My dh and I did not find out the gender of our first, but we did our second. I would prefer we didn't this time around, but I'm betting my dh will want to.
Will you be finding out the gender?
We're definitely on Team Green. We didn't find out with Elli and I still have a bunch of neutral stuff. I also like being able to enjoy my child for a while without any of the comments/ideas/ stereotypes regarding gender being thrown at me. And we'll avoid the barrage of blue/pink stuff.
Mostly I feel kind of sentimental about the moment when DH gets to announce the sex at the birth. That's how I envisioned it with Elli and how we ended up doing it. I loved that moment. I can't wait to do it that way again.
I agree completely! It's bad enough that various family members insist on getting my daughter lots of pink stuff, and trying to make her as girly as possible which unfortunately has rubbed off on her. These days her favourite colour is pink and she likes to dance and will only play with girls. I can't help but think she's been brainwashed into this, partly by them and also through the stuff she sometimes watches.
Yes, we are finding out! I really want to and DH is 50-50, so that means 75% of the people who made the baby want to know. At least that is the logic I am using today. :-)
Intellectually, I feel like I shouldn't. It won't change anything we do or get, so why do it? But emotionally it will help me connect (I think), so I want to find out.
We are inclined not to share the name we decide on to keep some of the surprise going for our families though.