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post #1621 of 1719

Right now I am feeling pregnant, very very pregnant. I can't remember what it's like to be able to bend at the waist. Or rolling over without using the word "ooof!".

 

Speaking of rolling over, I can't lie on my left side which is my favourite side. Something about how the weight (baby) is distributed or something means that if I lie on my left side, I get horrible cramping in the bottom right side of my uterus.

 

I want to eat nothing but salmon sashimi and purple freezies.

post #1622 of 1719
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Originally Posted by katalopolis View Post

 

I want to eat nothing but salmon sashimi and purple freezies.

No idea what freezies are, but I'm with you on the salmon sashimi!

post #1623 of 1719
I would love a purple freezie right about now. But I just brought my older kids back from their dentist appt;'apparently neither if them understands that they need to stop EFFING UP THEIR TEETH WITH SUGARY CRAP AND SODA, and that they are too young for dentures. I don't know what the natural consequences of that is, except dental work with no anesthetic.
post #1624 of 1719
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Originally Posted by chispita View Post
 

No idea what freezies are, but I'm with you on the salmon sashimi!

 

Freezies = Ice pops in plastic wrappers. Might be a Canadian/regional name?

 

I seem to be having good days alternating with bad. Luckily, yesterday was a good one, as I had a lot to do to get my house in order for my midwife's home visit today. Today, I feel craptacular. Quite a bit of pain over the whole bump. But it's probably a result of overdoing it yesterday.

Overall, I just feel huge and clumsy and uncomfortable. Guess that's par for the course at this point! My sympathies to those of you having more serious issues. 

Nettlesoup, you've made me want to re-read Ina May's book! I'll have to check it out of the midwifery clinic library next week, if it's available.

post #1625 of 1719

I'm starting to feel the "ooof" too.  Big belly, clumsy, etc.  It's hot here again, so we've been beaching a lot, so I'm also feeling a bit sunburned and dried out.  I'd kill for a big soaker tub in our house at this point...all I want to do is be under water. Hauling my kid and all the assorted crap to the beach is very tiring when it's several days a week.  He loves it though, and it eats up most of the day so we're not home mooning around and messing up the house.  I'm starting to annoy myself with how lazy I'm allowing myself to be...asking others to get stuff or do things for me. Thankfully I have great lady friends that will tell me to stuff it if I'm being ridiculous (and a very willing 4 year old to run up and down stairs to fetch forgotten items). DH is just being his normal steady-Eddie self, and picking up some of my slack at home when things get out of hand tidy-ness wise (and putting up with me asking him to do umpteen million piddly tasks a day...). 

 

Baby has been grinding around in my pelvis today and causing lots of bladder irritation...it's rather annoying, I must say. Still hoping to be pregnant another few weeks, though, so I'm trying to stay positive. I'm with Kakuna  and dakipode in that I really have felt pretty darn good/normal until the last week so I can't complain too much.

 

All I want to eat is hard boiled eggs, lemon baked goods, lemonade, dilly beans and roast chicken sandwiches with lots of lettuce, mayo and salt. And I'm craving Coke like a mad woman, though managing to abstain and stick with fizzy water (mostly). 

 

post #1626 of 1719

anyone else get anxious now in this last month? 

 

i'm really scared of labor. everytime something hurts, i panic that it might be time now.

weird dreams, waking up with a racing heart beat, that kind of stuff. anyone?

post #1627 of 1719
Vc me too. I'm worried I won't know when its time. I've had two dreams where we leave the baby at home alone instead of taking it to the doctor since in the dreams the baby is sick.
I don't really know what labor will be like so that uncertainty makes me anxious too.
post #1628 of 1719

I am a bundle of energy.  Now that I'm full term (well, in two more days) and baby's head has engaged and I'm 2cm dilated, I feel elated that this might not last much longer, and I am not holding back or putting my feet up overly much at all, I'm just a dynamo, wanting to be active all the time.  
However, hip pain is a major drag, I can't get comfortable even in bed, and getting up after being down awhile means about 5 minutes of limping or holding on for support before my hips figure out how to support me.  They are so loose.

post #1629 of 1719
Oh I've had the weird dreams for a couple of weeks now, lots of birth and labor ones and really crazy ones lol the closer I get the more scared, I know I'm not going through the labor thing, but the operation still scares me. And every twinge and stomach cramp has me worrying I need to rush to hospital. Must b a FTM thing for us lol
post #1630 of 1719

The ooof comment made me laugh. I do it with everything; rolling over, getting up, picking stuff up off the floor.

I have to say that labour doesn't worry me at all, thanks to Ina May and also past experience. Surprisingly I never found it all that bad first time around, and never needed anything more than gas and air. For those of you who are scared, think of the contractions as rushes; it's a more positive word and describes it well. Remember that it's productive pain, and it's also your body's way of telling you to change position to make it easier for baby to move down. Apparently visualising you cervix as a big cave also helps and imagine it opening wider with each rush. I also read that it hurts a lot more when you expect it to hurt. Just relax and remember that you get breaks between each contraction. I hope my ramble helps in some way!

post #1631 of 1719

I'm doing ok.  My feet and knees definitely hurt and I feel big and clumsy, but I'm still making it out for our daily walks.  Today I did 10 squats after the walk and I think I'm going to try to increase by small increments every day.  I need a nap every day again.  I've been taking 1-2 hour naps in the afternoon.  I'm also getting TONS of toning contractions.  I feel like they are almost constant throughout the day now - my belly is hard and lopsided more often than not.  I've mentioned it to my MW and she says "That's good."  I've been having some anxiety about giving birth, but overall I feel pretty confident about it.  Ina May's books have helped a lot, and also watching really positive birth videos.  Last night I was having frequent pains in my belly and was semi-convinced this could be the start of labor, but I decided not to tell anyone and to just try to get some sleep.  In the morning I was still having them, but then after going to the bathroom they went away...so I think I just needed to poo.  Haha.

post #1632 of 1719

relieved to read i'm not the only one. i've been reading all the right stuff, taking all the right classes, trying to keep the right attitude.. i just can't seem to help it much that i still go into panic mode first thing i feel a contraction of whichever kind. the programming is so strong. my whole life (yes, starting as a kid) i've been thinking this is the worst thing a woman can go through in terms of pain.. and now i'm about to go through it. 

 

i have another, unrelated question: i'm currently getting over a cold and am drinking elderflower tea. does anyone know whether it is NOT safe to drink elderflower during pregnancy? online i'm reading mostly "consult your health care provider" but well, it's past 5pm on a friday.. 

post #1633 of 1719
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Originally Posted by vc2013 View Post

relieved to read i'm not the only one. i've been reading all the right stuff, taking all the right classes, trying to keep the right attitude.. i just can't seem to help it much that i still go into panic mode first thing i feel a contraction of whichever kind. the programming is so strong. my whole life (yes, starting as a kid) i've been thinking this is the worst thing a woman can go through in terms of pain.. and now i'm about to go through it. 

i have another, unrelated question: i'm currently getting over a cold and am drinking elderflower tea. does anyone know whether it is NOT safe to drink elderflower during pregnancy? online i'm reading mostly "consult your health care provider" but well, it's past 5pm on a friday.. 

Having just been through labor I think I'll chime in here. Depending on how your doing things (epidural, doula, csection) will help with attitude. I knew I'd do things naturally without drugs but then had to be induced with pitocin and was FREAKING out that it would be more intense and I couldn't handle it. My doula explained that yes it's very intense but once your body ramps up its not up to the pitocin anymore!

I used guttural moans in the end and WOW did that help. Releasing tension in the jaw and standing while swaying back and forth bent over was really good. I ended up on my side at the end and the contractions were so painful but my doula and DH got me through! My pushing stage was very intense, I didn't even really have to push at all-- she came flying out! It was so amazing and painful but not scary. Once labor started, I trusted my body and knew what to do. It was such an amazing experience and really much more then I expected!

Walking around an hour after labor was really nice. Couldn't do that at all with the epidural!

You can do it mama!
post #1634 of 1719
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Originally Posted by vc2013 View Post
 

relieved to read i'm not the only one. i've been reading all the right stuff, taking all the right classes, trying to keep the right attitude.. i just can't seem to help it much that i still go into panic mode first thing i feel a contraction of whichever kind. the programming is so strong. my whole life (yes, starting as a kid) i've been thinking this is the worst thing a woman can go through in terms of pain.. and now i'm about to go through it. 

 

i have another, unrelated question: i'm currently getting over a cold and am drinking elderflower tea. does anyone know whether it is NOT safe to drink elderflower during pregnancy? online i'm reading mostly "consult your health care provider" but well, it's past 5pm on a friday.. 

 

I'm going to chime in, too!

For what it's worth, as I know we all have very unique and personal experiences when it comes to pain, childbirth was NOT the most painful thing I've been through. That was, hands down, passing a kidney stone. Egads! That was brutal! I think what made it so bad was that a) I had no idea what was happening to me, so it was really scary, and b) it was a constant, blinding pain that never let up. In comparison, labor is expected (unless you're on that TLC show! :P) and it is not constant, at least not till the very end. You get breaks between contractions to rest up and relax a bit before the next one comes, and they don't last endlessly. You also know it will all be over eventually and you get this lovely gift of a baby when you're done. In those ways, it's very different from any other type of pain, and so I think it's more tolerable. Just my two cents. :) 

post #1635 of 1719
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Originally Posted by Bromache View Post
 

In comparison, labor is expected (unless you're on that TLC show! :P) and it is not constant, at least not till the very end. You get breaks between contractions to rest up and relax a bit before the next one comes, and they don't last endlessly. You also know it will all be over eventually and you get this lovely gift of a baby when you're done. In those ways, it's very different from any other type of pain, and so I think it's more tolerable. Just my two cents. :) 

 

Even though this is my third time in the labor rodeo, it was really helpful to read this.  My last labor was so intense - 4 hours from start to finish, much like most of our earlybirds here - that I've been afraid of doing labor that intense again.  But what you said it absolutely true - there were breaks of laughing and talking and while I had to intensely focus during the contractions themselves, they were bearable.  Definitely uncomfortable, but bearable.

post #1636 of 1719
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Originally Posted by lilmamita View Post
 

 I've been having some anxiety about giving birth, but overall I feel pretty confident about it.  Ina May's books have helped a lot, and also watching really positive birth videos.  Last night I was having frequent pains in my belly and was semi-convinced this could be the start of labor, but I decided not to tell anyone and to just try to get some sleep.  In the morning I was still having them, but then after going to the bathroom they went away...so I think I just needed to poo.  Haha.

 

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Originally Posted by vc2013 View Post
 

relieved to read i'm not the only one. i've been reading all the right stuff, taking all the right classes, trying to keep the right attitude.. i just can't seem to help it much that i still go into panic mode first thing i feel a contraction of whichever kind. the programming is so strong. my whole life (yes, starting as a kid) i've been thinking this is the worst thing a woman can go through in terms of pain.. and now i'm about to go through it. 

 

I laughed at your needing to poo comment, lilmamita! For me there's always been a connection between menstrual cramps and GI discomfort so it could be that your body is gearing up. I enjoyed reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth too and one of the things I found so helpful is that she mentions we are programmed to experience pain as the body warning us that there is something wrong but the pain in childbirth is not linked to injury. I think I'll use that, keep reminding myself that it is part of the process but there is nothing wrong. Another thing I want to keep in mind during labor is that pain does not have to equal suffering. One of the things we worked on in the Blissborn class was judgement, i.e. labeling something as good or bad, rather than trying to just acknowledge it. In the end who knows how I'll do in labor but those are the things I keep telling myself right now.

 

AFM: the last couple of nights I've had some menstrual cramp type pain, enough to wake me up. But I'm officially on maternity leave now so even if I can't sleep at night I can take naps during the day, yay!

post #1637 of 1719
Oh I will b so glad when this morning sickness will b over. Puked last night before bed and up early this morning for more puking. It's no wonder I'm not putting any weight on, I just feel ill not pregnant 😔 I've had enough
post #1638 of 1719
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Originally Posted by lilmamita View Post
 In the morning I was still having them, but then after going to the bathroom they went away...so I think I just needed to poo.  Haha.
 

I totally get this.  For the last few days I've been having stomach issues and I'm not sure if it's period-type cramping, upset stomach/constipation issues, gas-type pains or, most likely, a combination of all of the above.  Ugh.

post #1639 of 1719
DH just lost his job. Ugh ladies, how unfair is that? It's not my fault I delivered early and he wasn't able to tell his employer. I'm still processing this but hate to say I'm a bit relieved. I really worried about him getting time off and now he will get it.

I think we should see a lawyer.

I'm also happy to report that Lillian surpassed her birth weight by 2oz! Yay!
post #1640 of 1719
Tilly that seems totally wrong. Does he work at a job that qualifies him for family leave? A lawyer sounds like a good idea. So sorry you have to deal with this now.

Last year I was let go from a job in a totally bad way. They fired me because i wanted to be paid overtime and above minimum wage... Filling out the paperwork for unlawful termination was pretty easy. I did it online. At the last minute i decided not to go to the mediation as they were former friends and i was too angry to see them. It wasn't worth my sanity.
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