MIL was visiting for a LONG time over the holidays (almost 6 weeks...ugh) and there are a couple of things I find myself trying to UNDO now that she is gone.
DS (2.5) has "autistic tendencies" or HFA and mild SPD- he is pretty clumsy and physically a bit behind other kids his age when it comes to both fine and gross motor skills. Just recently he had made big strides with climbing on playground structures, going down slides, and going on the big-boy swings instead of the baby swings and we were all really happy and excited about it.
When MIL was here she loved taking him to the park and it gave us a nice break so she did it very often. We are discovering, now that she's gone, that she was telling him "hold on, or you're gonna fall" and "be careful, you'll fall" etc. ALL THE TIME. Now it's become part of his playground script and he is way more apprehensive, even scared sometimes while playing and he is refusing to attempt things that he had proudly mastered just a short while ago. I'm so pissed off about this, I can't even begin to express it.
So... I'm not sure how to approach this. Saying "you're not going to fall" seems to set off the whole script thing even more- he repeats and repeats, getting more freaked out. I've also tried really making him follow through and finish climbing up whatever he is climbing when he is doing this- and he is really, really happy when he gets to the top, but freaks out and is very upset while I'm pushing/holding him up. So I'm not sure if that's what I should do either.
When we go to the playground he just wanders around now and doesn't want to attempt anything anymore without lots of cajoling. It breaks my heart because he was so proud of himself and had lots of fun before.
What do I do to get us back to where we were before MIL came and f*ed everything up???