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[Pickle9909]

Originally Posted by Rhoze 

Yes, we are finding out!  I really want to and DH is 50-50, so that means 75% of the people who made the baby want to know.  At least that is the logic I am using today.  :-)  

Intellectually, I feel like I shouldn't.  It won't change anything we do or get, so why do it?  But emotionally it will help me connect (I think), so I want to find out.  

We are inclined not to share the name we decide on to keep some of the surprise going for our families though.

We keep names a secret! It drives my MIL nuts, but she has baby names picked out for us Plus, of they get to know the gender the name can be a surprise.

[happybunny]

Rhoze, we didn't share our name choices with our families and it drove them nuts. I'm really happy we didn't tell them, because I know they would not have approved (for the most part). Once the baby was here and named no one could say anything   Plus, everyone was so smitten with her, the last thing on their mind was our name choice. DH and I liked having our little secret...

[deborahbgkelly]

Happybunny- I love your DD's name.

[jen&james]

We didn't find out with our first but did with our second and third.  I really want to know this time too because I am hoping for a girl as our first 2 were boys and my last was a girl.  If it is a boy we will obviously be happy too but I would like to be prepared and also have the children know who to expect coming to our family.

[happybunny]

Originally Posted by deborahbgkelly 

Happybunny- I love your DD's name.

Thanks, Deborah! I do, too. 

[swissmiss2584]

We will find out! I had a dream last night that we had another girl! I would love another girl. DH would too. I do the needle test before the ultrasound. It's fun and is usually right!

[deborahbgkelly]

Needle test?

[deborahbgkelly]

Needle test?

[swissmiss2584]

The needle test is where you string a needle with thread (about 6-8 inches long) and let the needle hang above the belly (12+ weeks to be accurate). If it swings back and forth it is a boy. If it swings in a circle it's a girl. My aunt has done it over a dozen times and has never been wrong! I did it twice for my friend and myself and it was right!

[aidenn]

I like the romance of finding out gender on their birthday, but practical me wants to know if I should hang onto the girls' old clothes or not. So, we will find out!

[katalopolis]

We're not going to find out. I, personally, really really want to know and my fiance is fine either way but I don't really want to share that information with anyone but us. However, I know myself and I KNOW that I'd either end up telling someone or accidentally using a gendered pronoun somewhere so I figured it's best to just not know. Even though I HATE not knowing something that it is possible for me to know..... argh.... :)
 

[nettlesoup]

Katalopolis; that's exactly what I'm thinking now. I would kind of like to know so that I can sort things out better, but there's no way I'd want the in laws to know because they are all about the gender specific clothing. But if I knew I'd end up telling my daughter who'd tell them anyway.
 

[cmu204]

I can't wait to find out. Part of it is space reasons: we have a ton of little girl clothes from the 5 YO and I want to know if I should keep them.

We found out last time, too, but didn't tell. This time? Eh. Not sure if we will make the families wait.

[KellyandKatie]

This is baby number 5- we have not found out with any before we met them- we will wait with this one too :) 

[Mama on Flora]

We waited on both of ours, although I intuitively knew with each pregnancy what I was having. We also did lots of the old wives' stuff such as the needle on a thread (you can do it with a wedding ring too), but the most accurate was the Chinese Predictor (my midwife sees a 95% correct rate in her busy practice) and it was right for both of ours. However, the only Chinese Predictors that worked for us are the ones that calculate the mother's age into her Chinese age such as this one: http://www.chinesefortunecalendar.com/PredictSex.htm

[tigerlilymomma]

With my first I didn't want to find out, my second I had some pretty vivid dreams the night before I found out I was pregnant. I knew I was having a boy. So when it came time for ultrasound I went ahead and let them tell us - it was kind of neat since my DD, 8 at the time and DH were very excited to get the big reveal.

But I agree with happybunny and I want that element of surprise. My first I was so caught up in the moment, it was about five minutes before my midwife said, so are you going to tell us what you have?

[Bromache]

I'm undecided at the moment. We waited for both of our boys, and it was truly wonderful to find out at the births. Especially with my first: I pulled him up myself and held him for a few minutes, and by mutual understanding even though it had never been discussed, the midwife and my husband both kept quiet and let me discover for myself. I lifted him up to see when I was ready. I really loved getting to bond with him as my BABY before knowing he was a boy, if that makes sense. I will remember it forever.

However, this is our third and I gave away or sold all the baby stuff. We WILL need clothes, and I'd love help getting them. I think that's more likely to happen if others know the sex. Plus, it's our last and it might be fun to do it differently this time...

Ugh! I don't know.

[MamaMash]

I want to find out. For sure. I loved knowing wit my dd, plus I have a TON of baby girl clothes I'd like to know if I get to use again. Or if I need to start buying boy stuff. I am not a very patient person so knowing the sex seems to calm me a little.

[CookAMH]

I don't want to, but my DH does. I think I'll defer to him since for our first two, we left it a surprise.

[Cutie Patootie]

I don't like surprises.  I know it was meant to be that way, but I love knowing ahead of time.  We found it with our first, third and fourth.  Our second was a surprise because I only have one ultrasound and she wasn't giving up any secrets.  :)