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Will you be finding out the gender?

post #1 of 41
Thread Starter 

My dh and I did not find out the gender of our first, but we did our second.  I would prefer we didn't this time around, but I'm betting my dh will want to.

 

Will you be finding out the gender?

post #2 of 41

If we have more than one in there, I think we will want to find out. If it's just one, I would prefer to wait. I go back and forth about it, but my DW is pretty set on a birthday surprise for a singleton. 

post #3 of 41

I found out with my first, but this time I want it to be a surprise.
 

post #4 of 41
We found out with our first, but I'm thinking I want a surprise as well. We don't really need to buy anything, as all of our stuff from our first is gender neutral (except clothes, of course).
post #5 of 41

I'd prefer a surprise, but I'm pretty sure my husband will want to know. So I guess we haven't decided on this yet eyesroll.gif But if we do find out, we're definitely not telling anyone - I refuse to encourage the pink or blue stuff.

post #6 of 41

If I could find out now I would. I don't think I'd be any more surprised in the delivery room than I would in the ultrasound room. So yes 100% sure I'm finding out asap =)

post #7 of 41
We will find out! It drove me crazy waiting with my daughter. I found out or my son and since I still have all of his things I would like to know what to do with it...keep it,swap it, sell it?
post #8 of 41
I'm honestly torn if I personally want to find out or not. I have 2 daughters with my ex. And this will be the first with my fiancée. I did not find out with my first but I did with my second. I think my fiancée and I are hoping for a boy since we have the 2 little girls but honestly we really just want a healthy baby. It's such a hard decision since it really does not change the outcome either way orngtongue.gif I did love the joy of finding out when they passed my first daughter to us and it was a surprise verses the random US tech telling us that we should save out first daughters clothes so the new baby could use them. That was way less exciting! Still have to think about this with my fiancé some more.
post #9 of 41

We're definitely on Team Green. We didn't find out with Elli and I still have a bunch of neutral stuff. I also like being able to enjoy my child for a while without any of the comments/ideas/ stereotypes regarding gender being thrown at me. And we'll avoid the barrage of blue/pink stuff. 

Mostly I feel kind of sentimental about the moment when DH gets to announce the sex at the birth. That's how I envisioned it with Elli and how we ended up doing it. I loved that moment. I can't wait to do it that way again.

post #10 of 41
We found out with our first. As of now, this one will be a surprise. Ask me again in a few months. =p
post #11 of 41

we wont be finding out the gender.  we didnt for our first two and it was a lot of fun.  it also kinda kept the blue and pink gifts in check :) we ended up with lots of green and brown and yellow.

post #12 of 41

I want to know officially, but I was right the first time, so I think I'll be right again.

post #13 of 41

I want to know the sex officially, but I was right the first time, so I think I'll be right again.

post #14 of 41
My husband and I are undecided. We might find out and keep it a surprise from everyone else. I hate the color pink and don't want to be swamped with pink things if my family/friends/coworkers/etc. find out its a girl. I would much prefer green, yellow, orange, purple, etc. Also part of me is against gendering an infant with its clothes. Not all boys grow up to like baseball, trucks, and dinosaurs, and that is perfectly ok.
post #15 of 41

OceanSolitude, I agree 100%.

post #16 of 41

I also agree and though we'll know the sex we will limit our gender specific clothing and our nursery will be gender neutral.

post #17 of 41

I also agree and though we'll know the sex we will limit our gender specific clothing and our nursery will be gender neutral.

post #18 of 41

I agree completely! It's bad enough that various family members insist on getting my daughter lots of pink stuff, and trying to make her as girly as possible which unfortunately has rubbed off on her. These days her favourite colour is pink and she likes to dance and will only play with girls. I can't help but think she's been brainwashed into this, partly by them and also through the stuff she sometimes watches.
 

post #19 of 41
Oh I forgot to say why we never found out with my first. We wanted to, but at the 20 week scan the tech kept going back and forth on whether or not it was a boy or girl! So I was like... Whatever with all this drama!
post #20 of 41

Yes, we are finding out!  I really want to and DH is 50-50, so that means 75% of the people who made the baby want to know.  At least that is the logic I am using today.  :-)  

 

Intellectually, I feel like I shouldn't.  It won't change anything we do or get, so why do it?  But emotionally it will help me connect (I think), so I want to find out.  

 

We are inclined not to share the name we decide on to keep some of the surprise going for our families though.

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