I am a mother of a 3yo dd who has co-slept since birth until around her 3yo b-day. We moved to a home where she has her own room and she was excited to sleep there herself, so we set it up and she began to sleep in her own bed. I lay in her room until she falls asleep, which she does now without cuddling, then I leave her room once she is asleep. We set up a blow up matress in her room so I had a place to lay down when I was in there, but a few weeks ago our cat punctured the mattress and I no longer have a place to lay down in her room. ($ is too tight to purchase another bed option) The result is that she now just runs into our room when she first wakes up and crawls in with us, which is a fine arrangement for me because our bed is much more comfy than that darn blowup mattress was anyway, so I am actually sleeping better than I had been. DH, on the other hand, having had a bit of a break from co-sleeping, has decided that we (I) need to tough it out and get her to sleep in her bed a full night, which the responsibility is falling mostly on me since I have historically been the night time parent( DH is too grumpy in the middle of the night to deal with her in a way that feels good to all of us).
I just wish I could come up with something that feels good for everyone. The blow-up mattress was OKAY, but not ideal in that I missed sleeping with DH and couldn't seem to re-wake to go back to our room after laying down with her. The other thing that would happen is that once she would wake up and I would go into her room, she would wake up much more regularly until I invited her in with me. Anyway, this option is no longer available to us since we don't have athe blowup mattress anymore anyway.
I just can't seem to figure out why she wakes so much...maybe she will eventually grow out of this, but it seems like there might be things I could do to help her to sleep through the night or self-sooth back to sleep without needing me.
I keep lurking on this site for suggestions. Mostly, I endo up feeling grateful because it feels like many other mothers are having a harder time than I, so I usually don't want to waste anyones tinme or energy with my post. Although, I am feeling an increasing need to come up with analternative b/c DH is getting grumpy with all the body parts flailing, he gets the brunt of it (or I sleep through it better).
I see the No Cry Sleep Solution coming up repeatedly, but wasn't sure this was a method for toddlers or one that should have been employed from the time when she was a baby. What kinds of suggestions does it offer? Do you think it would be helpful for our situation?
Does anyone have anything to offer here?
PS. I am not insane yet, but hoping to improve our situation before this really begins to effect our family dynamics....or before this new routine forms a habit too hard to break.