First let me say I am really excited about writing this thread! I am loving getting this chance to share this philosophy with others, I truly can not imagine living or parenting in any other way. So, before I start let me say thank you for listening, thank you all for being open minded enough to read and consider this, and please let me know of any or your questions or concerns.
This next part I will be borrowing a bit from the CL website, which I advise you go to as it can explain this better than I can, and I will post it at the end of the paragraph. Consensual Living means treating those in my family equally, respectfully, and making sure everyone's feelings and needs are heard and honored. It also means that when problems arise we all try to work together toward a solution that meets everyone's needs. Next I will list a few key precepts that are central to CL:
*Trust: It is very important to create a enviroment in your household where everybody feels like they're feelings and needs are valued, heard, and will be addressed. It is also very important to keep in mind that we are all doing the best we can to get our needs met with what tools we have in whatever given situation. Most of the time what we see as "bad behavior", "disrespect", "acting foolishly".... this is just our own perception of the situation and it really has nothing to do with the other party.
*Self - Determination: I believe it is important to give appropriate information so that we can make the best decision suitable for us.
Respectful communication is also very important in the CL household, personally I think CL and NVC go very nicely together. Respectful communication is that in which everyone's feelings and needs are heard, and valued, and it can be a extremely helpful tool in conflict resolution.