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Sweet things your DP has done for you this pregnancy!

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Hey ladies, as you all know, I have been wickedly sick for the last week and a half (flu, sinus infection, etc) and my DH has been taking such excellent care of me.   I have had super tender thoughts towards him the last few days!  

 

Today, alone, he let me sleep all morning and again all afternoon while he played with the kids, went to the store to buy me some more puffs plus tissues and other goodies, and then he came home and made tacos for dinner, applecrisp for dessert, and then I caught him reading "The Little Mermaid: Make Believe Bride" complete with character voices to our little dears before putting them to bed!  

 

He has always been fairly good at "domestic" responsibilities (housework/shopping/dinner/etc) but he has really stepped it up this week since I've been sick.  We've been married 6.5 years... he's still pretty awesome in my book.  :)

 

Anyone else want to brag about their partners?  

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I basically gush over DH 24/7-- it's sickening.  You'll be mad you asked.

 

Although I do feel we've earned our hard-won happiness after almost 18 years of ups and downs!

 

OOH, he's just doing what all partners should do (okay, maybe a little above and beyond).  So the feminist in me is like... what, I should give him a medal just because most men aren't as involved as he is?  To paraphrase Chris Rock, that's what you're supposed to do, you low-expectation-having m*therf***ers!  LOL...  But OTOH...  Most men aren't as involved, supportive, loving, excited, etc...  So I have to give him credit.  And I do.  A lot.

 

At night, I hear him watching pregnancy vlogs (really!) on his iPhone.  Sometimes I think he's looking at porn until I hear a baby cry after all the sex-moaning (homebirth videos).

 

He talks up homebirth all the time to his skeptical friends.  And cloth diapers.  And EC.

 

He never asks me if I "should" be eating something, or if I'm "allowed" to do X, Y or Z.

 

Buko is as top-of-mind for him as s/he is for me.  He wants to talk about Buko, text me about Buko, think about Buko, dream about Buko, feel Buko in my belly... pretty much every chance he gets.

 

He thinks I am the most beautiful human being alive and tells me so several times a day.

 

He proudly tells everyone that since I will be in charge of input (breastfeeding), he will be in charge of output (diapers and EC). 

 

He is not a big reader, but has already read his "assigned" homework-- a "new daddy" book, an infant massage book, an EC book... and he's reading the one parenting book I wanted to read before birth (Unconditional Parenting).

 

He happily does things like attend a movie about Ina May in a tiny rowhouse, drive an hour to the hippie baby store to try on carriers, practice with cloth diapers, etc., etc.

 

He actually cooks breakfast for me most mornings.  Crazypants.

 

He helps me get as comfortable as possible in bed and lets me sleep in as much as I want.

 

He doesn't care an iota about the flowers on the diaper bag I bought, he prefers wraps to soft structured carriers, and his masculinity isn't threatened one bit by any of it.

 

He has really stepped up taking care of his health (he has asthma and allergies) and working out so he won't be a typical "old dad" (his words-- he's almost 43).

 

He has come to every single prenatal appointment.

 

When the midwife asks if he wants to hear the heartbeat (it's with a fetoscope and neither of us is particularly excited to hear it for whatever reason-- nice, but just kind of anticlimactic), he just says, "No, I trust her."  (Meaning me.)  And it's not because he's uninterested in Buko-- quite the opposite. It really means...  he doesn't need to hear what sounds like a watch ticking under a pillow to know that Buko is moving and grooving all the time...  I know many people love hearing the heartbeat for diverse reasons, and we both 110% understand that, but it's kind of nice that anything "objectively observable"-- or anything a midwife or doctor can tell him-- carries less weight than what I tell him about my pregnancy or the baby.   

 

He just quit his job to come work my business with me and stay at home with Buko.  Okay, now THAT is above and beyond.

 

Um...  I could go on!  shy.gif

 

I really joy.gif  that guy.

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Aw, Buko! I was smiling the whole time I read your post. Your guy sounds awesome and little Buko is lucky to have such an involved, prepared, and loving daddy!
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Ladies, this is so sweet! I love hearing about how our DH's are spoiling us!

Ive been taking it easy ever since my heart issues etc in Nov. DH works full time then comes home to do all the dishes from the day, give DD her bath, read her a ton of books, and then put her to bed. Often, he comes out from putting her down and gives me a footrub. He will insist that I go take a bath or a nap when we're home, and makes sure I'm not doing more than I should. Ive always been very independent, even with him, so this is a huge shift for us. Now that I'm getting past the guilt etc around not being able to do much right now, its really wonderful how much he is willing to take on. Of course its temporary, but hes always been pretty hands on with parenting DD and doing things around the house since our first was born. And he is totally pro- natural birth, CDing, breastfeeding, etc!
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Originally Posted by Chapsie View Post

Aw, Buko! I was smiling the whole time I read your post. Your guy sounds awesome and little Buko is lucky to have such an involved, prepared, and loving daddy!

 

So it didn't make you want to puke?  biglaugh.gif

 

I'm still pinching myself...  It's not like it's a total surprise that he'd be this way...  but like I said, there have been 18 years of hard work on our relationship to get it to this point!

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