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[birthjunkiemom]

I know I should be using these last few weeks to concentrate more on my husband and other 4 children, before I'm wrapped up in oxytocin/prolactin induced baby-love.  What I am wanting to do more than anything, though, is just go away.  I am tired of people asking me how I'm feeling, tired of my kids asking at every contraction if it's time to go to the hospital- or commenting every day about how THEY are getting impatient and just want the baby here (my 15 year old got an earful after saying that twice in one day!!!).  I have hit the point where I've just given up that this baby is going to come, and I don't even hit 38 weeks until Tuesday.  I've never gotten to this point this early.  Maybe it's because I had to have preterm contractions stopped twice and we thought this baby was coming early, or maybe because everyone has assumed, and I had hoped desperately, that the baby would come before I have to return to work on Monday. 

Whatever the reason, I just want to crawl into a hole so I can be pregnant forever by myself.  I'm already planning that when I do go back to work on Monday, I'm going to just eat lunch in my classroom, and not in the teacher's lounge, until either the baby comes, or my maternity leave starts on my due date.  I want to walk the halls in school as little as possible so I don't have to deal with people's comments about the baby not being here yet- and, frankly, just not have to deal with or talk to them at all.

[itsajenism]

I have withdrawn and actually put a status update on Facebook essentially
saying not to contact me and that everyone will know when there is something to know. That was after one person contacted me FOUR times that same day, despite the fact I kept saying nothing was happening and I'd let them know when it does. At home I turn the music up loud so it's easier to block everyone out. Ha.

I've never been pregnant this long (although I don't hit 40 weeks until Tuesday). When everyone is leaving me alone and not hounding me about where the baby is, I'm doing really well. The non-stop hounding was beginning to really stress me out so something had to be said before I lost my shit worse than I did. So far everyone seems to be respecting my request... or maybe they're afraid I'll get all hormonal on them again...lol.

[birthjunkiemom]

I've only gone off of my 15 year old, so far, but for the past couple of days I can't stop crying in private- begging the baby to get here, and begging God to make this be over!   I really just feel hopeless that this baby is ever coming.

[itsajenism]

Sorry you're having a rough time right now. I went through that between 37-38 weeks, too. Hopefully you can get some peace. *hug*

[2sweetgrrls]

I'm starting to get to this point too, which is incredibly frustrating because, up until the past few days, I felt completely fine with going overdue. But my sister, who was due two weeks after me, had her baby a few days ago and now everyone and their mother is repeatedly asking me when I'm having mine, if anything's going on, telling me, "just a few more days!" when it could be at least two more weeks (I'm due on Monday, the longest I've ever gone was 40w3d, but I really don't think this little guy is coming this week) and I've hit the point where I just want everyone to go away and shut up if they have anything to say, at all, about baby's arrival. I feel you.
 

[hotsauce]

Today was my due date.  Officially 40 weeks.  I'm not too uncomfortable, been sleeping lots and can finally eat/breathe again now that babe has dropped into my pelvis.  I have some fear of labor so I'm just trying to relax and stretch and prepare myself mentally while allowing my partner to do all the cooking and cleaning, since he's been home and off work for the past two weeks.  I do want to meet my baby, but I also know that he's in there getting smarter and healthier with each extra day in the womb, and it won't be much longer before life as I know it is forever different.  If anything, I'm dealing with anxiety about labor and delivery (we're doing a UCAC) and just ignoring the contractions I've been having for a few days now.  They get really intense with sex but always go away after I sleep.  I do relate, though, to wanting people to back off.  I actually told my mother on the phone last night that I'm sick of the pressure and that I'm giving baby time, no rush, and that all the people calling/texting/stopping by is driving me NUTS.  She said something about how baby will come when he's ready and not to feel pressured, but then this morning I see her Facebook status is 'Waiting, waiting, waiting.  I hate waiting!  Come on out into the world little man, it's time!'  I've been quietly seething all day.  I'm not going to say anything for fear of overreacting, but I do feel a bit disrespected.  Thanks for drawing more attention where I specifically asked you not to, Mom...

[organicviolin]

Oh I hear you. Hugs. I hope this passes soon as this is totally driving me nuts

[tiqa]

Yeah, just.... yeah.

[sapientia]

Yeah, completely want to withdraw. My due date was saturday and nothing seems imminent and I am tired of the phone calls and fb posts from people who never gave a rats ass or commented on my being pregnant for nine months....now they all are like 'well????' My grandmother is tormenting me (she is two states away) and it would be one thing if it was a kind concern but instead it is abject panic and yelling into the phone about 'am i alright' and 'don't bleed when you have the baby' and 'it should be here by now'. I broke down in hysterics last night. I guess I needed to.

So I am just keeping to myself for the most part.

[seaheroine]

Me too.  Luckily I don't have anyone ringing up my phone, mostly just random FB questions, but I just want to hide under the covers in bed.  My kids are overwhelming me, the mess is frustrating, my poor husband is stressed.  I just wish I could curl up in complete silence (ha!) and lie in bed til she decides to arrive.  It's funny, I keep remembering how it was waiting for my first to come, reading quietly in bed, eating hershey's kisses...the quiet.  This little house is bursting at the seams with noise!

I was really crampy all day yesterday, had contractions that started around 3:30 and lasted all night.  Nothing too painful except for the ever-present back pain, but still, she's getting ready!  Trying *not* to get my hopes up about an imminent arrival.  I decided I'd just expect to go to 41 weeks.  Unfortunately that would give this one and my youngest the same birthday!  We will see.  This waiting is driving me nuts!
 

[broodymama]

Yup, same here.  My family has a vague idea of my EDD this time, since my mom will be coming to help out with the other kids for afterwards.  Usually I fudge it by several weeks with them so I can gestate in peace (learned that after they bugged the crap outta me with #1).  Last night a family member texted me asking how I was feeling and for such a seemingly innocuous question boy did it get my blood pressure up!  

[Anilia]

Can I ask a dumb question?  What exactly does UC stand for?  I get the idea of unassisted but I just can't seem to work it out.  Can you help me broodymama?  Or anyone? :)

[Tbutton]

Anilia- unassisted childbirth!

[Anilia]

Thank you!!  It was the C that was throwing me.  I wanted it to be UB. :)  Glad it only took me 30 weeks to get over looking stupid to ask that :)

[Tbutton]

Anilia- that's too funny. I totally understand, I had to see it spelled out before I figured it out . Unassisted pregnancy (UP) really threw me for a while.