~*Weekly Chat Thread for Jan 4th - Jan. 10th*~ - Page 4 « Back to Group Discussions

[FarmerCathy]

Hey ladies,

I've been lurking more than posting lately.  Just busy.  My DS was here for the holidays, but I have a lot of stuff going on this week.  I'm feeling way better, more like I'm not pregnant unless I get up too fast and the getting winded easily.  I only get nauseated occasionally.  Yay!!

I'm so jealous of those getting their houses cleaned.  That is such a blessing.  I wish we could afford it right now. We need it.  I'm trying to bribe myself to do it so that I can give myself treat of sewing after its clean and can keep up on it a little.  Heh, we'll see.

Oh, banana, I don't know how you do it.  Sending you some helpful kids vibes swirled with kids being really good for you for the next 4 months. 

[Stormikris]

Originally Posted by Banana731 

I'm sorry for your loss, aphel

Melly- that sucks!

Crunchy- that sucks!

Afm: my dh took me out for Thai and a movie last night AND let me sleep in today I'm still in bed. Tomorrow is my bday but dh is leaving for a 4 mo trip to Switzerland. So yeah for my treats, but how am I going to deal with all these kids???

Aphel I too am thinking of you and wish you all the best.
Melly I hope you are feeling better now.
Banana I am sure you will do amazing. Though it is never nice to be without DH for that long especially when pregnant with other littles at home.
Afm I have diagnosed myself lol with pelvic girdle pain. I have been unable to walk for days now. My sleep is terrible because any movement causes excruciating pain. I haven't been drinking as much water or really eating as much as I should because I can not bear the thought of having to get up to go to the bathroom. But this is a vicious circle because not eating leads to throwing up. So I am in the bathroom doing that several times a day instead. Finally made it to the Chiro today hopefully that will help because if this goes throughout the pregnancy than I fear my family unit will implode.
My sister who was due on the 1st is still pregnant with no signs baby is ready to come. Poor girl. I always tell myself baby's due date is two weeks later than it is so I am not disappointed. Hopefully that works if I go overdue with this one.

[carmen358]

crunchymama, I would have been traumatized for sure lol Glad to hear she isn't though. Kids are so resilient in many ways.

banana, 4 months is a crazy long time!! Hoping it goes by peacefully!!

Cathy, good to hear you are feeling better! Good luck with the cleaning ;) I need to bride myself lately to do it as well....

storm, ouch, that sounds awful. Hopefully your chiro can help. Is this something you've had before or it specifically pregnancy related?

Afm: 10 weeks! I'm officially looking pregnant and am in maternity pants. I give up. If people ask I'll say "we've been trying" or something vague. We are going to wait until 13 weeks so I still have 3 weeks to go! I must get some more maternity tops though because my regular button ups for work are just too tight now. I have round ligament pain every few days which is still unnerving to me. It goes away within a day and is only when I move a certain way but it freaks me out.

Is it true that you feel movement earlier with subsequent pregnancies?

[Tarynosaurus]

So has everyone here seen their doc/midwife yet regarding this pregnancy?

[carmen358]

I've worked with an RE up until 9 weeks. But I have my first midwife appointment next week when I'll be 11 weeks.

[askew]

Originally Posted by Tarynosaurus 

So has everyone here seen their doc/midwife yet regarding this pregnancy?

I go tomorrow. 

[Tarynosaurus]

Originally Posted by carmen358 

I've worked with an RE up until 9 weeks. But I have my first midwife appointment next week when I'll be 11 weeks.

What's an RE?

[Tarynosaurus]

How far along are you askew? And I tried to quote you Carmen, but it said since I'm new it needs to be approved. I asked what an RE was?

[cardigan]

Originally Posted by askew 

I go tomorrow. 

I went today for my first Dr appointment. It did not go well, but not because anybody is unhealthy. Here is the full story:

We moved from London to the midwest about a year and a half ago. I worked in a different state from DH for a year, but then lost my job in Sept, so now we live together again. (We just lived and worked in different states, but were still very much together). We started trying just before I lost my job, and now here I am all preggers. He has been going to this family clinic since moving here. I just started in October. I hated the first family Dr I saw; he was a twerp. So, when I got a BFP, I got an appointment with a female resident a few days later in mid Dec. I'm hypothyroid so I've always been told that pregnancy will require extra monitoring. My pregnancy is being handled by their OB/GYN team, and bc of my thyroid, I'm labelled high risk. 

I saw the nurse a week ago, and she was great. I was under the impression that I'd be seeing Head of OB/GYN. Instead some young, male resident walked in. He was was nice, but I do not like or trust him.  He made it sound like he'd be managing my pregnancy and birth. I was dumbstruck.  I brought up that I'd always wanted a midwife assisted birth in a hospital. Finally, the Head of OB/GYN came in to consult with me. She was AMAZING. Calm, cool, collected, had her own kids 'naturally' and was really lovely. Exactly, as I wanted my doctor to be.  But my next appointment was made with the male resident. My husband feels the same way about these characters as I do, so it isn't just me being a prima donna.

What can I do? I'd like a female doctor. In theory, I'm fine with a resident, but certainly not that one.

[askew]

Originally Posted by Tarynosaurus 

How far along are you askew? And I tried to quote you Carmen, but it said since I'm new it needs to be approved. I asked what an RE was?

I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow. 

[Tarynosaurus]

Is there any way to call and just say you'd rather have the female? Or have you tried that. Sorry you're uncomfortable with your potential OB. It's not something to fool with. You want to be happy and content with you caregiver! I dont blame you at all.
 

[Tarynosaurus]

Makes me feel better askew. I'm 9 weeks tomorrow, and actually havent even found a midwife yet. I've been contacting a birth center here, and they have yet to get back with me (been over a week!). I had two previous homebirths, and dont even want to birth at a BC, but i now have insurance, and DH and I would really like to take advantage (we paid out of pocket for the first two). I'd be willing to make peace with the BC if it saves us a pretty penny. But there's only ONE in all of Houston that takes our insurance. So it's not like I have options. So frustrating. rant over

[carmen358]

Originally Posted by Tarynosaurus 

How far along are you askew? And I tried to quote you Carmen, but it said since I'm new it needs to be approved. I asked what an RE was?

Sorry, reproductive endocrinologist. After 5 miscarriages I went to a fertility center for testing. Everything came back fine so they really only ran blood tests and an hsg - I had no treatment. But they did monitor this pregnancy in the beginning.

[somegirl99]

I saw one of my CNMs last week at 8.5 weeks. 

cardigan, I hope you can work it out to see the nice female OB/GYN.  Although, when it comes to the birth, it's probably just who is on call (last time I liked all OBs at the practice except for one, and guess who I had for the birth).

Taryn, good luck with the BC!

[Stormikris]

Thank you Carmen. It is not something I have had before. I think the relaxin made my pelvis unstable. I do feel that the Chiro has already started to help, so yeah for that.
As for seeing a midwife, I won't until I am 12 weeks. My RE has been following me and will release me at 11w6d so I have an appt for next Friday with the midwife.

[somegirl99]

Missed your previous update Storm.  That sounds horrible!  I am glad the Chiro is helping.
 

[GISDiva]

Originally Posted by Tarynosaurus 

So has everyone here seen their doc/midwife yet regarding this pregnancy?

Next week, I'll be about 9.5 weeks.  This appointment will be pretty laid back though.  More of a catch up on each other's lives appointment, it's the same HB midwife that I was with for DS.  I can't wait!  And I suppose I should start to think about seeing our family doc too, she's our shadow care doctor - she had a homebirth herself, so she's totally on board, which is super nice!  

[Jillgayle]

I've just had 1 appt with the nurse at my OB.  She just reviewed vitamins, nutrition, etc. No u/s and no doppler (Booo!)  I don't have an appt with the midwife at the practice until next Thursday (i'll be just shy of 10 weeks).  I'm a little annoyed though with the practice too.  Now that I'm 35 I have to get my U/S done at a Maternal Fetal Specialist about 3 towns away.  I requested to do the materniT21 test too, which I thought could be done at 10 weeks, but they are saying they will do it with the U/S at 12 weeks, that wont be until 2/1.  Midwifes at the practice aren't allowed to deliver babies, and half of the Drs. I did like have left. 

I really want to switch to a local midwife practice attached to a Birth Center. I have been holding off until i at least have more confirmation that all is well. maybe I should just call them sooner rather than later and do a meet and greet.

I don't know what is worse, the 2ww to get a BFP or the wait to know everything's ok?

[CrunchyMama19]

Tarynosaurus - many insurances will actually reimburse you for at least part of a homebirth. I would look in the Homebirth forum and ask around. For us we had insurance and did a hospital birth with #2. It was 80/20 (insurance pays 80, we pay 20). We STILL paid a little over 3K out of pocket, the total bill was over 10K. And I had a natural birth with no drugs, complications or anything like that. It was 10K for me basically taking up space for 2 days. So, even if our insurance doesn't reimburse us for our homebirth, we will still end up paying the same either way, possibly less if they at least pay us a portion of it back.

I had a couple days of feeling somewhat human but yesterday I felt awful! I think it was a lot of business and DD1s trip to the ER that finally caught up with me. I am 8 weeks today so hopefully it won't be too much longer of this m/s - fatigue crap.

[emily11megan]

Wow, this thread has been busy!  I've been dealing with snotty, feverish kids and a snotty, feverish husband (which is worse!!??)

 Also, my own m/s, which has thankfully not become actual vomit, and I started Quantum Midwifery School this week, HOORAY!

ANyway, I don't think I can respond to each post that I skimmed over, especially directing it to the right person.  Sorry, ladies.

It sounds like many of us have had a hard time this last few days, I guess this is one of the hard parts of pregnancy.

Was it Heather who went to a birth?  I feel your pain.  I did some looooooong births pregnant while I was apprenticing at a homebirth practice, and it really took a toll on me during certain stages of pregnancy.  Those 24+ hr births are hard, all the meals you've got to piece together, the lost sleep, the squatting!  The beginning was hard, got easy around 15 weeks, then the end.  I had to quit at 34 weeks after doing two births back to back, and my boss had to make me a sandwich while I was staring at the oxygen tank trying to figure out how to get it apart (which I did 50+ times before this).  Anyway, to make my rambling short, hang in there!

I have seen my midwife, I had to find a new one (sniff, sniff) since I moved to a new state.  I wanted to make sure I hired someone early, so I could get someone I  meshed with.  We had a 2 hour consultation visit and I hired her.   I'm 8 weeks, and will see her again in 2 weeks to use the doppler and hear that little drumbeat. :)

I have a question for y'all:  Have you done a nuchal transparency scan combined with afp bloodwork?  I've never done it with my other pregnancies, but for some reason I feel compelled to look into it this time.  If you've done it (or decided against it) can you please share your experience with me, to help me decide what I'll do?

Thanks in advance.

Hope the week gets easier for us all.  I really do despise the winter.  Am I the only one looking forward to being hot and waddling to the pool this summer?