Feeling out of touch with society
Well, I read the news online on my phone while I'm lying down with my kids when they go to bed at night. Plus I read when I get in bed before I go to sleep. I've perfected the art of picking up a book and putting it down when I'm needed and then picking it up again. I might only get to read a page or two before I'm needed but those pages add up pretty quickly.
Really though, you're a SAHM to a baby, I think it's pretty much OK to be fried at the moment. It won't be like this forever and I'm sure your husband can deal with it for a while.
I've been there, and soon I will be there again! I know what you mean about JUST talking about baby stuff, even when you're socializing with other parents. It can get tiring. Do you and your mom friends get together in the evening without kids? In my experience, it's different when your socialize during the day around your kids, and when you go out at night for a couple of glasses of wine. The latter makes me feel sane.
Also love the recommendation of NPR!
I've been cutting back on reasons to be out of the house on purpose. I do my chores in the morning then I sit down near where they are playing and I read. I am supervising them but I'm not entertaining them. Their independent play has improved massively and I spend a lot of time on research. I read a lot of non-fiction. Honestly, I am mostly trying to deal with having PTSD. There is a lot of research involved in completely retraining your brain.
Not everyone is crazy like me, but man this time feels like such a gift. I get to grow and learn and develop. I have to be an autodidact. I have to teach myself.
What are you interested in? Gardening? Home remodeling? Don't aimlessly watch tv shows on these subjects--go to the library and study it like a subject. Find out what you need to know. Then bring your kids outside and practice.
It doesn't matter if you are perfectly up to date on politics. Talk about how you spend your time. If you think your kids are boring, do something more interesting. Maybe research accounting. I've had a few reasons to care about small business accounting. It's something to talk about.
I honestly feel kind of hostile about having to sit around and listen to endless rounds of discussions about the bathroom habits of everyone's children. I don't care. So I change the subject. "Hey, do you do any gardening? Do you know anything about plants? I'm trying to learn."
I have a really easy time talking to people. I deliberately pursue a few safe channels of conversation. But that started after my kids were both over six months old. When I had a baby I had nothing to talk about. I was a sludge.
I think that modeling reading time is extremely important. If your children see you learning and reading as just part of every day... that's a powerful message. How will that effect them forever? My four year is just starting to ask questions about my books. She is just starting to wonder what I am learning. It's really neat. And it means I am mixing it up and not just reading the crazy head books because that is not something I want to model either. My paranoia is a serious pain in the neck. Heh.
My fingers are crossed. And I'm learning a lot of interesting things. :)
NPR on in the car (or maybe at home too sometimes) to catch up one some of the biggest news stories. They are pretty good about being child-friendly too, not that it probably matters yet, but will soon.
Reading while supervising independent play is great, I do this with my DD and yes I get interrupted often, but I also get a lot more reading done too. Books, magazines, blogs, etc. whatever is easiest for you to put down and pick up. Ipad or phone or similar device can help with this if you want to access online stuff.
Try a different play group or suggest an article or something to read for next time so you all have something to discuss besides kids.
Get your DH to watch your baby once a week or something for an hour or two while you go out with a friend or by yourself and catch up on something non-baby a bit. It will be good for DH and your baby to bond anyway IMO
I think it is ok to be in a cocoon for the first couple months, but after that I have a need to get back into the world and it sounds like you are feeling the same thing.
You're almost out of the worst stretch (IMO 12-18 months is sooo hard), so hang in there. (I'm on hiatus from being a reading teacher and a bookworm, so I found the year without being able to read INCREDIBLY PAINFUL!!!!!)
I would also recommend audio books, NPR, etc. I listen to audiobooks around the house, or when driving, and NPR really does help you keep up with the outside world. Magazines were also kind of a lifesaver because the articles are short.
gosh my son is 23 months and im still really busy and can hardly check y email..........i have been listening to kfk or npr through itunes and there is a cool mystery radio station that play old movies when they used to be listend to instead of watched..it's been fun.....just thought i'd share