed/worried and more accepting of the occasional pain/discomfort.

 

I did check out Ina May's book in my first trimester and knew it was something I wanted to read but didn't feel quite ready for it then (only read parts of it). It's been in my library queue for a couple of weeks now, just waiting for availability. Looking forward to diving into it! Also, on hold is another book I started & didn't finish but really enjoyed was The Natural Pregnancy Book by Aviva Jill Romm. And, I have Birthing from Within by Pam England on hold as well. Currently reading Mindful Birthing by Nancy Bardacke. DH just started reading the Birth Partner by Penny Simkin and it sounds pretty awesome as well!    

post #1120 of 1719

For the past 1.5 weeks (since the start of week 25) I've been having pelvic girdle pain.  I'm not sure if it's symphysis pubis dysfunction or what.  I'm going to talk to the midwife about it next week when I see her.  Sometimes it really hurts just to walk around the house (usually at night after I walked a lot that day), or when I life one of my legs a bit to cross them.  I'm confused about yoga - I thought prenatal yoga was good and stretching does feels really good, but I read that with this condition you shouldn't do any exercise where you have to separate your legs.  So no cobblers/butterfly post or pigeon pose, both of which feel great and are in my prenatal yoga video; but maybe they are actually making this worse? 

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