A friend of mine asked on Facebook that anyone who chooses not to vaccinate let her know so she can protect her baby, who is only a few months old and is not fully vaccinated yet. I know she is especially concerned about pertussis. I have three children who have never received any vaccinations and have never had any illness more serious than a cold/flu.
Of course, I care about her baby and I want it to be safe. But a part of me feels that it is not fair for my friend to ask this of her FB friends. I guess it feels invasive. I never volunteer information about my choice to not vaccinate; I only talk about it if someone asks outright, and even then, I just say, "I researched it a lot and I feel that it's the best choice for our family." I don't know what her idea of keeping her baby safe is, either. Does this mean that she won't want to be around us at all?
So my question is, if you choose not to vaccinate, and your friend asked on FB that all her non-vax friends "warn" her, would you feel ethically obligated to respond?
In this particular situation, my friend asked me a long time ago if we vaccinate, I said no, and we left it at that. I don't know if I should "refresh her memory" that we do not vaccinate, or if I should just assume that she remembers.